Effing cancer is an effing effer, frankly
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I’m so sorry to hear so many are going through cancer. What concerns me, is not much mention of at home care? I posted a few weeks back about Mums deteriorating memory and had some really good advice as I was worried that it was impossible to afford. However, a few weeks ago, events overtook her, and over the Easter weekend, in the space of a few days, she went from memory loss but still reasonably active, to sleeping most of the day and forgetting how to eat, drink, even how to switch the tv on. Easter Monday I came home and she’d made a mess in her bedroom and had no idea how to clean things up.
Got her into Hospital then and there. Upshot, a missed diagnosis of breast cancer from a cancelled regular screening appointment last Oct (Covid hey) so had been bubbling away for around a year. CT and MRI confirmed it has spread to her lung, kidneys, lymph glands and now spotting on the brain, which explained the sudden downhill.
She came home 2 weeks later but within 2 days, my LA had authorised 4 health visits a day, district nurse came every day, local hospice respond team available pretty much available at any time of night to give pain relief etc. She became quite ill last Friday and Marie Curie was set up to stay overnight from Monday. No point getting her into Hospital again as no benefit.
Sunday just gone, care worker at 9.30am, a bit of breakfast, good morning grandma kiss from granddaughter and then felt tired again and hopped back into bed. District nurse let himself in an hour later (key safe access) to change dressings and knocked on my door to let me know she’d died.
There’s a lot of help available, if it’s needed.
Got her into Hospital then and there. Upshot, a missed diagnosis of breast cancer from a cancelled regular screening appointment last Oct (Covid hey) so had been bubbling away for around a year. CT and MRI confirmed it has spread to her lung, kidneys, lymph glands and now spotting on the brain, which explained the sudden downhill.
She came home 2 weeks later but within 2 days, my LA had authorised 4 health visits a day, district nurse came every day, local hospice respond team available pretty much available at any time of night to give pain relief etc. She became quite ill last Friday and Marie Curie was set up to stay overnight from Monday. No point getting her into Hospital again as no benefit.
Sunday just gone, care worker at 9.30am, a bit of breakfast, good morning grandma kiss from granddaughter and then felt tired again and hopped back into bed. District nurse let himself in an hour later (key safe access) to change dressings and knocked on my door to let me know she’d died.
There’s a lot of help available, if it’s needed.
TVR1 said:
Sunday just gone, care worker at 9.30am, a bit of breakfast, good morning grandma kiss from granddaughter and then felt tired again and hopped back into bed.
I'm sorry for your loss TVR1. Reading this, I imagine you must take some consolation from the fact that she spent her last days feeling loved and cared for, surrounded by her loved ones. Getting a good morning kiss from a grandchild, and then hopping back into bed to drift away peacefully - I think a lot of us would be very happy going that way!
GT3Manthey said:
Spydaman said:
Just had a call from the hospital and it looking more likely that I have cancer. Now waiting for an appointment with the surgeon.
Sorry to hear this but sounds like you're on it early So don't be downhearted; its early days.
TVR1 said:
I’m so sorry to hear so many are going through cancer. What concerns me, is not much mention of at home care? I posted a few weeks back about Mums deteriorating memory and had some really good advice as I was worried that it was impossible to afford. However, a few weeks ago, events overtook her, and over the Easter weekend, in the space of a few days, she went from memory loss but still reasonably active, to sleeping most of the day and forgetting how to eat, drink, even how to switch the tv on. Easter Monday I came home and she’d made a mess in her bedroom and had no idea how to clean things up.
Got her into Hospital then and there. Upshot, a missed diagnosis of breast cancer from a cancelled regular screening appointment last Oct (Covid hey) so had been bubbling away for around a year. CT and MRI confirmed it has spread to her lung, kidneys, lymph glands and now spotting on the brain, which explained the sudden downhill.
She came home 2 weeks later but within 2 days, my LA had authorised 4 health visits a day, district nurse came every day, local hospice respond team available pretty much available at any time of night to give pain relief etc. She became quite ill last Friday and Marie Curie was set up to stay overnight from Monday. No point getting her into Hospital again as no benefit.
