How has your decade been?
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Lost a wife, lost my Dad, lost the dog, almost lost my daughter when she crashed her car, gave the house up.
It's been a bit s
t really.
But my daughter is recovering well and is back on her feet (although with some minor issues). It's been fun - if quite hard work - helping her renovate her flat and learning more about her decorative tastes.
My godchildren are growing up into absolutely lovely teenagers and I get to attend a couple of dance or drama performances every few months which are very entertaining.
I'm travelling more and have no problem justifying the expense of spoiling myself.
So it's not as bad as it could be and not as bad as it was.
It's been a bit s
t really. But my daughter is recovering well and is back on her feet (although with some minor issues). It's been fun - if quite hard work - helping her renovate her flat and learning more about her decorative tastes.
My godchildren are growing up into absolutely lovely teenagers and I get to attend a couple of dance or drama performances every few months which are very entertaining.
I'm travelling more and have no problem justifying the expense of spoiling myself.
So it's not as bad as it could be and not as bad as it was.
Good thread.
PH things:
- Built the kit car I'd dreamed of building since I was a teenager and got into track days.
- Ressurected dad's old MGB and drove it around for a few years, including tours of Scotland and wales, until it died completely, then tore it down and started on a full restoration which I'm now getting towards the end of.
- 3 different daily drivers (Colt CZT, Alfa Guilietta, Fiesta ST)
Non-PH things:
- Largely conquered a fairly bad fear of heights. A big part of this has been learning to paraglide. Highights so far being flying cross-country in the alps and doing stall and collapse training 4000' over the sea in turkey.
- Moved from a long-term job in a large company to a start up with 4 people in, which has gone ok so far.
- Bought & restored a lathe & learned to use it.
- Learned to weld.
- built a forge and started blacksmithing.
- like bucksmanuk above, old injuries keep resurfacing, and new ones are taking longer to heal.
PH things:
- Built the kit car I'd dreamed of building since I was a teenager and got into track days.
- Ressurected dad's old MGB and drove it around for a few years, including tours of Scotland and wales, until it died completely, then tore it down and started on a full restoration which I'm now getting towards the end of.
- 3 different daily drivers (Colt CZT, Alfa Guilietta, Fiesta ST)
Non-PH things:
- Largely conquered a fairly bad fear of heights. A big part of this has been learning to paraglide. Highights so far being flying cross-country in the alps and doing stall and collapse training 4000' over the sea in turkey.
- Moved from a long-term job in a large company to a start up with 4 people in, which has gone ok so far.
- Bought & restored a lathe & learned to use it.
- Learned to weld.
- built a forge and started blacksmithing.
- like bucksmanuk above, old injuries keep resurfacing, and new ones are taking longer to heal.
Going into 2010 I was 26, had just rented out my house and moved in with a new girlfriend, I was doing IT stuff working for Egg (the credit card company)
My Son was in junior school so got to see him do senior school and now finish college, this made me feel very old
between then and now I got engaged, and then split up, been with my current girlfriend for 6 years
I carried on training and competed in MMA, won a few amateur titles in 2014/2015, I still train and compete in grappling today but am too old to be any good at MMA now so have quit competing in that, I found this quite difficult as it was such a massive part of my life for so long
In 2010 I had Boxster (986 S) and in 2013 bought my dream car, a Maserati gransport which i owned for about 5 years and absolutely loved
work has gone pretty well and whilst I still do IT, I now do it in an industry I love (automotive)
Still in the same house but now extended and with a small mortgage
That's about it really, if I had been offered me this outcome 10 years ago I'd have snapped their hand off
My Son was in junior school so got to see him do senior school and now finish college, this made me feel very old
between then and now I got engaged, and then split up, been with my current girlfriend for 6 years
I carried on training and competed in MMA, won a few amateur titles in 2014/2015, I still train and compete in grappling today but am too old to be any good at MMA now so have quit competing in that, I found this quite difficult as it was such a massive part of my life for so long
In 2010 I had Boxster (986 S) and in 2013 bought my dream car, a Maserati gransport which i owned for about 5 years and absolutely loved
work has gone pretty well and whilst I still do IT, I now do it in an industry I love (automotive)
Still in the same house but now extended and with a small mortgage
That's about it really, if I had been offered me this outcome 10 years ago I'd have snapped their hand off
Started the decade in an Avensis. Upgraded to a 320d in 2010 and a 440i in 2016, moved to a LR D5 in 2019.
Started the decade single, met my wife in 2010, got together 2012, married 2015. Sold my house in 2014, moved to hers, bought our family home in 2016.
