My Wife is annoyed at me because...

My Wife is annoyed at me because...

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320d is all you need

2,114 posts

42 months

Friday 23rd October 2020
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Adenauer said:
s2kjock said:
Needing some new bedsheets for the spare room, and needing some other stuff from Amazon I mention to the OH that I am going to order them from there too.

OH "We should be supporting a local supplier/store and not a nasty corporate etc etc"

Me: "Ok fair enough - when are we going to cancel that subscription to Prime you got just to watch Outlander?"

OH "That's different"
Well it is, isn't it? confused
Why doesn't she support local actors by watching local productions smile

Pothole

34,367 posts

281 months

Friday 23rd October 2020
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CanAm said:
Pothole said:
OK. Came across as standard misogyny. This whole thread and Classics from the Mrs is just chock full of apparently dysfunctional relationships. I c an't imagine why most posters are still married/cohabiting.
I think it could just as easily be "My O/H is mad at me...." and "Classic from the O/H" (or even kids!) and it would work just as well.
That could cover all genders and relationships equally unfairly. biggrin
Two separate points, but well done.

ThunderSpook

3,571 posts

210 months

Saturday 24th October 2020
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Pothole said:
OK. Came across as standard misogyny. This whole thread and Classics from the Mrs is just chock full of apparently dysfunctional relationships. I c an't imagine why most posters are still married/cohabiting.
Probably because most people have commitments to children, to mortgages, to the idea of marriage. If you think it’s easy to walk away from something like that then I can only presume you are not in the same level of relationship and are therefore not in a position to judge.

DanoS4

863 posts

193 months

Saturday 24th October 2020
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I've just read the whole thread after I contributed early on. Highly entertaining and very much needed, so thank you biggrin

I would like to point out that whilst my other half (married for some 25-odd years - I forget how long as they're all merged into one "experience") is a little crazy, we are actually both well-matched and happy.
I certainly don't get the irrational "crazy" as indicated in these posts - wow, you lot are very patient. And I'm really lucky biggrin

That said......

We had a great "one" last weekend - I'm building a walk-in wardrobe (my decision, not her's - she just does colours and stuff). Nothing fancy, but there's dead space in an alcove where a huge wardrobe used to be. Perfect conversion opportunity. More space, and tidier.

To keep her involved in the process, I asked her how she wanted her side of the wardrobe designed (shoe racks, cubby holes, vanity table etc). I even sketched out some designs (even labelled them as Idea 1, 2, 3 etc) Jeez. You'd have thought I'd sh@t on her pillow.

"Well that's just great - you spend all this time sorting out your side, and how the hell am I meant to get up there ?" (pointing at some 400mm-deep cubby boxes at the top about 2m high - above her clothes rail).
" WTF are you talking about? That's for bedding etc - to get it out the way. At YOUR request."
"Well that's just stupid".
"I agree. Totally. It's the same height as shelving in the old wardrobe"

"And where do you propose I put all of my undies and bras?" I'm not having them on show!"
"I don't care where you put them, but convention dictates you put them in one of the drawers"
"I'm not having them out on show. That's daft"
"Yes, I know. That's why you've got a drawer".

"And where am I'm going to my put jumpers and tops?"
"Well, how many drawers do you have right now?"
"3"
"Surely you can find space in the new additional 7 you'll have"
"Well, I'm not having my undies on show"

"FFS, shut up about your bloody undies - no fecker sees them anyway, least of all me. They'll be in a drawer, so wind your neck in"

"And what about my shoes" (she's a short-arse with an Imelda Marcos complex for "clippy clops")
"They'll go in the storage along the room, under your clothes" (quite a smug idea, I thought, so she could see what outfits to wear)
"But that's daft. What if the shoes underneath the dress don't match?"

Apparently, "That sounds like a "you" problem, not a "me" problem"" wasn't the right response. She stormed out then.
I'd even pre-loaded the, "You have 2 choices: move the shoes or the dress" - didn't get chance to use it biggrin

It's all good now - but over the years, she's come out with some classic stuff - all of which I've published on Facebook biggrin Timehop is a great reminder, especially when I share her comments on her timeline. She does shake her head with some degree of regret.
Its done for fun, but I suspect that I can use it in a Court of Law too biggrin

DAno

PhilboSE

4,323 posts

225 months

Saturday 24th October 2020
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It’s about 20 years old, but fill your boots:

http://www.thingsmygirlfriendandihavearguedabout.c...

