Effing cancer is an effing effer, frankly

Effing cancer is an effing effer, frankly

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Stan the Bat

8,843 posts

211 months

Saturday 6th April 2019
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Yep, bright red is a good(?) sign.

Darkish is the one to watch out for .

FocusRS3

3,411 posts

90 months

Saturday 6th April 2019
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Stan the Bat said:
Yep, bright red is a good(?) sign.

Darkish is the one to watch out for .
I’ve not got Round to asking specifics yet but will see what the upshot of this coming week is first .

Sorry to somewhat derail the thread

millik

77 posts

60 months

Friday 12th April 2019
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johnxjsc1985 said:
millik said:
Thanks all
Operation went well, *just* a case of recovering from that and await results of the biopsy now
good to get that out of the way good luck with the results of the Biopsy
Well, results back, the good news is that they have removed all that they could see but as feared the lymph nodes were cancerous. It has been graded a Type 2 Stage 3. Next steps for her now is another CT scan, 6 cycles of Chemo followed by Radiotherapy and possible Brachytherapy. It’s going to be a long few months for her.

johnxjsc1985

15,948 posts

163 months

Friday 12th April 2019
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millik said:
Well, results back, the good news is that they have removed all that they could see but as feared the lymph nodes were cancerous. It has been graded a Type 2 Stage 3. Next steps for her now is another CT scan, 6 cycles of Chemo followed by Radiotherapy and possible Brachytherapy. It’s going to be a long few months for her.
it fks with your life Cancer no doubt about it. I was out with my mate this morning who is on his second helping of Chemo 15 months after his first for lung Cancer.
Thoughts are with you both just take one day at a time. Good luck hope the next few months are kind to you both.
I think its not a bad place to come and have a moan or vent your spleen . Keep in touch .

PomBstard

6,729 posts

241 months

Monday 15th April 2019
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rs4al said:
Don’t know where to begin but my long term partner has just been to see a gynaecologist oncologist, he found a large mass on one of her ovaries. We went to see him due to a very high CA 125 level and associated symptoms.

Just waiting for CT scan to see what is going on.

How do I help her, I’ve been trying my best to keep positive but is so difficult with the potential outcome she is facing. Having moved to Bristol, I’ve got friends but don’t want to burden them with it. Thanks for listening.
Not sure if you've found this yet, but my Mum thought those at Penny Brohn, out by the old Ham Green Hospital were great...

https://www.pennybrohn.org.uk

Worth a visit

FocusRS3

3,411 posts

90 months

Tuesday 16th April 2019
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FocusRS3 said:
Many tks for all the reply's.

So this morning i approached the subject again saying i needed to know more as we have to deal with these things as a team and of course we have the kids to think about. She finally opened up.

Weight Loss- She has lost weight steadily over the last year which is pretty consistent with her diet and that shes followed the Keto diet too so nothing too alarming there.

Tiredness- She does feel tired during the day and questioned herself on driving just this week as she felt tired but doesn't nod off or ever take a nap. Again given our ages now then i'm thinking this is normal.

Toilet issue- Blood appears on average 3 times out of ten. She says its painful when she goes so she dreads going and as a result she is then itchy. She has bought some cream and wants to use some suppositories for a week before going to the doctor. Fair enough.

She said its actually been going on for a year now and not the 6 months she said at first.

Still my thoughts are that its all ok BUT she needs to see the Doc but of course its unpleasant so she has been resisting going down that route.

I'm giving her the week she wants and we'll go from there.....
Update-

She was insistent on getting some 'cream' which i take it as being for haemorrhoids which she said she would give a week to administer and go from there. That was over a week ago.

I approached the subject last night again as she said she had stomach cramps. She said she hadn't used the cream (i'm now doubting that she got any to start with) and would see the doctor when we get back from holiday which is a week after Easter as i insisted she made an appointment.

I said i'd obviously go with her but being a very private person, (even though we have been together 30yrs) she said "no chance" she wanted to go alone or with her sister.

I told her i was worried and she had to be honest and share this with me as we have the kids to think about and we deal with everything as a family to which she agreed. Somehow i think she is hiding things though which obviously concerns me. She thinks solely of others and rarely for herself so my concern is that she is trying to pass this off so that WE all don't worry.

Not sure what more i can do at this stage although i'm going to book that docs appointment for her for when we return.

She act said last night that the bleeding is daily whereas previously she said it was 3 in 10 times so now my concerns are heightened as i'm thinking the "3 out of 10" that was first mentioned may not have been the truth


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Edited by FocusRS3 on Tuesday 16th April 10:14

Henners

12,230 posts

193 months

Tuesday 16th April 2019
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Other than my previous suggestions (which I still stand firmly behind), maybe see if you can get a call with her doc and relay the symptoms on.

If doc says she could come in, tell the wife. If she refuses, tell her to stop being a child and grow the fk up.

The thread by Ross is worth a read. Different troubles but shows how life can unexpectedly bend you over. Shock tactics...

Edited by Henners on Tuesday 16th April 15:54

loafer123

15,404 posts

214 months

Tuesday 16th April 2019
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FocusRS3 said:
FocusRS3 said:
Many tks for all the reply's.

So this morning i approached the subject again saying i needed to know more as we have to deal with these things as a team and of course we have the kids to think about. She finally opened up.

Weight Loss- She has lost weight steadily over the last year which is pretty consistent with her diet and that shes followed the Keto diet too so nothing too alarming there.

Tiredness- She does feel tired during the day and questioned herself on driving just this week as she felt tired but doesn't nod off or ever take a nap. Again given our ages now then i'm thinking this is normal.