2017 we lost my father in law just three months before our first daughter arrived. 2019 took redundancy and started a fantastic new job, but also lost our second daughter at full term.
Most years have had a big event of some sort in them.
Started the decade single, met my wife in 2010, got together 2012, married 2015. Sold my house in 2014, moved to hers, bought our family home in 2016.
2017 we lost my father in law just three months before our first daughter arrived. 2019 took redundancy and started a fantastic new job, but also lost our second daughter at full term.
Most years have had a big event of some sort in them.
I married in 2010, spend a few more selfish years and then had kids in 2014 & 2016. Eldest has just started school, youngest next year, they’re both awesome.
I learned to love my job after a total change in 2009 and worked my way up the ladder. In 2017 an opportunity arose in a similar field to set up a company with a close friend. We’ve been expanding since then, I’m far more comfortable then I’d ever been and pick and choose when/if I want to work.
Health wise I had my Colon removed a couple of months ago after 11 years of Colitis leading to a Cancer scare, so I’m living with an ileostomy (stoma) but have zero risk of Colitis or Colon cancer now!
We moved house in 2017 to a complete restoration project and spend 6 months in a rental to get most of it done, we’ve been in for 2 years now and I still have skirting and painting to do
My main focus over the next year is my relationship with my wife. Whilst we’re okay, we’re basically just co-parenting, it’d be great to spend more time as a couple again once the kids allow!
The ten year goal is to clear the mortgage and buy ridiculous cars.
The bigger question is what’s the future for PH!? I’ve seen a number of forums go as FB etc take over. Will we all be here for a 20’s review?
I learned to love my job after a total change in 2009 and worked my way up the ladder. In 2017 an opportunity arose in a similar field to set up a company with a close friend. We’ve been expanding since then, I’m far more comfortable then I’d ever been and pick and choose when/if I want to work.
Health wise I had my Colon removed a couple of months ago after 11 years of Colitis leading to a Cancer scare, so I’m living with an ileostomy (stoma) but have zero risk of Colitis or Colon cancer now!
We moved house in 2017 to a complete restoration project and spend 6 months in a rental to get most of it done, we’ve been in for 2 years now and I still have skirting and painting to do
My main focus over the next year is my relationship with my wife. Whilst we’re okay, we’re basically just co-parenting, it’d be great to spend more time as a couple again once the kids allow!
The ten year goal is to clear the mortgage and buy ridiculous cars.
The bigger question is what’s the future for PH!? I’ve seen a number of forums go as FB etc take over. Will we all be here for a 20’s review?
It's been a rollercoaster!
2010 I was in upper 6th form, after that I went to uni and had a fantastic 3 years. Met a girl, moved in, had a crap job, started a business with her, had to get another crap job, business didn't work, no longer with her.
Met another fantastic girl at work, got another job in engineering, my field of qualification. Boss was a tt so enrolled in a Masers in Building Surveying. Left engineering and now studying for my APC to get chartered.
Moved in with the girl from work and got a puppy! couldn't be happier now, aside from I'm on a trainee wage at 28 so much less than all my contemporaries and money is tight for me.
Anyway, this is PH so....
Started with my trusty Rover 200,
2011 bought an Allegro Vanden Plas which I kept for a year
2014 bought a TVR Tuscan which I had to sell to start the business (bad shout that one!)
2015 given my grandmother's E30 318i convertible. It's ace and needs a bit of light cosmetic work
2016 scrapped my trusty Rover 200 due to no funds to get it through it's MOT (only needed about £200 I was very sad about that)
2016 My sister gave me her Rover 25 (nicer interior but the engine in my original Rover was a peach!)
2017 Rover 75 also for free. Sadly I flooded that because I forgot to unblock the drain holes.
2018 Bought my Citroen DS4 with the 200hp lump in it.
2010 I was in upper 6th form, after that I went to uni and had a fantastic 3 years. Met a girl, moved in, had a crap job, started a business with her, had to get another crap job, business didn't work, no longer with her.
Met another fantastic girl at work, got another job in engineering, my field of qualification. Boss was a t
t so enrolled in a Masers in Building Surveying. Left engineering and now studying for my APC to get chartered.Moved in with the girl from work and got a puppy! couldn't be happier now, aside from I'm on a trainee wage at 28 so much less than all my contemporaries and money is tight for me.
Anyway, this is PH so....
Started with my trusty Rover 200,
2011 bought an Allegro Vanden Plas which I kept for a year
2014 bought a TVR Tuscan which I had to sell to start the business (bad shout that one!)
