Dating again when you aren't all that...
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Robbo 27 said:
Veeayt said:
I became single after 17 years, and decided I'd rather not again. There are other things in life than women. I take an occasional opportunity, but knowing what I've been through, and what exactly I'm capable of giving to the other person, I just stay away. That's perhaps also worth considering, OP
Probably the best advice you will hear.Be yourself, enjoy doing whatever you want, whenever you want, however you want. It really is quite invigorating after any lengthy relationship. You can take everything at your own pace, there really is no need to get back into a new relationship at the moment, or ever if you don't really want to.
hondafanatic said:
Get a dog. Only thing in life that’s genuinely happy to see you every time you walk through the front door. Cheers you up even when in the darkest of moods. Also gets you out and about, exercise, chat to other dog owners and could join some puppy training classes/agility classes to help meet people.
You try walking a Labrador puppy through town without being stopped by some pretty ladies
As others have said, learn to love yourself and someone will come along and do the same.
This! Dogs are awesome :-)You try walking a Labrador puppy through town without being stopped by some pretty ladies
As others have said, learn to love yourself and someone will come along and do the same.
Good luck OP
you'll be fine. Don't fret it.
What? Guy wants company.
Dogs are fantastic company. Both of mine are significantly happier to see me than my Mrs when i come home. Neither of them nag me. Although I do have to pick up their st.
Make of that what you will!
Also my best mate who has been single for ages had a litter of puppies. Adorable. He used it as an excuse make an invite to a girl he'd just started dating.
Guess what he had a girl round to see them and sealed the deal.
Dogs are fantastic company. Both of mine are significantly happier to see me than my Mrs when i come home. Neither of them nag me. Although I do have to pick up their st.
Make of that what you will!
Also my best mate who has been single for ages had a litter of puppies. Adorable. He used it as an excuse make an invite to a girl he'd just started dating.
Guess what he had a girl round to see them and sealed the deal.
eskidavies said:
Ignore what I said earlier I’d had a few ,come back to earth now ,as said get a dog ,my wife is in bed she’s working tomorrow ,me and my mate are watching under seige2 well I am my butty is flat out
There's loving an animal, and there's loving an animal.What are you doing to that dog?
funkyrobot said:
eskidavies said:
Ignore what I said earlier I’d had a few ,come back to earth now ,as said get a dog ,my wife is in bed she’s working tomorrow ,me and my mate are watching under seige2 well I am my butty is flat out
There's loving an animal, and there's loving an animal.What are you doing to that dog?
languagetimothy said:
Took me a sec to realise that pic was the wrong way round. Thought on the right was your arm and the other bit was some horrible man boobs!
And me OP I echo other peoples comments, take the time now you're single to focus on you. What are the things you would have liked to do but couldn't while married, what are your interests, get out more with your mates.
It's what I did when I separated last year, and a number of my friends have said they haven't seen me happier in years.
I've since started dating again and you go into it with a far more positive mindset knowing that you don't NEED to find somebody to be happy, you already are. Therefore there is less pressure and you keep your standards where they should be rather than becoming desperate, which is not appealing.
Honestly dating apps would be soul destroying if your self esteem is at a low point.
Think about all the things you'd like to do now you have the time to create a fulfilling single life. Once you're happy and confident you'll probably find that meeting somebody new happens naturally. Women like a happy confident man who clearly enjoys life.
Plus you need to be in a good place already for the emotional ups and downs that will come with dating again.
It sounds like you have plenty of positives going for you, focus on those and the things you can improve on like health and fitness, rather than the one thing you can't which won't matter to the right woman.
TwigtheWonderkid said:
If you're doing on line dating and you're no oil painting, go with humour.
"Ugly, short, balding, tubby bloke the wrong side of 40, who values honesty above all else, seeks short sighted woman with low expectations."
What harm can it do?
The "harm" it will do is send his already low self-esteem further into the gutter when he gets no replies at all, or if he does they'll be from desperate swamp monsters that will shag anything with a pulse."Ugly, short, balding, tubby bloke the wrong side of 40, who values honesty above all else, seeks short sighted woman with low expectations."
What harm can it do?
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