Sunday just gone, care worker at 9.30am, a bit of breakfast, good morning grandma kiss from granddaughter and then felt tired again and hopped back into bed. District nurse let himself in an hour later (key safe access) to change dressings and knocked on my door to let me know she’d died.
There’s a lot of help available, if it’s needed.
Condolences, its just so bloody final. Got her into Hospital then and there. Upshot, a missed diagnosis of breast cancer from a cancelled regular screening appointment last Oct (Covid hey) so had been bubbling away for around a year. CT and MRI confirmed it has spread to her lung, kidneys, lymph glands and now spotting on the brain, which explained the sudden downhill.
She came home 2 weeks later but within 2 days, my LA had authorised 4 health visits a day, district nurse came every day, local hospice respond team available pretty much available at any time of night to give pain relief etc. She became quite ill last Friday and Marie Curie was set up to stay overnight from Monday. No point getting her into Hospital again as no benefit.
Sunday just gone, care worker at 9.30am, a bit of breakfast, good morning grandma kiss from granddaughter and then felt tired again and hopped back into bed. District nurse let himself in an hour later (key safe access) to change dressings and knocked on my door to let me know she’d died.
There’s a lot of help available, if it’s needed.
Going through this with MIL at the moment, getting more frail daily. Difficult to leave her so we're kinda tag teaming, someone's always at home.
Good support from Macmillan and local hospice teams.
Cancer is such a fker.
I posted in here at the end of 2016, a close friend of ours passed away, in his thirties leaving his wife & young son behind.
This month the poor girl is diagnosed with breast cancer. It seems to have been caught early, and she's started chemo this week.
I simply can't get a handle on what they're going through as a family. Their poor little boy, loses his dad when he can barely remember him and now his mum has had to break this news to him.
It's just absolutely heart-breaking.
I posted in here at the end of 2016, a close friend of ours passed away, in his thirties leaving his wife & young son behind.
This month the poor girl is diagnosed with breast cancer. It seems to have been caught early, and she's started chemo this week.
I simply can't get a handle on what they're going through as a family. Their poor little boy, loses his dad when he can barely remember him and now his mum has had to break this news to him.
It's just absolutely heart-breaking.
Dan_1981 said:
Cancer is such a fker.
I posted in here at the end of 2016, a close friend of ours passed away, in his thirties leaving his wife & young son behind.
This month the poor girl is diagnosed with breast cancer. It seems to have been caught early, and she's started chemo this week.
I simply can't get a handle on what they're going through as a family. Their poor little boy, loses his dad when he can barely remember him and now his mum has had to break this news to him.
It's just absolutely heart-breaking.
Dreadful news, that poor little lad. I posted in here at the end of 2016, a close friend of ours passed away, in his thirties leaving his wife & young son behind.
This month the poor girl is diagnosed with breast cancer. It seems to have been caught early, and she's started chemo this week.
I simply can't get a handle on what they're going through as a family. Their poor little boy, loses his dad when he can barely remember him and now his mum has had to break this news to him.
It's just absolutely heart-breaking.
I hope to God she has got this early enough but the constant living in fear of what may happen farther down the road must be terrifying given all she and the Son has already gone through.
So sorry to hear this
Had a call from the hospital yesterday morning a couple of hour's before Mum's funeral saying I've got an appointment with the Consultant Surgeon on Monday. It's almost certain I will have surgery soon after. Until now I've manged to convince myself its not cancer but its getting harder to do that.
Spydaman said:
Had a call from the hospital yesterday morning a couple of hour's before Mum's funeral saying I've got an appointment with the Consultant Surgeon on Monday. It's almost certain I will have surgery soon after. Until now I've manged to convince myself its not cancer but its getting harder to do that.
I'm not an oncologist but it seems promising that they can go straight to surgery without having to shrink the tumour with chemo/radio first.Now you've said goodbye to your Mum, concentrate all your energies now on kicking the st out of cancer
ClaphamGT3 said:
Spydaman said:
Had a call from the hospital yesterday morning a couple of hour's before Mum's funeral saying I've got an appointment with the Consultant Surgeon on Monday. It's almost certain I will have surgery soon after. Until now I've manged to convince myself its not cancer but its getting harder to do that.
