Asperger's - anybody been diagnosed later in life ?
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I was diagnosed at 35 via a long session and analysis with a specialist in Autism at a highly regarded practice (prompted by a parent discussing their Autistic child's traits). The session involved a thorough personality, behaviour, reasoning, and IQ test. It made an enormous difference as it explained so much of my life and why I'd struggled to fit in and understand people, and why everybody seemed to be the complete opposite of me in terms of their likes, desires, and needs. More importantly, it freed me from beating myself up for struggling so much, and allowed me to focus on simply being myself, and working towards the contentment that works for me (which is a vastly different thing to that which seems to work for the majority).
Edited by fbc on Thursday 16th November 00:36
here_we_go said:
He's a good example of allowing yourself to become a victim of it.If you're HF and have an official diagnoses you just have to get on with it.
If you're HF and have no official diagnoses you still have to just get on with it.
That's one of the reasons the NHS drags its feet over it.
Edited by 227bhp on Thursday 16th November 09:34
Friends of ours have 2 children with ASD, as times gone on the Mum has also been diagnosed and it’s suspected the Dad has to. He’s not interested in a diagnosis.
It’s not made any obvious difference to them except possibly a greater understanding about what makes the family tick.
Ultimately it’s just a label and both adults have led a generally happy and successful life as they matured into adults. Obviously there’s been plenty of difficult times but I guess the final bits of the jigsaw are in place for them.
It’s not made any obvious difference to them except possibly a greater understanding about what makes the family tick.
Ultimately it’s just a label and both adults have led a generally happy and successful life as they matured into adults. Obviously there’s been plenty of difficult times but I guess the final bits of the jigsaw are in place for them.
SimonTheSailor said:
Anybody been or know somebody who has been diagnosed with Asperger's later in life ?
If so, what was the he process/test ? Quick/drawn out/upsetting to go through ?
If it was a 'yes' , did it make any difference to your life ?
25If so, what was the he process/test ? Quick/drawn out/upsetting to go through ?
If it was a 'yes' , did it make any difference to your life ?
It was fairly quick for me as I had BUPA at the time. I went to my GP, explained what I felt and asked for a referral to a psychotherapist and had the diagnosis very soon after. A diagnosis on the NHS as an adult is nigh on impossible.
It has undoubtedly been beneficial to me. It has meant I have been able to seek help (CBT has been very effective) but it has also meant those closest to me have been able to understand me a little better.
SimonTheSailor said:
Ok, I notice the other thread regarding Asperger's in children has a lot of recent interest.
So maybe in adults it's a lot rarer ?
Not necessary ily rarer, but it is only recently been something which has attention paid to it.So maybe in adults it's a lot rarer ?
There I very little coordination between different agencies.
I'm reasonably sure my Dad has it, and I think my Grandma had it too. They are\were certainly higher on the scale than the norm due to various traits that I now only really see as an adult.
For example, my Dad hates change to a point that is irrational (been in the same house for almost 60 years despite my Mum being desperate to move) and speaks his mind to a point that is embarrassing. When my wife and I were getting married her Mum didn't attend the ceremony as they'd fallen out. I told my parents beforehand and said 'Don't say anything'. First thing my Dad said when he saw my girlfriend was 'How come your Mum isn't coming to the wedding?' He didn't do it deliberately as he isn't the sort of person who would do that, it's like he just couldn't stop himself from blurting it out.
Therefore I suppose I must have it too to a degree?
If I have then it hasn't really stopped me doing anything I don't think.
For example, my Dad hates change to a point that is irrational (been in the same house for almost 60 years despite my Mum being desperate to move) and speaks his mind to a point that is embarrassing. When my wife and I were getting married her Mum didn't attend the ceremony as they'd fallen out. I told my parents beforehand and said 'Don't say anything'. First thing my Dad said when he saw my girlfriend was 'How come your Mum isn't coming to the wedding?' He didn't do it deliberately as he isn't the sort of person who would do that, it's like he just couldn't stop himself from blurting it out.
Therefore I suppose I must have it too to a degree?
If I have then it hasn't really stopped me doing anything I don't think.
Edited by BigMon on Thursday 16th November 16:48
Edited by BigMon on Thursday 16th November 16:50
I'm 40, and fairly sure I have it (first started reading up on it about three years ago) although I haven't yet sought an official diagnosis yet - I'm self-employed nowadays so I don't really need it to be 'official' although it would have been really helpful to have known about it or had a diagnosis when I was still studying and when I was working for other people, as I think a lot of my 'failings' in school, uni and the early stages of my career were at least exacerbated if not outright caused by it. I am fairly sure my father and mother had it too albeit both different 'flavours', and a fair few of my friends are also on the spectrum as well - I guess it's because Aspies tend to get on best with other high-functioning autists! I guess my point is proved by the fact my girlfriend has also just been diagnosed with it at the age of 24 - it's certainly helping her with her work as she is able to negotiate working conditions that allow her to perform to her full potential rather than being shoved into a noisy, busy environment that stresses her out and triggers her symptoms.
Edited by vsonix on Thursday 16th November 17:13
oldbanger said:
Hoofy said:
I suspect I'm mildly and it can get in the way but it's not too impacting. I've always been like this and just accepted it was how I am.
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