Dating again when you aren't all that...

Dating again when you aren't all that...

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Wacky Racer

38,099 posts

246 months

Sunday 25th August 2019
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Eric Mc said:
N111BJG said:
I wouldn’t worry too much, as women get more mature they realise looks aren’t everything.
I'm banking on that - plus my astonishing personality and fantastic sense of humour.
Just impress 'em with your post count on PH, you'll be fighting them off.....biggrin

MitchT

15,788 posts

208 months

Sunday 25th August 2019
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Focus on getting yourself into a place where you're happy in your own skin and content with your life, without a woman in it. Once you reach a profound state of woman-free utopia you can pretty much guarantee that one will arrive and fk it up.

Hoofy

76,253 posts

281 months

Sunday 25th August 2019
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MitchT said:
Focus on getting yourself into a place where you're happy in your own skin and content with your life, without a woman in it. Once you reach a profound state of woman-free utopia you can pretty much guarantee that one will arrive and fk it up.
biglaugh

Robertj21a

16,475 posts

104 months

Sunday 25th August 2019
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Robbo 27 said:
Veeayt said:
I became single after 17 years, and decided I'd rather not again. There are other things in life than women. I take an occasional opportunity, but knowing what I've been through, and what exactly I'm capable of giving to the other person, I just stay away. That's perhaps also worth considering, OP smile
Probably the best advice you will hear.
+1

Be yourself, enjoy doing whatever you want, whenever you want, however you want. It really is quite invigorating after any lengthy relationship. You can take everything at your own pace, there really is no need to get back into a new relationship at the moment, or ever if you don't really want to.

grumbledoak

31,499 posts

232 months

Sunday 25th August 2019
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MitchT said:
Focus on getting yourself into a place where you're happy in your own skin and content with your life, without a woman in it. Once you reach a profound state of woman-free utopia you can pretty much guarantee that one will arrive and fk it up.
rofl

hyphen

26,262 posts

89 months

Sunday 25th August 2019
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Hoofy said:
MitchT said:
Focus on getting yourself into a place where you're happy in your own skin and content with your life, without a woman in it. Once you reach a profound state of woman-free utopia you can pretty much guarantee that one will arrive and fk it up.
biglaugh
yes

eskidavies

5,341 posts

158 months

Sunday 25th August 2019
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Next women to give you attention,just stand back don’t get too involved,you know on the rebound and all that ,just bang her move on ,give em hell now your free ,,,I’m am married btw pinch of salt what I say ,and when you bang em don’t take nothing from it

xjay1337

15,966 posts

117 months

Sunday 25th August 2019
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hondafanatic said:
Get a dog. Only thing in life that’s genuinely happy to see you every time you walk through the front door. Cheers you up even when in the darkest of moods. Also gets you out and about, exercise, chat to other dog owners and could join some puppy training classes/agility classes to help meet people.

You try walking a Labrador puppy through town without being stopped by some pretty ladies hehe

As others have said, learn to love yourself and someone will come along and do the same.
This! Dogs are awesome :-)

Good luck OP
you'll be fine. Don't fret it.

Cantaloupe

1,056 posts

59 months

Sunday 25th August 2019
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xjay1337 said:
This! Dogs are awesome :-)

Good luck OP
you'll be fine. Don't fret it.
I didn't dream it, a second recommendation for buying a dog for company.

The guy is a bit down, he's not pathetic.

Get a dog ? Christ almighty.

xjay1337

15,966 posts

117 months

Sunday 25th August 2019
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What? Guy wants company.
Dogs are fantastic company. Both of mine are significantly happier to see me than my Mrs when i come home. Neither of them nag me. Although I do have to pick up their st.

Make of that what you will!

Also my best mate who has been single for ages had a litter of puppies. Adorable. He used it as an excuse make an invite to a girl he'd just started dating.

