How do you relax?
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RobM77 said:
I surf or windsurf. I know that sounds bizarre, but I find if I've had a tiring week at work and I want to chill, I actually get more refreshed by doing a 'technique based sport' than I do by sitting with a drink and a book (my more conventional way of relaxing). I regularly do what I would call 'effort based sports' (running, cycling and swimming), and they're good, but don't have quite the same effect on my mental state as something like going windsurfing for a few hours. You can push it too far though; I also love motor racing, but there's so much faff loading and unloading, as well as the
On another note, I can vouch for meditation or Yoga. We have a Yoga class at work every Monday and I always feel super chilled afterwards.
This, I go diving. Doing nothing does not relax me.On another note, I can vouch for meditation or Yoga. We have a Yoga class at work every Monday and I always feel super chilled afterwards.
Carrot said:
RobM77 said:
I surf or windsurf. I know that sounds bizarre, but I find if I've had a tiring week at work and I want to chill, I actually get more refreshed by doing a 'technique based sport' than I do by sitting with a drink and a book (my more conventional way of relaxing). I regularly do what I would call 'effort based sports' (running, cycling and swimming), and they're good, but don't have quite the same effect on my mental state as something like going windsurfing for a few hours. You can push it too far though; I also love motor racing, but there's so much faff loading and unloading, as well as the
On another note, I can vouch for meditation or Yoga. We have a Yoga class at work every Monday and I always feel super chilled afterwards.
This, I go diving. Doing nothing does not relax me.On another note, I can vouch for meditation or Yoga. We have a Yoga class at work every Monday and I always feel super chilled afterwards.
Diving sort of combines the two: It's like meditation because you need to concentration on breathing to make it deep and slow, and also use it to fine tune buoyancy. The fact that you're doing something is like the sports described above. End result = very relaxing.If you’re just talking about switching your mind off and getting some sleep then I can’t recommend this enough.
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AB said:
My mind doesn't seem to shut off, I don't seem to be able to just sit and relax, I see time in bed as time wasted when I could be doing something else, even if it's just reading threads on here or watching TV which I do too much of.
When I do go to bed, my mind wanders to what has to be done tomorrow, what I haven't done today, even strange things like a tune I heard on the radio going round and round in my head.
Then I'm shattered the next day which makes me less productive, irritable etc the whole cycle continues.
I was similar until a couple of months ago. Lucky to get a couple of hours of restless sleep each night. Was diagnosed with depression and prescribed Mirtazapine. I now sleep about 12 hours a night.When I do go to bed, my mind wanders to what has to be done tomorrow, what I haven't done today, even strange things like a tune I heard on the radio going round and round in my head.
Then I'm shattered the next day which makes me less productive, irritable etc the whole cycle continues.
My O/H has huge problems switching off and relaxing, probably not helped by being diagnosed with epilepsy a few years following a stroke. Her epilepsy is completely controlled by medication but it seems as though her brain has been 're-wired' so that it's always active, she just can't relax and is constantly turning things over in her mind.
I persuaded her to try CBT but that has wound her up even more as she's been asked to think more about what worries her and list them which makes her more anxious.
Any suggestions welcome. I doubt she'll ever return to her old confident self but I'd love to see her be able to 'chill'.
I persuaded her to try CBT but that has wound her up even more as she's been asked to think more about what worries her and list them which makes her more anxious.
Any suggestions welcome. I doubt she'll ever return to her old confident self but I'd love to see her be able to 'chill'.
Riley Blue said:
My O/H has huge problems switching off and relaxing, probably not helped by being diagnosed with epilepsy a few years following a stroke. Her epilepsy is completely controlled by medication but it seems as though her brain has been 're-wired' so that it's always active, she just can't relax and is constantly turning things over in her mind.
I persuaded her to try CBT but that has wound her up even more as she's been asked to think more about what worries her and list them which makes her more anxious.
Any suggestions welcome. I doubt she'll ever return to her old confident self but I'd love to see her be able to 'chill'.
Mindfulness. It trains you to just sit there doing nothing and not start processing stuff. Simple but not easy, of course. It takes training. Compare it to how I want to win my tennis club's singles league but only play once a fortnight. I persuaded her to try CBT but that has wound her up even more as she's been asked to think more about what worries her and list them which makes her more anxious.
Any suggestions welcome. I doubt she'll ever return to her old confident self but I'd love to see her be able to 'chill'.
Hoofy said:
Riley Blue said:
My O/H has huge problems switching off and relaxing, probably not helped by being diagnosed with epilepsy a few years following a stroke. Her epilepsy is completely controlled by medication but it seems as though her brain has been 're-wired' so that it's always active, she just can't relax and is constantly turning things over in her mind.
I persuaded her to try CBT but that has wound her up even more as she's been asked to think more about what worries her and list them which makes her more anxious.
Any suggestions welcome. I doubt she'll ever return to her old confident self but I'd love to see her be able to 'chill'.
Mindfulness. It trains you to just sit there doing nothing and not start processing stuff. Simple but not easy, of course. It takes training. Compare it to how I want to win my tennis club's singles league but only play once a fortnight. I persuaded her to try CBT but that has wound her up even more as she's been asked to think more about what worries her and list them which makes her more anxious.
Any suggestions welcome. I doubt she'll ever return to her old confident self but I'd love to see her be able to 'chill'.
