Depression

[twing]

Thank you, been together 18 months. You’ve just helped hugely because although I know the meds take time to kick in I didn’t realise they bring you down before starting to work. I’ll ring her now and remind her, she’s been so cloudy recently she’s probably forgotten about the initial low, many thanks again

[227bhp]

twing said:

I’ll ring her now and remind her

Heed the latter half of my post, be careful!

[twing]

227bhp said:

Heed the latter half of my post, be careful!

We just chatted, she remembered the last time & yes it got worse before getting better. We both have the best part of this week off work so i’ll try and get her away from her normal day to day st and get her out and about, nothing crazy, as per your post, just little bits and bobs to take her mind off it. I’m knackered too so maybe a spa day, I know it won’t help long term but i’ll at least give her a day or too without the fog.thanks again

[227bhp]

twing said:

We just chatted, she remembered the last time & yes it got worse before getting better. We both have the best part of this week off work so i’ll try and get her away from her normal day to day st and get her out and about, nothing crazy, as per your post, just little bits and bobs to take her mind off it. I’m knackered too so maybe a spa day, I know it won’t help long term but i’ll at least give her a day or too without the fog.thanks again

Sounds like a plan In fact it sounds bloody great, if it's fine try to get out and do a bit of walking too, the huge difference between being out in the freezing cold and then coming into the warmth again after is a bit of an antidote to the old Black Dog, it's what makes us feel alive when we've forgotten how that feels.
It will all help long term, every bit of help gets you and her a bit further down the line. Just chip away bit by bit, day by day. Some days she'll go forward a step, sometimes back a couple, but overall hopefully some slow progress will be made.

[.crashandburn.]

Long time lurker here.

I'm worried that I'm sinking into the abyss. My relationship has come to an abrupt end recently and I'm just petrified of not being able to cope. I was diagnosed with depression a few years ago by the doctor and prescribed my tablets which I declined as I didn't feel it was depression just feeling really down and at the time and had a lot of stress at work which I managed to rectify and I also threw myself into sports which really helped.

I'm not eating, or sleeping which I know doesn't help. I'm just a crying mess everyday and just don't know what to do.

Just managed to get a doctors appointment for 2 weeks time

[familyguy1]

.crashandburn. said:

Long time lurker here.

I'm worried that I'm sinking into the abyss. My relationship has come to an abrupt end recently and I'm just petrified of not being able to cope. I was diagnosed with depression a few years ago by the doctor and prescribed my tablets which I declined as I didn't feel it was depression just feeling really down and at the time and had a lot of stress at work which I managed to rectify and I also threw myself into sports which really helped.

I'm not eating, or sleeping which I know doesn't help. I'm just a crying mess everyday and just don't know what to do.

Just managed to get a doctors appointment for 2 weeks time

If you can't get an earlier appointment, can you go to a walk-in NHS clinic and get something short term ?

Hope that helps.

[Dr Jekyll]

.crashandburn. said:

Long time lurker here.

I'm worried that I'm sinking into the abyss. My relationship has come to an abrupt end recently and I'm just petrified of not being able to cope. I was diagnosed with depression a few years ago by the doctor and prescribed my tablets which I declined as I didn't feel it was depression just feeling really down and at the time and had a lot of stress at work which I managed to rectify and I also threw myself into sports which really helped.

I'm not eating, or sleeping which I know doesn't help. I'm just a crying mess everyday and just don't know what to do.

Just managed to get a doctors appointment for 2 weeks time

Anti depressants could well help with the sleeping if nothing else. Stressful situations can lead to Depression as well as just being depressing and what you're describing, appetite and sleep problems does sound like Depression.

[227bhp]

It isn't a sign of weakness, it's a sign of trying to remain strong for too long.

[xjay1337]

227bhp said:

It isn't a sign of weakness, it's a sign of trying to remain strong for too long.

Very much true

Well done for coming on here as a first step!

[227bhp]

xjay1337 said:

227bhp said:

It isn't a sign of weakness, it's a sign of trying to remain strong for too long.

Very much true

Well done for coming on here as a first step!

The old ones are the best How are you doing?

[xjay1337]

I'm doing OK actually
Feel a lot more settled, new job so financially more comfortable, and we are buying our first house

I still have wobbles, the Prozac is helping, just smooths out the extremes either side - I can't see myself coming off it for a long time tbh
Cheers for asking, hope you are ok also


A note for crashandburn I found with some anti depressants I really did struggle with sleeping. For me Prozac doesn't effect my sleep as such but I do have some very weird and detailed dreams/nightmares. Citalopram and Setraline really did mess that up bad among other things...

Whatever you take will take a while to kick in. Meds are not the answer I think but they help you to function while you are sorting out other stuff.

[227bhp]

xjay1337 said:

I'm doing OK actually
Feel a lot more settled, new job so financially more comfortable, and we are buying our first house

I still have wobbles, the Prozac is helping, just smooths out the extremes either side - I can't see myself coming off it for a long time tbh
Cheers for asking, hope you are ok also


A note for crashandburn I found with some anti depressants I really did struggle with sleeping. For me Prozac doesn't effect my sleep as such but I do have some very weird and detailed dreams/nightmares. Citalopram and Setraline really did mess that up bad among other things...

Whatever you take will take a while to kick in. Meds are not the answer I think but they help you to function while you are sorting out other stuff.

I'm bumbling along
Well that's good news, I like to read that.
The two R2 interviews I referred to back there somewhere had the differing opinions of two professionals, one was in favour of ADs and said that they actually repaired damage, the other one was against them and preferred other methods.
One other thing I found out lately is the correct way to come off is to miss every other day for a while, then when you're used to that miss every third day and so on. I don't know why, but apparently it's better than cutting your daily dosage down, say in half.