Guess what he had a girl round to see them and sealed the deal.

eskidavies

5,341 posts

158 months

Monday 26th August 2019
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Ignore what I said earlier I’d had a few ,come back to earth now ,as said get a dog ,my wife is in bed she’s working tomorrow ,me and my mate are watching under seige2 well I am my butty is flat out



funkyrobot

18,789 posts

227 months

Monday 26th August 2019
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eskidavies said:
Ignore what I said earlier I’d had a few ,come back to earth now ,as said get a dog ,my wife is in bed she’s working tomorrow ,me and my mate are watching under seige2 well I am my butty is flat out


There's loving an animal, and there's loving an animal.

What are you doing to that dog?

eskidavies

5,341 posts

158 months

Monday 26th August 2019
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I’ve got long legs I haven’t farted in dog honestly my arse is up a bit hehebollux that photo is so full of wrong getmecoat

Edited by eskidavies on Monday 26th August 00:40

languagetimothy

1,075 posts

161 months

Monday 26th August 2019
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funkyrobot said:
eskidavies said:
Ignore what I said earlier I’d had a few ,come back to earth now ,as said get a dog ,my wife is in bed she’s working tomorrow ,me and my mate are watching under seige2 well I am my butty is flat out


There's loving an animal, and there's loving an animal.

What are you doing to that dog?
Took me a sec to realise that pic was the wrong way round. Thought on the right was your arm and the other bit was some horrible man boobs!


antspants

2,401 posts

174 months

Monday 26th August 2019
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languagetimothy said:
Took me a sec to realise that pic was the wrong way round. Thought on the right was your arm and the other bit was some horrible man boobs!
And me laugh

OP I echo other peoples comments, take the time now you're single to focus on you. What are the things you would have liked to do but couldn't while married, what are your interests, get out more with your mates.
It's what I did when I separated last year, and a number of my friends have said they haven't seen me happier in years.
I've since started dating again and you go into it with a far more positive mindset knowing that you don't NEED to find somebody to be happy, you already are. Therefore there is less pressure and you keep your standards where they should be rather than becoming desperate, which is not appealing.
Honestly dating apps would be soul destroying if your self esteem is at a low point.
Think about all the things you'd like to do now you have the time to create a fulfilling single life. Once you're happy and confident you'll probably find that meeting somebody new happens naturally. Women like a happy confident man who clearly enjoys life.
Plus you need to be in a good place already for the emotional ups and downs that will come with dating again.
It sounds like you have plenty of positives going for you, focus on those and the things you can improve on like health and fitness, rather than the one thing you can't which won't matter to the right woman.

Greenmantle

1,256 posts

107 months

Monday 26th August 2019
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Have a read or listen to “The Dating Playbook for Men” by Andrew Ferebee. Ok it’s American but the main thing that he talks about is be happy with yourself first which is just like what the majority of the posts have been saying.

TwigtheWonderkid

43,248 posts

149 months

Monday 26th August 2019
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If you're doing on line dating and you're no oil painting, go with humour.

"Ugly, short, balding, tubby bloke the wrong side of 40, who values honesty above all else, seeks short sighted woman with low expectations."

What harm can it do?

Lemming Train

5,567 posts

71 months

Monday 26th August 2019
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TwigtheWonderkid said:
If you're doing on line dating and you're no oil painting, go with humour.

"Ugly, short, balding, tubby bloke the wrong side of 40, who values honesty above all else, seeks short sighted woman with low expectations."

What harm can it do?
The "harm" it will do is send his already low self-esteem further into the gutter when he gets no replies at all, or if he does they'll be from desperate swamp monsters that will shag anything with a pulse.

TwigtheWonderkid

43,248 posts

149 months

Tuesday 27th August 2019
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Lemming Train said:
desperate swamp monsters that will shag anything with a pulse.
With respect, I think that's the OP's target market. It's certainly mine.

Electronicpants

2,623 posts

187 months

Tuesday 27th August 2019
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Pretend your a wealthy individual



Works a charm.