Effing cancer is an effing effer, frankly

[AJB88]

Sorry to hear this.

[motco]

I wish that I could conjure up some words of comfort, but I am speechless. Sorry, truly sorry.

[anonymous-user]

My MIL (58) has her results on Friday regarding chemo having worked / is working.

F***ing horrible disease, wife was in tears yesterday she's only 26, i'm not holding out much hope as it had spread from bowel to overies and was present in 60% of the lymph-nodes they sampled and classified as 3b / 4.

[skeggysteve]

Our daughter had a baby boy in the early hour of today less than 12 hours after we lost our son.

[CharlesdeGaulle]

skeggysteve said:

Our daughter had a baby boy in the early hour of today less than 12 hours after we lost our son.

Wonderful news on the one hand but, well, the cruelty of life...

[HarryW]

What an absolute roller coaster life is. My heart goes out to you and yours.

[HarryW]

Lord.Vader said:

My MIL (58) has her results on Friday regarding chemo having worked / is working.

F***ing horrible disease, wife was in tears yesterday she's only 26, i'm not holding out much hope as it had spread from bowel to overies and was present in 60% of the lymph-nodes they sampled and classified as 3b / 4.

Never give out in holding hope, modern Monoclonal Antibodies (mAbs) are a wonder. The rule book is still in the process of being rewritten. My wife has lived with Stage 4 BC for 5 years, when the previous rules said under 12 months.
It’s an evil bd though.

Edited by HarryW on Wednesday 19th February 10:22

[MYOB]

skeggysteve said:

Our daughter had a baby boy in the early hour of today less than 12 hours after we lost our son.

Certainly bad timing for all. How does one express such joy during this awful time of grieving? Two extreme emotional states in 12 hours!

[likesachange]

Sorry for your loss Steve.

HarryW said:

Never give out in holding hope, modern Monoclonal Antibodies (mAbs) are a wonder. The rule book is still in the process of being rewritten. My wife has lived with Stage 4 BC for 5 years, when the previous rules said under 12 months.
It’s an evil bd though.

Edited by HarryW on Wednesday 19th February 10:22

This, Hope is everything in these situations.

Best of luck

[anonymous-user]

HarryW said:

Lord.Vader said:

My MIL (58) has her results on Friday regarding chemo having worked / is working.

F***ing horrible disease, wife was in tears yesterday she's only 26, i'm not holding out much hope as it had spread from bowel to overies and was present in 60% of the lymph-nodes they sampled and classified as 3b / 4.

Never give out in holding hope, modern Monoclonal Antibodies (mAbs) are a wonder. The rule book is still in the process of being rewritten. My wife has lived with Stage 4 BC for 5 years, when the previous rules said under 12 months.
It’s an evil bd though.

Edited by HarryW on Wednesday 19th February 10:22

Thanks for that, i will share it with my wife.

[Mrs Muttleysnoop]

So sorry to read.

[grumpy52]

Fanboy911 said:

ecsrobin said:

In the end those last few things that me and dad had said over the years we would do we’re never done sadly.
.

This line just hit a painful note with me and not something i'd thought of for many a year. My Dad passed away 22yrs ago this year and we'd also planned lots of things to do. Last night of the Proms was one as he watched it each year it was on when i was living at home as a kid.

My dad passed away very suddenly at 68 which now in my early 50's i consider to be no age for someone that lived life to the full and was very active.

May i ask what age your Dad was? This post is highlighting to me things i must go and do with my son.

Sorry for your loss btw

One of the few comforts I had before my dad passed away were the little trips out to some of the places that although very local to home he had never been to .
They clearly meant a lot to him as he would chat about them for days after .

[Dinlowgoon]

Dinlowgoon said:

Jesus this is hard to write on a lot of levels. My eldest brother ie Guardian (I was orphaned at 8) has been diagnosed with stomach/lower asophogos cancer via endoscope but has enlarged lymph nodes. CT scan results are due Friday.
Bloke put himself out to raise kids that shouldn’t really have been his responsibility being in early 20’s.
We’re endebted !!
Got exposed to gas being an X-ray technician,long term Asthma being an issue. Thrown off a Vespa age 16 and later suffered chronic back issues.
An amazing human being in my life, Hope they can fix him.
Love to you all

Edited by Dinlowgoon on Wednesday 5th February 01:51

Bruvs got 6 months but he has blood leukaemia as well.
Palliative care maybe 9-12 months
I can’t even see him because poxy virus
‘Perfect storm’ as he calls it

[loafer123]

Dinlowgoon said:

Bruvs got 6 months but he has blood leukaemia as well.
Palliative care maybe 9-12 months
I can’t even see him because poxy virus
‘Perfect storm’ as he calls it

Very sorry to hear that.

Cancer can fk right off.

[anonymous-user]

So sorry to hear that.

I just wanted to pop in to reinforce what someone else said to me on here, there’s always hope.

Biopsy showed that the chemo is working, following an op’ to remove infected bowel tissue and the overview (which was an emergency op’ when all this started); first small step in the right direction and we are being extra vigilant with this bloody virus about.

Still a long way to go yet.

[bristolbaron]

My grandfather passed away after a 3 year battle with Lymphoma on Friday. He did bloody well considering and it wasn’t a shock to the system that he passed.
Under current circumstances there will either be no funeral, or possibly just my mum and uncle in attendance. We’re unsure if my grandmother will even be able to attend.