[aaron_2000]

I was about to make a thread but what's the point if this one exists? I suffer with on/off depression, sometimes I'm perfectly fine months on end with a good streak of good fortune, then when it all starts to come down I sink straight back down again, enjoyed a break up with my girlfriend last night, never been too fussed about breakups before, I usually just shrug it off, have a month or too of just 1 nighters, then go find someone else, but she was different, I could tell her everything, which was big seeing as I never tell anybody anything, I always deal with st myself. When I thought of everything I wanted from a lass, she was all of it. With other lasses I always found myself attracted to other lasses, there were times where I even acted on that, but never with her. I was only attracted to her. I still had a job I didn't like, other st that made me miserable, but she was such a positive in my life that it completely counteracted that, with her gone I see next to no positives again. I'm not the kind of person to even contemplate suicide, never mind act on it, that still applies here, it would take me losing absolutely everything, my house, my car, my job, my family and my health for that to happen. But I just feel empty now.

[zarjaz1991]

aaron_2000 said:

I was about to make a thread but what's the point if this one exists? I suffer with on/off depression, sometimes I'm perfectly fine months on end with a good streak of good fortune, then when it all starts to come down I sink straight back down again, enjoyed a break up with my girlfriend last night, never been too fussed about breakups before, I usually just shrug it off, have a month or too of just 1 nighters, then go find someone else, but she was different, I could tell her everything, which was big seeing as I never tell anybody anything, I always deal with st myself. When I thought of everything I wanted from a lass, she was all of it. With other lasses I always found myself attracted to other lasses, there were times where I even acted on that, but never with her. I was only attracted to her. I still had a job I didn't like, other st that made me miserable, but she was such a positive in my life that it completely counteracted that, with her gone I see next to no positives again. I'm not the kind of person to even contemplate suicide, never mind act on it, that still applies here, it would take me losing absolutely everything, my house, my car, my job, my family and my health for that to happen. But I just feel empty now.

Christ Aaron, you're way too young to be feeling like this.

What's been going on? From your posts I got the impression things were going pretty well.

[aaron_2000]

zarjaz1991 said:

Christ Aaron, you're way too young to be feeling like this.

What's been going on? From your posts I got the impression things were going pretty well.

Things were pretty well for a good long time, never really enjoyed my job but that's life, as I said though, I have my friends but I don't talk to them about st, she was by far the best thing I had going on. It's not the cliche young relationship, had plenty of them, she was very easily someone I could see a good life with.

[zarjaz1991]

aaron_2000 said:

Things were pretty well for a good long time, never really enjoyed my job but that's life, as I said though, I have my friends but I don't talk to them about st, she was by far the best thing I had going on. It's not the cliche young relationship, had plenty of them, she was very easily someone I could see a good life with.

What car are you currently driving? Is it the ST? I did rather lose track.

Whatever it is, take it for a blast when the traffic's quiet. Carefully, obviously. Some decent music in. Always helps in these situations I find.

[aaron_2000]

zarjaz1991 said:

What car are you currently driving? Is it the ST? I did rather lose track.

Whatever it is, take it for a blast when the traffic's quiet. Carefully, obviously. Some decent music in. Always helps in these situations I find.

ST is in storage until the bodywork is sorted, currently slumming it on the bus. She apparently wanted to focus on her family, she's in the process of moving out. Not sure whether it's really BS or not, didn't seem to be an issue before.

[wiliferus]

Just a cathartic release of feelings and thoughts...

I’m resigned to never really leaving depression behind. I’ve had points over the last two years where I thought I’d cracked it, and life was generally good.

What I’ve come to realise is that depression is always lurking in the background waiting to pounce when you’re vulnerable.

It’s been a tough week. I won’t go into detail as the volume of words need to explain will take down the Haymarket servers, but suffice to say there was someone in my life who I stupidly pinned my future to. She was my one, no doubt. We weren’t actually together for a variety of reasons but we both knew when the time was right it would happen. Except it hasn’t happened, not for me anyway. She’s found someone else to make her happy. And it’s absolutely crushed me to my very core. Stupid me for putting my eggs in one very uncertain basket.

I feel like my future has been removed. I’ve slipped down the slope again. I’m not eating, I’m sleeping about 2 hours a night, and I’m locked in the house. I’ve had to go sick from work because I’m weak, and I can’t stop sobbing.
Yes I know, man the fk up, plenty more fish etc.

On top of this, 10 months ago I lost my mum (I wrote about this here back then), but my best mate has just lost his mum. The funeral is on Thursday, at the same Crematorium, and same wake venue as my mums funeral.
How the actual fk am I going to do that????

So here I am, on a Monday night, having spoken to not another single soul since Friday, with tears rolling down my face, not knowing how I’m actually going to face life anytime soon.

I suppose what I’m trying to say, is outside looking in, first world problems right? No biggy?
With depression, they’re absolutely all consuming, and paralysing.

Edited by wiliferus on Monday 19th March 19:24

[Captain Smerc]

I get how your feeling , I've had some dark times recently and felt very vulnerable . I keep managing to come out the other side , as you will . But it's very hard to see this when everything seems so bad . You must talk to someone , trying to deal with this on your own is definitely no good . I'm not much good at giving advice , I just know I couldn't have coped without support from family , friends and my GP . Hope things improve for you soon .

[aaron_2000]

The sad irony for me is, when I was feeling depressed, I'd only talk to her about it.