2015 given my grandmother's E30 318i convertible. It's ace and needs a bit of light cosmetic work
2016 scrapped my trusty Rover 200 due to no funds to get it through it's MOT (only needed about £200 I was very sad about that)
2016 My sister gave me her Rover 25 (nicer interior but the engine in my original Rover was a peach!)
2017 Rover 75 also for free. Sadly I flooded that because I forgot to unblock the drain holes.
2018 Bought my Citroen DS4 with the 200hp lump in it.
I think it's been a great decade overall
2010 - I turned 25, was still living at home, single, saving what I could. I stopped seeing a few friends as regularly as I used to as I had slowly started realising they just weren't my kind of people at the time, and started spending more time with other friends from a different part of my life, that seemed to work somewhat better
Bought my first house (with a mate) in 201,. Had some excellent holidays, road trips, some cool cars, some not very cool cars, a few brief encounters with girls that I wished at the time had turned into more, but realise now were good not to have done. Met my now wife, sold my house with my mate and bought a house with her, adopted a couple of cats, lost one of the cats, but also of course have my beautiful daughter.
Oh and I properly joined PH this decade after I think some lurking back in the late 00s (around the time of the Plato incident, whenever that was) so that's sort of wasted most of the last 4 years.
Got a couple of reasonable promotions.
Where do I want to be in 2030... well I'll be turning 45 and I'll have a nearly teenager, plus any other kids that might come along. I really want to have built my own house by then and have enough land around it that justifies a ride on lawnmower. So I'll be looking to do what I can to make that happen.
2010 - I turned 25, was still living at home, single, saving what I could. I stopped seeing a few friends as regularly as I used to as I had slowly started realising they just weren't my kind of people at the time, and started spending more time with other friends from a different part of my life, that seemed to work somewhat better
Bought my first house (with a mate) in 201,. Had some excellent holidays, road trips, some cool cars, some not very cool cars, a few brief encounters with girls that I wished at the time had turned into more, but realise now were good not to have done. Met my now wife, sold my house with my mate and bought a house with her, adopted a couple of cats, lost one of the cats, but also of course have my beautiful daughter.
Oh and I properly joined PH this decade after I think some lurking back in the late 00s (around the time of the Plato incident, whenever that was) so that's sort of wasted most of the last 4 years.
Got a couple of reasonable promotions.
Where do I want to be in 2030... well I'll be turning 45 and I'll have a nearly teenager, plus any other kids that might come along. I really want to have built my own house by then and have enough land around it that justifies a ride on lawnmower. So I'll be looking to do what I can to make that happen.
BRR said:
I carried on training and competed in MMA, won a few amateur titles in 2014/2015, I still train and compete in grappling today but am too old to be any good at MMA now so have quit competing in that, I found this quite difficult as it was such a massive part of my life for so long
Happens surprisingly quickly and out of the blue that, doesn't it 
2010 I Turned 30... Had my first child (Very scary birth)... Lost one of my grandparents.
Left a job I liked to an unknown job in an industry I wasn't sure about had any longevity - Now the sales manager there (Porsche Specialist) and leaving this week to change roles and do something different with a different company.
Got Married
Had another Child.
Got another Kitten.
Lost my other grandparents.
Went to New York.
Took the kids abroad - lots.
Bought the Watch I always wanted (Still wear it every day).
Watched the kids grow up.
Built the extension we wanted to the home.
Got a Puppy .
Been through various cars, and thanks to my current job loads of Motorbikes too, driven all sorts of dream cars (and not just round the block - lived with them in some cases) been generally very lucky. It's had it's downsides too, but i'm not going to dwell on those.
Onward and upwards to my 40th year, and new adventures.
Left a job I liked to an unknown job in an industry I wasn't sure about had any longevity - Now the sales manager there (Porsche Specialist) and leaving this week to change roles and do something different with a different company.
Got Married
Had another Child.
Got another Kitten.
Lost my other grandparents.
Went to New York.
Took the kids abroad - lots.
Bought the Watch I always wanted (Still wear it every day).
Watched the kids grow up.
Built the extension we wanted to the home.
Got a Puppy .
Been through various cars, and thanks to my current job loads of Motorbikes too, driven all sorts of dream cars (and not just round the block - lived with them in some cases) been generally very lucky. It's had it's downsides too, but i'm not going to dwell on those.
Onward and upwards to my 40th year, and new adventures.
thebraketester said:
2019 can fk right off....
