Is this appropriate Twitter behaviour from my Wife?
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OP checking in.
No, I never got to see the boots in action
The split in responses on this thread confirms to me that this is a borderline issue.
Some of the comments really hit home, especially about her boredom and seeking attention and validation. She has spent a lot of time on skin care and hair beautification recently and she does look beautiful. It's the same old story of us looking after young kids, stressful jobs, being tired out the whole time, no childcare support, etc. I guess we haven't had much "us" time.
I haven't raised the whole social media issue with her again yet and her profiles are still private. I'm hoping that the private profile is her way of stopping the pervs from sending unsolicited comments and pics.
My plan is to give her some space online and not to raise it as an issue. If it turns out she runs off with this b-tier musician, then so be it. Time will tell if this was the right decision.
No, I never got to see the boots in action
The split in responses on this thread confirms to me that this is a borderline issue.
Some of the comments really hit home, especially about her boredom and seeking attention and validation. She has spent a lot of time on skin care and hair beautification recently and she does look beautiful. It's the same old story of us looking after young kids, stressful jobs, being tired out the whole time, no childcare support, etc. I guess we haven't had much "us" time.
I haven't raised the whole social media issue with her again yet and her profiles are still private. I'm hoping that the private profile is her way of stopping the pervs from sending unsolicited comments and pics.
My plan is to give her some space online and not to raise it as an issue. If it turns out she runs off with this b-tier musician, then so be it. Time will tell if this was the right decision.
BigQuestions said:
OP checking in.
No, I never got to see the boots in action
The split in responses on this thread confirms to me that this is a borderline issue.
Some of the comments really hit home, especially about her boredom and seeking attention and validation. She has spent a lot of time on skin care and hair beautification recently and she does look beautiful. It's the same old story of us looking after young kids, stressful jobs, being tired out the whole time, no childcare support, etc. I guess we haven't had much "us" time.
I haven't raised the whole social media issue with her again yet and her profiles are still private. I'm hoping that the private profile is her way of stopping the pervs from sending unsolicited comments and pics.
My plan is to give her some space online and not to raise it as an issue. If it turns out she runs off with this b-tier musician, then so be it. Time will tell if this was the right decision.
Your being very respectful and that’s to be admired. I wouldn’t leave it though. It doesn’t have to be a big argument. For me if this happened I would want to talk through why certain things make you feel uneasy and take it from there. It could be the best thing that ever happened and opens new doors for your relationship. If left it could be the end as she does want something that isn’t happening. No, I never got to see the boots in action
The split in responses on this thread confirms to me that this is a borderline issue.
Some of the comments really hit home, especially about her boredom and seeking attention and validation. She has spent a lot of time on skin care and hair beautification recently and she does look beautiful. It's the same old story of us looking after young kids, stressful jobs, being tired out the whole time, no childcare support, etc. I guess we haven't had much "us" time.
I haven't raised the whole social media issue with her again yet and her profiles are still private. I'm hoping that the private profile is her way of stopping the pervs from sending unsolicited comments and pics.
My plan is to give her some space online and not to raise it as an issue. If it turns out she runs off with this b-tier musician, then so be it. Time will tell if this was the right decision.
BigQuestions said:
Every evening, she is glued to her phone typing away. I have no idea who she is talking to or what photos she is sharing.
BigQuestions said:
No, I never got to see the boots in action
She has spent a lot of time on skin care and hair beautification recently and she does look beautiful.
As I said earlier, she is 100% searching for attention and validation at the moment. The problem is all of her friends will be telling her how amazing she looks, and she will believe the men she is conversing with "understand her". She will be telling them how mundane and boring her life is, how you barely look at her and they will be replying "Your husband is crazy, if I was him I would be treating you like a princess".She has spent a lot of time on skin care and hair beautification recently and she does look beautiful.
Of course none of this is reality, but on the one hand she has her current mundane life (like everybody else) and on the other she believes there is this exciting, better one out there for her. Of course all of these men are telling her what she wants to hear, none of them would actually be interested in anything more than sex if she was actually single.
Douglas Quaid said:
I wonder who did see the sexy underwear and boots then?
Probably nobody, but it is all practice and build up for if she decides there is something more out there for her.Joey Deacon said:
BigQuestions said:
Every evening, she is glued to her phone typing away. I have no idea who she is talking to or what photos she is sharing.
BigQuestions said:
No, I never got to see the boots in action
She has spent a lot of time on skin care and hair beautification recently and she does look beautiful.
As I said earlier, she is 100% searching for attention and validation at the moment. The problem is all of her friends will be telling her how amazing she looks, and she will believe the men she is conversing with "understand her". She will be telling them how mundane and boring her life is, how you barely look at her and they will be replying "Your husband is crazy, if I was him I would be treating you like a princess".She has spent a lot of time on skin care and hair beautification recently and she does look beautiful.
Of course none of this is reality, but on the one hand she has her current mundane life (like everybody else) and on the other she believes there is this exciting, better one out there for her. Of course all of these men are telling her what she wants to hear, none of them would actually be interested in anything more than sex if she was actually single.
Douglas Quaid said:
I wonder who did see the sexy underwear and boots then?
Probably nobody, but it is all practice and build up for if she decides there is something more out there for her.Personally if it happened to me I'd be questioning what is going on.
Cleavage, boots, knickers and 'don't send me dick pics' says do to me.
She's willingly in contact with men and signalling her femininity without explaining she's married etc.
I wouldn't class it as borderline. She's positioning herself. You need some grown up one to one conversations with her.
How would she feel if you did exactly the same?
Cleavage, boots, knickers and 'don't send me dick pics' says do to me.
She's willingly in contact with men and signalling her femininity without explaining she's married etc.
I wouldn't class it as borderline. She's positioning herself. You need some grown up one to one conversations with her.
How would she feel if you did exactly the same?
OP update-
Just a note to say she was never pretending to be single on these profiles. That doesn't stop the eager boys from contacting her and replying with inappropriate images and videos it seems.
Anyway, I tried raising my concerns with her saying I have no idea what she is up to on there and that I saw weird stuff when her profile was open. She reassured me that she isn't doing anything like that, blah blah. I noticed she has just deleted her profiles too. Lets see how long they are down for.
Just a note to say she was never pretending to be single on these profiles. That doesn't stop the eager boys from contacting her and replying with inappropriate images and videos it seems.
Anyway, I tried raising my concerns with her saying I have no idea what she is up to on there and that I saw weird stuff when her profile was open. She reassured me that she isn't doing anything like that, blah blah. I noticed she has just deleted her profiles too. Lets see how long they are down for.
housen said:
its hard not to be jel i know
but imagine if u as a man could go on the internet take your top off and post a pic and 10000 women send u a pic of their puss
would be fun eh
its the internets fault not your wifes sadly
It is slightly difficult to decipher what you are saying, however I think you are suggesting that situations like this are entirely the fault of the communication medium, rather than the people involved?but imagine if u as a man could go on the internet take your top off and post a pic and 10000 women send u a pic of their puss
would be fun eh
its the internets fault not your wifes sadly
That is quite an alternative point of view.
Lord Marylebone said:
housen said:
its hard not to be jel i know
but imagine if u as a man could go on the internet take your top off and post a pic and 10000 women send u a pic of their puss
would be fun eh
its the internets fault not your wifes sadly
It is slightly difficult to decipher what you are saying, however I think you are suggesting that situations like this are entirely the fault of the communication medium, rather than the people involved?but imagine if u as a man could go on the internet take your top off and post a pic and 10000 women send u a pic of their puss
would be fun eh
its the internets fault not your wifes sadly
That is quite an alternative point of view.
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