How did you know you didn't want kids?

[dromond]

For me it was when my much older sister had a baby at 17 and when born had to come and live with us, I was only 8 but I remember
well the screaming and the smell from nappy changes, being kept awake at night and a heap of other stuff that led to me coming to a conclusion quite quickly, that when I was older I never wanted to have those screaming things near me .

I have stuck to the plan and don't regret it one bit, when I think of the stuff I have avoided having to go through, the money
I have saved and the freedom I have been able to enjoy doing anything I want to do at any time with no commitment I definitely
wouldn't change it.

People say to me ah but look at the joys you could have had with your own kids but the thought truly does nothing for me.

[Silenoz]

For me it was when I was walking around Sheffield town centre with my then girlfriend (later wife, now ex-wife), and saw a sign outside the Halifax with a picture of a baby and a headline saying "By the time they're 16 they'll have cost £100,000".

My immediate response was "fk that", and similar to the OP I haven't wavered in that view since. Friends have had children (I'm actually godfather to one of my mate's two sons) and every time I see them I enjoy seeing them but am very glad that when I leave I'll be going home to a relatively quiet house!

[oceanview]

I knew from an early age ( a kid myself) that I didn't want them- and I still haven't changed my mind at 47!

Too much hassle, expense, worry for my liking!


( And no rear seats in my car!)

[coffeebreath]

For me, it was definitely from playing with dolls as a child. All my friends were into it, with expensive dolls that st and piss everywhere and stuff. (Genuinely, that's not a Withnail & I reference.) I distinctly remember sitting in my friend's garden playing baby's tea party or something thinking "no way i want to do this with real ones when i'm older".

[TameRacingDriver]

oceanview said:

I knew from an early age ( a kid myself) that I didn't want them- and I still haven't changed my mind at 47!

Too much hassle, expense, worry for my liking!


( And no rear seats in my car!)

This. I think i was about 10 when I knew. 39 now.

[675 Gaz]

Me and wife are late 20's and just have no interest in children. Maybe it'll change one day, doubtful though.

More importantly, at what point do relatives stop trying to hint you should have kids, gets tiresome mighty fast !

[Rick101]

https://youtu.be/VxuMKb5CKI0

[funinhounslow]

oceanview said:

Too much hassle, expense, worry for my liking!

Exactly the same for me.

You often hear people say, “you feel different when you have one” but that seems like a hell of a gamble to me. What if you dont...?

[Xaero]

About a month after each of mine were born They do improve with age though.

[rossub]

Never at any point in my life (now 41) have I wanted them, therefore there was no actual point that the realisation started.

The other half is keen on having my niece to stay now and again... I don't look forward to it and I can't wait until she's gone. I do interact with her, but it gets rather boring very quickly. As for the constant kids TV....

Kids are just not my thing I guess.

[bloomen]

Sometime shortly after I was born.

The only practical reason is to have an army to look after you in your old age. In real terms they won't have the time or money to do that, nor would I impose.

I wouldn't trust any relationship to last the distance so even if I wanted to I wouldn't risk it, and I certainly don't. I couldn't handle the boredom, repetition, worry or lack of freedom.

The idea of 'family fun' and 'family values' brings vomit surging up my gullet. I despised family life as a young un. No way do I want to drag anyone into more of it.

[HairyMaclary]

From the second the 2nd one was born.