[grumpy52]

motco said:

grumpy52 said:

garyhun said:

grumpy52 said:

After another urinary infection my new young Gp had my urine tested at the beginning and has tested it again today .
On both occasions it has shown blood to be present.
So an urgent referral to start all the checks for bladder tumors or cancer . It will include a camera into the bladder amongst other things .
What will be will be but I am not good at waiting .

I had kidney cancer at the end of 2018 and the blood in my urine was very obvious as it was red throughout the stream. Hopefully yours is just infection.

All the best with your tests.

The latest has shown that the infection has gone but still blood staining the urine . Stones were suspected but no evidence found on a CT scan .
Thank you for good wishes .

I had a bout of frank haematuria (frank means very obvious) last summer. After a lot of investigation it seems it was from my prostate which was 'rebored' a few years ago by the usual TURP procedure. Because of shoulder pain, I had been taking ibuprofen daily for a month or so and it seemed too coincidental with that so I mentioned this to the GP and she said that ibuprofen over a long period can raise the likelihood of blood in urine. Mine was always at the beginning of the steam and very clotty. All clear since stopping the ibuprofen.

I went to have the camera inspection of my bladder but it didn't happen because of a stricture in my urethra . Probably scar tissue from having a catheter in the past .
The next step is an operation to dilate the urethra.
The complication is that I am classed as high risk for general anesthesia because of a previous stroke , a heart condition and sleep apnoea.
After a consultation with a specialist anesthesiologist it will be attempted under an epidural , with a bit of sedation ,with the option of going to full anesthesia if necessary .
They will open the pipe and have a look in my bladder and deal with anything that they find if necessary .
This is scheduled for this coming Thursday the 26th .
I have been informed that it's pretty important to have the operation/investigation/biopsy done but could get postponed if there is a problem with ICU beds if it all goes pear shaped post op .
Needless to say it's all high risk groups for me regarding Covid 19 .

[motco]

grumpy52 said:

motco said:

grumpy52 said:

garyhun said:

grumpy52 said:

After another urinary infection my new young Gp had my urine tested at the beginning and has tested it again today .
On both occasions it has shown blood to be present.
So an urgent referral to start all the checks for bladder tumors or cancer . It will include a camera into the bladder amongst other things .
What will be will be but I am not good at waiting .

I had kidney cancer at the end of 2018 and the blood in my urine was very obvious as it was red throughout the stream. Hopefully yours is just infection.

All the best with your tests.

The latest has shown that the infection has gone but still blood staining the urine . Stones were suspected but no evidence found on a CT scan .
Thank you for good wishes .

I had a bout of frank haematuria (frank means very obvious) last summer. After a lot of investigation it seems it was from my prostate which was 'rebored' a few years ago by the usual TURP procedure. Because of shoulder pain, I had been taking ibuprofen daily for a month or so and it seemed too coincidental with that so I mentioned this to the GP and she said that ibuprofen over a long period can raise the likelihood of blood in urine. Mine was always at the beginning of the steam and very clotty. All clear since stopping the ibuprofen.

I went to have the camera inspection of my bladder but it didn't happen because of a stricture in my urethra . Probably scar tissue from having a catheter in the past .
The next step is an operation to dilate the urethra.
The complication is that I am classed as high risk for general anesthesia because of a previous stroke , a heart condition and sleep apnoea.
After a consultation with a specialist anesthesiologist it will be attempted under an epidural , with a bit of sedation ,with the option of going to full anesthesia if necessary .
They will open the pipe and have a look in my bladder and deal with anything that they find if necessary .
This is scheduled for this coming Thursday the 26th .
I have been informed that it's pretty important to have the operation/investigation/biopsy done but could get postponed if there is a problem with ICU beds if it all goes pear shaped post op .
Needless to say it's all high risk groups for me regarding Covid 19 .

I had the spinal anaesthesia for the TURP procedure. It was my intention not to and to have a GA, but the anaesthetist (a handsome older woman) persuaded me otherwise and I'm glad she did because there's little or no recovery period unlike a general. However, it is truly weird seeing your legs but feeling that they simply must be someone else's! They put them up in stirrups as they do for gynaecological work on women, and they lifted them up but I felt absolutely nothing - no touch, no sensation of movement nor any feeling of location. I could move the big toe on my right foot though. What you do not want is to be rushed in with acute urine retention during a CV19 panic, so if you can get it done and dusted now, that's clearly best. Good Luck Grumpy!

[Pinkie15]

Pinkie15 said:

st there's some gut wrenching stuff in the last couple of pages.

Now the fkng thing lurches into our family again (maternal aunt is 6 yrs post lung cancer & she was a non-smoker)

Great start to the day with text from my dad: "XXXX (his brother, my uncle) has kidney cancer. How serious? "

How the fk do you answer that? Well rationally with my scientist head (I work in pharma, company even has an approved product for rcc).

Longer today's gone on more apathetic I feel about work (news sinking in, maybe???). Can feel myself getting morose. Maybe cos that side of family are 400 miles away in Scotland.

I mean christ sake he had a coronary last yr on hols & got airlifted to mainland hospital & had stents.

Now this st

Why don't you just fk off, you fking, fking, fking wker of a disease

Edited by Pinkie15 on Wednesday 5th February 17:01

Well that went quick, just been told my uncle died an hour ago.

Just absolutely pants; my dad didn't even get the chance to go see his brother cos of covid-19; don't even know what, if anything, we can do as a family for funeral, even whether we can even have one.

Clearly never a nice time to have this awful affliction, but with this virus it's even worse.

[anonymous-user]

Sorry for your loss Pinkie . Sometimes it takes people very quickly indeed.