Pothole

34,367 posts

281 months

Saturday 24th October 2020
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ThunderSpook said:
Pothole said:
OK. Came across as standard misogyny. This whole thread and Classics from the Mrs is just chock full of apparently dysfunctional relationships. I c an't imagine why most posters are still married/cohabiting.
Probably because most people have commitments to children, to mortgages, to the idea of marriage. If you think it’s easy to walk away from something like that then I can only presume you are not in the same level of relationship and are therefore not in a position to judge.
Steady! I have 2 of those 3 commitments (or alternatively, you know fk all about me so you've just shown the classic error of assumption) I DON'T have the kind of ridiculously petty, immature conversations or endure the situations that many men in this thread appear to. Mrs P and I talk about things. Sure, sometimes we argue, but we don't do the stupid stuff which is described here, or put up with it from each other.

Not sure why you'd suddenly leap to such a binary conclusion, either. Why is walking away the only option? I said I wondered why they're still doing it. I should have qualified it. I wonder why they're still doing it the way they describe. Because it sounds like a horrible way to live. I don't live that way, nor would I contemplate it. If I felt like my marriage was going that way, I'd make sure we talked it through and nipped it in the bud.

Pit Pony

8,266 posts

120 months

Saturday 24th October 2020
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Wife is annoyed with me, not because I'm clumsy and smashed my head whilst reaching into the roof storage space in the loft conversion.
But because I ignored the blood trickling down the back of my head and got on with the task in hand which was moving every piece of furniture in said loft room, to create a mini lounge. (As it appears her mother has moved in, following her Dad's death)
Apparently it's not big or clever to just get on, and ignore it, and I should have gone and found her, and her only seeing it whilst we were having tea ( A northern version of dinner) , left it too late to obtain any suitable dressings.

She's probably right to be angry.

ThunderSpook

3,571 posts

210 months

Saturday 24th October 2020
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Pothole said:
ThunderSpook said:
Pothole said:
OK. Came across as standard misogyny. This whole thread and Classics from the Mrs is just chock full of apparently dysfunctional relationships. I c an't imagine why most posters are still married/cohabiting.
Probably because most people have commitments to children, to mortgages, to the idea of marriage. If you think it’s easy to walk away from something like that then I can only presume you are not in the same level of relationship and are therefore not in a position to judge.
Steady! I have 2 of those 3 commitments (or alternatively, you know fk all about me so you've just shown the classic error of assumption) I DON'T have the kind of ridiculously petty, immature conversations or endure the situations that many men in this thread appear to. Mrs P and I talk about things. Sure, sometimes we argue, but we don't do the stupid stuff which is described here, or put up with it from each other.

Not sure why you'd suddenly leap to such a binary conclusion, either. Why is walking away the only option? I said I wondered why they're still doing it. I should have qualified it. I wonder why they're still doing it the way they describe. Because it sounds like a horrible way to live. I don't live that way, nor would I contemplate it. If I felt like my marriage was going that way, I'd make sure we talked it through and nipped it in the bud.
My assumption was based purely on your assumption that these problems can be resolved. Often the case is that people are the way they are and talking about things doesn’t help. You are very lucky if you are in a position that these things either don’t affect you, or you can nip them in the bud. Many people can’t. I didn’t meant to offend you if I did, but you also need to realise that things aren’t as simple as just ‘solve them’.

The reason I assumed you meant walk away is because you said cohabiting. Surely the opposite of cohabiting is not to live together?

Edited by ThunderSpook on Saturday 24th October 20:44

BT Summers

702 posts

60 months

Saturday 24th October 2020
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I am setting off very early on sunday morning so I thought it would save her a job if I altered the clocks.


She is as mad as hell because she has missed the start of Strictly

BT Summers

702 posts

60 months

Saturday 24th October 2020
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Another time she got annoyed.