This times a billion.k right off.... The wife and I lost three parents betwen us since 2010,but otherwise, it was a so-so decade. This year, though, has been unremittingly s
t. I don't believe in a Higher Power, but I reckon somebody up there decided it would be fun to spend a whole year repeatedly kicking me in the b
ks.I have a PMA, and kept telling the wife we should look for the small positives, but we both gave that up sometime over the summer.
Genuinely, the best thing I can recall that happened to us this year is when we were in an Indian restaurant, they forgot to charge us for two drinks, so I pointed it out, and he gave us them for free, and knocked another tenner off the bill.
That really is as good as it has got.
CrutyRammers said:
Happens surprisingly quickly and out of the blue that, doesn't it
It was almost scary, at 30 I was at my peak, by 34 I was done. I guess it shouldn't come as a surprise when you look at other sports and the retirement ages but I still found it quite a strange transitionGot ultra fit.
Traveled an insane amount
Drank too much
Partied too much
Bought a flat
Got married to a lovely lady
Sold my VX 220
Moved to the USA
Went sailing a lot
Bought another flat
Got a Porsche
Started PPL.
Best man at four weddings
Lost my adored elderly rescue pup (and probably accounts for why I am now grey) got another adorable elderly rescue (which will probably finish me off when she passes).
Took over the operations of the company I worked for.
Very nearly lost my brother to heart issues. Twice.
Got a Jag.
Ate at some of the finest restaurants in the world.
Got fat
Traveled an insane amount
Drank too much
Partied too much
Bought a flat
Got married to a lovely lady
Sold my VX 220
Moved to the USA
Went sailing a lot
Bought another flat
Got a Porsche
Started PPL.
Best man at four weddings
Lost my adored elderly rescue pup (and probably accounts for why I am now grey) got another adorable elderly rescue (which will probably finish me off when she passes).
Took over the operations of the company I worked for.
Very nearly lost my brother to heart issues. Twice.
Got a Jag.
Ate at some of the finest restaurants in the world.
Got fat
Began the decade by leaving the military after 24 years.
I’m still adjusting. Accepting (or rather tolerating) the woeful lack of any kind of standards in the world of civilian employment has been interesting and I’ve moved on from a couple of jobs simply because the people I worked with were lazy, cowardly, morally deficient liars.
Now I crew ambulances in Central London and although there are still questionable attitudes and approaches from peers and managers, it’s a brilliant way to fill the day and a fitting sequel to the Forces.
Got my bike license in 2011 too.
Got punted off in 2017 (their fault). Three months until I was able to return to work, and I still feel some of the lingering injury today. That’s been the only major health issue.
Also gone from being a single bloke who’d think nothing of finishing work on a Friday lunch time, chucking a bag in the Seven, blatting down to Dover, late ferry, followed by a week in the Alps making it up as I went along, Top Gear style.....to a married-with-child bloke for whom even a night out requires several months of planning and extensive grand-parental support.
Four year olds are awesome though! Most recent success was riding a bike without stabilisers.
Probably the biggest kick-in-the-nads of the last ten years was a good friend dying in the Clutha Vaults helicopter crash. By definition, totally unexpected and made worse by being public property for the following couple of weeks. Still miss chatting to him about stuff. (You silly sod Dave)
Can’t say being at the Grenfell fire is something high on my list of Things To Do Again either.
Onward......
I’m still adjusting. Accepting (or rather tolerating) the woeful lack of any kind of standards in the world of civilian employment has been interesting and I’ve moved on from a couple of jobs simply because the people I worked with were lazy, cowardly, morally deficient liars.
Now I crew ambulances in Central London and although there are still questionable attitudes and approaches from peers and managers, it’s a brilliant way to fill the day and a fitting sequel to the Forces.
Got my bike license in 2011 too.
Got punted off in 2017 (their fault). Three months until I was able to return to work, and I still feel some of the lingering injury today. That’s been the only major health issue.
Also gone from being a single bloke who’d think nothing of finishing work on a Friday lunch time, chucking a bag in the Seven, blatting down to Dover, late ferry, followed by a week in the Alps making it up as I went along, Top Gear style.....to a married-with-child bloke for whom even a night out requires several months of planning and extensive grand-parental support.
Four year olds are awesome though! Most recent success was riding a bike without stabilisers.
Probably the biggest kick-in-the-nads of the last ten years was a good friend dying in the Clutha Vaults helicopter crash. By definition, totally unexpected and made worse by being public property for the following couple of weeks. Still miss chatting to him about stuff. (You silly sod Dave)
Can’t say being at the Grenfell fire is something high on my list of Things To Do Again either.