I'm not an oncologist but it seems promising that they can go straight to surgery without having to shrink the tumour with chemo/radio first.Now you've said goodbye to your Mum, concentrate all your energies now on kicking the st out of cancer
I saw the Consultant Surgeon yesterday to review my scan and be told the treatment plan which was to cut the bad bit out of my colon and join the two ends together. Great I could be out by the weekend. I was sent for another CT scan to see whether there was any change from the previous one which there wasn't. Today I was expecting a call to come in for the operation but got a call to say the scans have been reviewed but the multi-discipline team but not the CS and they have changed the treatment plan. I now need another colonoscopy (Thursday) so they can take samples for a biopsy and a PET scan (don't know when yet) to see if an enlarged lymph node is cancerous. If it is I will be having chemo to shrink it before the operation.
Spydaman said:
I saw the Consultant Surgeon yesterday to review my scan and be told the treatment plan which was to cut the bad bit out of my colon and join the two ends together. Great I could be out by the weekend. I was sent for another CT scan to see whether there was any change from the previous one which there wasn't. Today I was expecting a call to come in for the operation but got a call to say the scans have been reviewed but the multi-discipline team but not the CS and they have changed the treatment plan. I now need another colonoscopy (Thursday) so they can take samples for a biopsy and a PET scan (don't know when yet) to see if an enlarged lymph node is cancerous. If it is I will be having chemo to shrink it before the operation.
Sounds like they’ve got a coordinated and coherent plan, which is good.I am celebrating the bank holiday weekend by having my 6 month colonoscopy on Monday…!
Spydaman said:
I saw the Consultant Surgeon yesterday to review my scan and be told the treatment plan which was to cut the bad bit out of my colon and join the two ends together. Great I could be out by the weekend. I was sent for another CT scan to see whether there was any change from the previous one which there wasn't. Today I was expecting a call to come in for the operation but got a call to say the scans have been reviewed but the multi-discipline team but not the CS and they have changed the treatment plan. I now need another colonoscopy (Thursday) so they can take samples for a biopsy and a PET scan (don't know when yet) to see if an enlarged lymph node is cancerous. If it is I will be having chemo to shrink it before the operation.
Fingers crossed for you mate.Spydaman said:
I saw the Consultant Surgeon yesterday to review my scan and be told the treatment plan which was to cut the bad bit out of my colon and join the two ends together. Great I could be out by the weekend. I was sent for another CT scan to see whether there was any change from the previous one which there wasn't. Today I was expecting a call to come in for the operation but got a call to say the scans have been reviewed but the multi-discipline team but not the CS and they have changed the treatment plan. I now need another colonoscopy (Thursday) so they can take samples for a biopsy and a PET scan (don't know when yet) to see if an enlarged lymph node is cancerous. If it is I will be having chemo to shrink it before the operation.
Sorry to hear this but you're clearly on top of it . Stay positive and all the best with itSpydaman said:
I saw the Consultant Surgeon yesterday to review my scan and be told the treatment plan which was to cut the bad bit out of my colon and join the two ends together. Great I could be out by the weekend. I was sent for another CT scan to see whether there was any change from the previous one which there wasn't. Today I was expecting a call to come in for the operation but got a call to say the scans have been reviewed but the multi-discipline team but not the CS and they have changed the treatment plan. I now need another colonoscopy (Thursday) so they can take samples for a biopsy and a PET scan (don't know when yet) to see if an enlarged lymph node is cancerous. If it is I will be having chemo to shrink it before the operation.
I've had the sigmoidoscopy and they took a sample for biopsy. I've also had a PET scan. They both get reviewed by the MDT team on Tuesday but have already penciled me in for an op to remove the stricture. Hopefully they conclude it's not cancer. The NHS really are very good at what they do. Gassing Station | Health Matters | Top of Page | What's New | My Stuff