We were in bed, I was fast asleep.


'Will you take that damn thing out of my back, what do you think you are, an armed robber?'

catman

2,490 posts

174 months

Saturday 24th October 2020
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BT Summers said:
Another time she got annoyed.

We were in bed, I was fast asleep.


'Will you take that damn thing out of my back, what do you think you are, an armed robber?'
A .22 wouldn't be much use in an armed robbery....

BT Summers

702 posts

60 months

Sunday 25th October 2020
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catman said:
BT Summers said:
Another time she got annoyed.

We were in bed, I was fast asleep.


'Will you take that damn thing out of my back, what do you think you are, an armed robber?'
A .22 wouldn't be much use in an armed robbery....
...and what would yours have said?

"I know its called fusilli but why have you brought a piece of pasta to bed?"





catman

2,490 posts

174 months

Sunday 25th October 2020
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You're too kind, I appreciate the compliment!

slopes

38,749 posts

186 months

Wednesday 28th October 2020
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Mine is annoyed at me because i'm - and i'm quoting her directly here - a pillock!
I take great delight in reminding her that she married me be choice, so i'm her pillock.

Oh and apparently my stomach produces the most vile smells known to mankind hehe

alorotom

11,908 posts

186 months

Wednesday 28th October 2020
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Current annoyance is that she wanted a new stick vacuum cleaner as our v6 dyson has a knackered battery (can’t use it on full power for more than 2-3seconds). She has been looking at the v11 for weeks umming and ahhing about it

I got sick and just went and bought it.

Apparently I’m an idiot as she didn’t know if she wanted it or not (even though she didn’t like any of the competition) and even though she loves it.

Literally can’t do right for doing wrong!

the hop

181 posts

44 months

Wednesday 28th October 2020
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Next time get her a shiny new dustpan and brush....... smile

NGRhodes

1,291 posts

71 months

Wednesday 28th October 2020
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... because I can't remember why she is annoyed at me.

robm3

4,927 posts

226 months

Wednesday 28th October 2020
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Mine is annoyed at me because I knocked on the front door to collect my kids (we're separated).
Thankfully, as of next month, I can technically no longer contribute to this thread!

antspants

2,401 posts

174 months

Thursday 29th October 2020
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robm3 said:
Mine is annoyed at me because I knocked on the front door to collect my kids (we're separated).
Thankfully, as of next month, I can technically no longer contribute to this thread!
Even though she'll be an ex-wife she'll still get annoyed at you, the difference is now you really don't give a st laugh

Which sounds great until you meet somebody new who gets annoyed at you, plus you've still got an ex-wife who's now even more annoyed at you because you've moved on. But ime you'll still be happier than you were wink

otherman

2,190 posts

164 months

Thursday 29th October 2020
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DanoS4 said:
I've just read the whole thread after I contributed early on. Highly entertaining and very much needed, so thank you biggrin

I would like to point out that whilst my other half (married for some 25-odd years - I forget how long as they're all merged into one "experience") is a little crazy, we are actually both well-matched and happy.
I certainly don't get the irrational "crazy" as indicated in these posts - wow, you lot are very patient. And I'm really lucky biggrin

That said......

" WTF are you talking about? That's for bedding etc - to get it out the way. At YOUR request."
"Well that's just stupid".
"I agree. Totally. It's the same height as shelving in the old wardrobe"

"And where do you propose I put all of my undies and bras?" I'm not having them on show!"
"I don't care where you put them, but convention dictates you put them in one of the drawers"
"I'm not having them out on show. That's daft"
"Yes, I know. That's why you've got a drawer".

"And where am I'm going to my put jumpers and tops?"
"Well, how many drawers do you have right now?"
"3"
"Surely you can find space in the new additional 7 you'll have"
"Well, I'm not having my undies on show"

"FFS, shut up about your bloody undies - no fecker sees them anyway, least of all me. They'll be in a drawer, so wind your neck in"

DAno
I mean I know I've quoted selectively, but it sounds like you really dislike each other, even if you're doing your level best to deny it.