Onward......
Edited by anonymous-user on Tuesday 26th November 10:59
Doofus said:
thebraketester said:
2019 can fk right off....
This times a billion.k right off.... The wife and I lost three parents betwen us since 2010,but otherwise, it was a so-so decade. This year, though, has been unremittingly s
t. I don't believe in a Higher Power, but I reckon somebody up there decided it would be fun to spend a whole year repeatedly kicking me in the b
ks.I have a PMA, and kept telling the wife we should look for the small positives, but we both gave that up sometime over the summer.
Genuinely, the best thing I can recall that happened to us this year is when we were in an Indian restaurant, they forgot to charge us for two drinks, so I pointed it out, and he gave us them for free, and knocked another tenner off the bill.
That really is as good as it has got.
t things can and will happen. Spoiler alert: you're going to die!The good things rarely happen on their own so I push myself to get out there and find good things, small and big.
Such is life.
Try practising gratitude for even the smallest thing. You're able to read this post on a functioning device! Success!
At this point in 2010 I was 20, had just returned home after living away at university (Reading). I had intended to stay in and do a masters but at the time mum was mid-treatment for a pretty aggressive form of breast cancer. As such I'd accepted a job from the CEO of my employer (a large golf driving range on the A3) and had been sent to get a new leisure business, based at Bluewater, up and running as a site manager. I was single, at the gym every day and practically tee-total after abusing my liver at uni. I had a 1.7cdti Astra sporthatch, then 3.5 years old (bought at 6m old), but had clocked up near 100k - it was on its last legs with injector issues alongside a backlog of required consumables
Today I'm 30, living 5 miles away from the family in South London and have been married for 2 months. I drive a Lotus Exige for fun, a M135i for practicality and commute on a sheddy Honda CB600F motorbike.
I’ve had 5 jobs, 5 homes (all around the same area), 7 cars and 3 motorbikes since 2010.
Highlights:
- Mum beating cancer in mid-2011
- The above allowed me to move away from leisure/operations and into real estate/banking in the city in late 2011 from which I'm starting to build a meaningful career.
- I met my (now) wife in January 2011 at a mutual friends birthday party. We've been together since and got married in September
- We've seen some amazing places - far too many to list - Japan, South Africa, road trip to Croatia, Italy, Greece, Thailand, Hong Kong, New York etc...
Lets see what the next decade brings!
Today I'm 30, living 5 miles away from the family in South London and have been married for 2 months. I drive a Lotus Exige for fun, a M135i for practicality and commute on a sheddy Honda CB600F motorbike.
I’ve had 5 jobs, 5 homes (all around the same area), 7 cars and 3 motorbikes since 2010.
Highlights:
- Mum beating cancer in mid-2011
- The above allowed me to move away from leisure/operations and into real estate/banking in the city in late 2011 from which I'm starting to build a meaningful career.
- I met my (now) wife in January 2011 at a mutual friends birthday party. We've been together since and got married in September
- We've seen some amazing places - far too many to list - Japan, South Africa, road trip to Croatia, Italy, Greece, Thailand, Hong Kong, New York etc...
Lets see what the next decade brings!
Eventful!
2010 had an extension built
2011 wife had affair with builder
2012 arrested for fight with builder in my house (I wouldn't leave my house I still shared with ex so police arrested ME to calm the situation!). RWC.
2013 Dad died in my arms
2013 Met current Mrs Fastchas on POF
2015 My office was disbanded, put on surplus list (HMPS)
2016 started new role in HMPS
2017 agreed to buy a house with Mrs Fastchas (we'd been living in our own homes all this time)
2018 Moved into current property
2019 Just had someone 'mapped' into the band above me from G4S as she was on surplus list. No interview needed and she was kinda forced into the role. I'm fairly pissed off as I've been 'acting up' somewhat for self-development and waiting for an interview for promotion.
2010 had an extension built
2011 wife had affair with builder
2012 arrested for fight with builder in my house (I wouldn't leave my house I still shared with ex so police arrested ME to calm the situation!). RWC.
2013 Dad died in my arms
2013 Met current Mrs Fastchas on POF
2015 My office was disbanded, put on surplus list (HMPS)
2016 started new role in HMPS
2017 agreed to buy a house with Mrs Fastchas (we'd been living in our own homes all this time)
2018 Moved into current property
2019 Just had someone 'mapped' into the band above me from G4S as she was on surplus list. No interview needed and she was kinda forced into the role. I'm fairly pissed off as I've been 'acting up' somewhat for self-development and waiting for an interview for promotion.
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