Toilet issue- Blood appears on average 3 times out of ten. She says its painful when she goes so she dreads going and as a result she is then itchy. She has bought some cream and wants to use some suppositories for a week before going to the doctor. Fair enough.

She said its actually been going on for a year now and not the 6 months she said at first.

Still my thoughts are that its all ok BUT she needs to see the Doc but of course its unpleasant so she has been resisting going down that route.

I'm giving her the week she wants and we'll go from there.....
Update-

She was insistent on getting some 'cream' which i take it as being for haemorrhoids which she said she would give a week to administer and go from there. That was over a week ago.

I approached the subject last night again as she said she had stomach cramps. She said she hadn't used the cream (i'm now doubting that she got any to start with) and would see the doctor when we get back from holiday which is a week after Easter as i insisted she made an appointment.

I said i'd obviously go with her but being a very private person, (even though we have been together 30yrs) she said "no chance" she wanted to go alone or with her sister.

I told her i was worried and she had to be honest and share this with me as we have the kids to think about and we deal with everything as a family to which she agreed. Somehow i think she is hiding things though which obviously concerns me. She thinks solely of others and rarely for herself so my concern is that she is trying to pass this off so that WE all don't worry.

Not sure what more i can do at this stage although i'm going to book that docs appointment for her for when we return.

She act said last night that the bleeding is daily whereas previously she said it was 3 in 10 times so now my concerns are heightened as i'm thinking the "3 out of 10" that was first mentioned may not have been the truth


Edited by FocusRS3 on Tuesday 16th April 10:08


Edited by FocusRS3 on Tuesday 16th April 10:14
Offer to make the appointment, describe the symptoms to the receptionist and then, when the GP suggests she come in immediately, tell her to stop being so selfish.

Sorry, but it does need to be said.



Stan the Bat

8,843 posts

211 months

Tuesday 16th April 2019
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You are letting her drag this out too long.

Time is important.

FocusRS3

3,411 posts

90 months

Tuesday 16th April 2019
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Stan the Bat said:
You are letting her drag this out too long.

Time is important.
Agreed
I’m going to get the appointment booked

Stan the Bat

8,843 posts

211 months

Tuesday 16th April 2019
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FocusRS3 said:
Stan the Bat said:
You are letting her drag this out too long.

Time is important.
Agreed
I’m going to get the appointment booked
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Henners

12,230 posts

193 months

Thursday 18th April 2019
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FocusRS3 said:
Stan the Bat said:
You are letting her drag this out too long.

Time is important.
Agreed
I’m going to get the appointment booked
Any joy?

FocusRS3

3,411 posts

90 months

Thursday 18th April 2019
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Henners said:
Any joy?
Has agreed to an appointment Monday week when we get back from Hols but i'll keep on asking whats going on next week whilst we are away...

Henners

12,230 posts

193 months

Thursday 18th April 2019
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FocusRS3 said:
Henners said:
Any joy?
Has agreed to an appointment Monday week when we get back from Hols but i'll keep on asking whats going on next week whilst we are away...
Good work.


FocusRS3

3,411 posts

90 months

Thursday 18th April 2019
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Henners said:
Good work.
Tks for asking

loafer123

15,404 posts

214 months

Thursday 18th April 2019
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FocusRS3 said:
Has agreed to an appointment Monday week when we get back from Hols but i'll keep on asking whats going on next week whilst we are away...
Well done.

It is unpleasant, but if you can take photos of what is causing the concern (presumably poo) then do so, as it will help the doctor to diagnose/refer more quickly.

FocusRS3

3,411 posts

90 months

Thursday 18th April 2019
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loafer123 said:
Well done.

It is unpleasant, but if you can take photos of what is causing the concern (presumably poo) then do so, as it will help the doctor to diagnose/refer more quickly.
Whilst a good idea i'll never get away with that.

Dont want to bang on to her about it on holiday either so its a tricky one as i know she will do her best to avoid it.

Y'day morning when i mentioned going to the doctors again she insisted we get some blood tests out the way for my daughter too.

We'll get there......

Pieman68

4,264 posts

233 months

Thursday 18th April 2019
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censoreding censoreding censoreding censoreding censoreding censored of a censored thing

Remember posting on here in December that I'd just found out about my mate being diagnosed as terminal. Spoke to his brother yesterday and said he was in a bad way and unlikely to last the week. The censored took him last night

Mates since we were 12 - batted many an over together over the years at the top of the order. Hope there's a nice flat track up there for him to bat on

Not a patch on where his family must be at but I'm sat here nearly in tears (again)

He was 45!

FocusRS3

3,411 posts

90 months

Thursday 18th April 2019
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Pieman68 said:
censoreding censoreding censoreding censoreding censoreding censored of a censored thing

Remember posting on here in December that I'd just found out about my mate being diagnosed as terminal. Spoke to his brother yesterday and said he was in a bad way and unlikely to last the week. The censored took him last night

Mates since we were 12 - batted many an over together over the years at the top of the order. Hope there's a nice flat track up there for him to bat on

Not a patch on where his family must be at but I'm sat here nearly in tears (again)

He was 45!
So sorry to hear this Pieman absolutely no age

Pieman68

4,264 posts

233 months

Thursday 18th April 2019
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FocusRS3 said:
So sorry to hear this Pieman absolutely no age
There's no nice cancer, lets be honest - but Pancreatic does seem to be up there with the most evil of the lot! Took my Grandma as well madmadmad