What's up with 'the Old Fella'?

[Put-Wood-int-Hole]

Firstly, new username created so I need to abide by the forum's restrctions so bear with me if I can't answer in due time.

I'm 52, 6ft, under 13st, fit, non-smoker. I do drink but not heavily and mainly binge on weekends with the missus.
Up to about a year ago, I was proud of my manhood. Not as big as some but always felt like there was 'blood' in it, as we say. It felt meaty.
Now, it hangs like a deflated balloon with little sensation if I try to stir some interest in it. We have sex probably once a week and TBH that is enough. I get to the point when I really need it but it's getting to be more & more time between intercourse. When I get going it seems ok but could be better, and a little more stiffer.

I have been with Mrs P for 8-9 years, finally moving in together in 2018.
I have a back problem at the moment (suspected muscular from long term PC use!)but not expected to be anything serious. I completed Couch to 5K last year, play golf a little and badminton when I can so I'm not Jabba the Hutt!

Is this an age thing? Am I losing interest (I do enjoy sex with her)or is it simply slowing down?
Should I accept this as 'normal'?

[Abdul Abulbul Amir]

Get your testosterone level checked.

[elanfan]

Suggest you have a health check to include diabetes which is probably the biggest cause of ED. You could be diabetic or borderline for years. Failing finding anything wrong it might just be an age thing as you say. Does Viagra give you back a full monty?

[55palfers]

Someone has to suggest it.......

Maybe have a go with a younger woman?

Sorry.

[Silvanus]

If you have back problems you may have issues with a herniated disc lower down. That can cause lack of sensation down there. Do you ever get any sciatica type symptoms?

[Paul Dishman]

Do you get an erection first thing in the morning?

[Portofino]

Try a cock ring, helps a lot a friend tells me.

[Abdul Abulbul Amir]

Paul Dishman said:

Do you get an erection first thing in the morning?

Yes but started to get complaints from the other train passengers.

[interstellar]

Abdul Abulbul Amir said:

Paul Dishman said:

Do you get an erection first thing in the morning?

Yes but started to get complaints from the other train passengers.

[Bill]

Silvanus said:

If you have back problems you may have issues with a herniated disc lower down. That can cause lack of sensation down there. Do you ever get any sciatica type symptoms?

Google cauda equina syndrome and act quickly - as in A&E - if you have any suspicion.

[Portofino]

Bill said:

Silvanus said:

If you have back problems you may have issues with a herniated disc lower down. That can cause lack of sensation down there. Do you ever get any sciatica type symptoms?

Google cauda equina syndrome and act quickly - as in A&E - if you have any suspicion.

Naahhh, you need to be pretty much paralysed for all that.

[Tyre Smoke]

Aaaaannnd PH in it's normal mode. Honestly it's worse than a hypochondriac on Google sometimes

He hasn't got erectile dysfunction and he's not saying he can't feel anything.

OP, first off, stop stressing about it, that really won't help. Secondly, swap and change things about a bit, not always 0800 on Saturday morning, etc.

[Frimley111R]

Could just be an age thing. I often think sex is mega when you are young because it is all new (and we all looked much better naked!). No matter how good something is, if you do it enough, without variety, it becomes less exciting.

As said, as a first step try something new. A new location in the house for it for example. Essentially just try a bit of variety and see if you feel different then

[Paul Dishman]

Tyre Smoke said:

Aaaaannnd PH in it's normal mode. Honestly it's worse than a hypochondriac on Google sometimes

He hasn't got erectile dysfunction and he's not saying he can't feel anything.

OP, first off, stop stressing about it, that really won't help. Secondly, swap and change things about a bit, not always 0800 on Saturday morning, etc.

Actually he does have some sort of erectile problem if you read his original post.

[robsa]

Definitely get your testosterone level checked, sounds textbook for low T. Do your testicles look like they may have shrunk at all?

[Bill]

Portofino said:

Naahhh, you need to be pretty much paralysed for all that.

It is unlikely but back pain and erectile dysfunction is a red flag.

ETA although rereading the OP it seem the erection issue predates the back pain.

[Hoofy]

How are your anxiety, depression or stress levels? That will affect things. Annoying stes at work? Shout at people a lot? Want to punch things? Biting your lip a lot?

Abdul Abulbul Amir said:

Paul Dishman said:

Do you get an erection first thing in the morning?

Yes but started to get complaints from the other train passengers.

[Portofino]

Bill said:

Portofino said:

Naahhh, you need to be pretty much paralysed for all that.

It is unlikely but back pain and erectile dysfunction is a red flag.

ETA although rereading the OP it seem the erection issue predates the back pain.

Again naahh, I was paralysed & I could still get it up, if he’s playing sports etc then that’s a big green flag for me. Stop over reacting.

[Silvanus]

Bill said:

Silvanus said:

If you have back problems you may have issues with a herniated disc lower down. That can cause lack of sensation down there. Do you ever get any sciatica type symptoms?

Google cauda equina syndrome and act quickly - as in A&E - if you have any suspicion.

Unlikely to be CE, but even a minor disc bulge down in the lower lumbers or sacrum can cause a few more subtle issues

[Boosted LS1]

Abdul Abulbul Amir said:

Paul Dishman said:

Do you get an erection first thing in the morning?

Yes but started to get complaints from the other train passengers.

You need to keep them satisfied ;-)