Riley Blue said:
Hoofy said:
Riley Blue said:
My O/H has huge problems switching off and relaxing, probably not helped by being diagnosed with epilepsy a few years following a stroke. Her epilepsy is completely controlled by medication but it seems as though her brain has been 're-wired' so that it's always active, she just can't relax and is constantly turning things over in her mind.
I persuaded her to try CBT but that has wound her up even more as she's been asked to think more about what worries her and list them which makes her more anxious.
Any suggestions welcome. I doubt she'll ever return to her old confident self but I'd love to see her be able to 'chill'.
Mindfulness. It trains you to just sit there doing nothing and not start processing stuff. Simple but not easy, of course. It takes training. Compare it to how I want to win my tennis club's singles league but only play once a fortnight. I persuaded her to try CBT but that has wound her up even more as she's been asked to think more about what worries her and list them which makes her more anxious.
Any suggestions welcome. I doubt she'll ever return to her old confident self but I'd love to see her be able to 'chill'.
Hoofy said:
Riley Blue said:
Hoofy said:
Riley Blue said:
My O/H has huge problems switching off and relaxing, probably not helped by being diagnosed with epilepsy a few years following a stroke. Her epilepsy is completely controlled by medication but it seems as though her brain has been 're-wired' so that it's always active, she just can't relax and is constantly turning things over in her mind.
I persuaded her to try CBT but that has wound her up even more as she's been asked to think more about what worries her and list them which makes her more anxious.
Any suggestions welcome. I doubt she'll ever return to her old confident self but I'd love to see her be able to 'chill'.
Mindfulness. It trains you to just sit there doing nothing and not start processing stuff. Simple but not easy, of course. It takes training. Compare it to how I want to win my tennis club's singles league but only play once a fortnight. I persuaded her to try CBT but that has wound her up even more as she's been asked to think more about what worries her and list them which makes her more anxious.
Any suggestions welcome. I doubt she'll ever return to her old confident self but I'd love to see her be able to 'chill'.
Riley Blue said:
Hoofy said:
Riley Blue said:
Hoofy said:
Riley Blue said:
My O/H has huge problems switching off and relaxing, probably not helped by being diagnosed with epilepsy a few years following a stroke. Her epilepsy is completely controlled by medication but it seems as though her brain has been 're-wired' so that it's always active, she just can't relax and is constantly turning things over in her mind.
I persuaded her to try CBT but that has wound her up even more as she's been asked to think more about what worries her and list them which makes her more anxious.
Any suggestions welcome. I doubt she'll ever return to her old confident self but I'd love to see her be able to 'chill'.
Mindfulness. It trains you to just sit there doing nothing and not start processing stuff. Simple but not easy, of course. It takes training. Compare it to how I want to win my tennis club's singles league but only play once a fortnight. I persuaded her to try CBT but that has wound her up even more as she's been asked to think more about what worries her and list them which makes her more anxious.
Any suggestions welcome. I doubt she'll ever return to her old confident self but I'd love to see her be able to 'chill'.
I too find it difficult to switch off at night like the OP. Lots of good tips in here so will try a few out.
I find I can nod off ok but immediately dream with very loud voices and conversations going on which then actually wakes me up. No visuals just audio, like being sat in a very busy cafe with your eyes shut. Some of the conversations can be interesting but it's a bit annoying to be woken up like that!
I find I can nod off ok but immediately dream with very loud voices and conversations going on which then actually wakes me up. No visuals just audio, like being sat in a very busy cafe with your eyes shut. Some of the conversations can be interesting but it's a bit annoying to be woken up like that!
bmwmike said:
I too find it difficult to switch off at night like the OP. Lots of good tips in here so will try a few out.
I find I can nod off ok but immediately dream with very loud voices and conversations going on which then actually wakes me up. No visuals just audio, like being sat in a very busy cafe with your eyes shut. Some of the conversations can be interesting but it's a bit annoying to be woken up like that!
Do you work in a loud environment or have the TV on quite loud in the evening? It almost sounds like PTSD!I find I can nod off ok but immediately dream with very loud voices and conversations going on which then actually wakes me up. No visuals just audio, like being sat in a very busy cafe with your eyes shut. Some of the conversations can be interesting but it's a bit annoying to be woken up like that!
Hoofy said:
bmwmike said:
I too find it difficult to switch off at night like the OP. Lots of good tips in here so will try a few out.
I find I can nod off ok but immediately dream with very loud voices and conversations going on which then actually wakes me up. No visuals just audio, like being sat in a very busy cafe with your eyes shut. Some of the conversations can be interesting but it's a bit annoying to be woken up like that!
Do you work in a loud environment or have the TV on quite loud in the evening? It almost sounds like PTSD!I find I can nod off ok but immediately dream with very loud voices and conversations going on which then actually wakes me up. No visuals just audio, like being sat in a very busy cafe with your eyes shut. Some of the conversations can be interesting but it's a bit annoying to be woken up like that!
bmwmike said:
Hoofy said:
bmwmike said:
I too find it difficult to switch off at night like the OP. Lots of good tips in here so will try a few out.
I find I can nod off ok but immediately dream with very loud voices and conversations going on which then actually wakes me up. No visuals just audio, like being sat in a very busy cafe with your eyes shut. Some of the conversations can be interesting but it's a bit annoying to be woken up like that!
Do you work in a loud environment or have the TV on quite loud in the evening? It almost sounds like PTSD!I find I can nod off ok but immediately dream with very loud voices and conversations going on which then actually wakes me up. No visuals just audio, like being sat in a very busy cafe with your eyes shut. Some of the conversations can be interesting but it's a bit annoying to be woken up like that!
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