Difficulty getting pregnant....
Discussion
anonymous said:
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Going to give a sample and not telling your Mrs is the LAST thing you should do.It could easily be taken the wrong way by a broody, ovulating female...they are less than sane at the best of times.
Like I said before. Go to the GP now, bend the truth a bit. All that will happen are a few tests. It's not like you'll be signing up to spend thousands on IVF.
It's a really $hit place to be but have a little faith. I genuinely thought we would never have one of our own. Thankfully I was wrong.....(Ruins your holidays mind
)Good luck, give your sperm a few days between launches to get good quality ones, NO WASTEFUL w
kING! carefully planned missions.Stay positive, but get the tests, just to eliminate problems now, just in case.
I have no doubts you'll get there.
Edited by dirty boy on Thursday 3rd February 10:48
We had the same thing. Get both of you to the GP as it may be something that's easy to sort.
Mrs 160 was diagnosed with PCOS after we had tried for a year with no luck. She had an operation to remove a cyst, and six courses of clomid over three years. Four years on from diagnosis and we are expecting our first child at the end of October.
Don't give up yet, there's a long way to go.
Mrs 160 was diagnosed with PCOS after we had tried for a year with no luck. She had an operation to remove a cyst, and six courses of clomid over three years. Four years on from diagnosis and we are expecting our first child at the end of October.
Don't give up yet, there's a long way to go.
Edited by Blue160 on Wednesday 4th August 15:15
Agnus castus is a good idea, so is evening primrose oil as it's meant to improve things at her end (I don't want to get too descriptive). If you do use evening primrose oil she should take it from her period up until she ovulates as it's not good if you're pregnant.
I've had friends who have used ovulations sticks with no success and found that they were ovulating just that it wasn't being picked up. There are other methods of detecting ovulation which are a lot more effective (and cheaper).
There's recording her basal body temperature which you would need to get a special thermometer for. Fernings method which involves licking a slide (as I understand, you may have to look it up) and then there's cervical mucus (which I will not go into here).
I've had friends who have used http://www.fertilityfriend.com/ and said that it's great, I believe it allows you to chart out your basal body temperature and will if nothing else give her a better indication of her cycle.
But, I do think that taking a break from it all would be good. I recall reading years ago about how when a woman wants to have a baby she actually releases something that will make it harder (I have no idea about the details).
But good luck and hope that things work out soon.
I've had friends who have used ovulations sticks with no success and found that they were ovulating just that it wasn't being picked up. There are other methods of detecting ovulation which are a lot more effective (and cheaper).
There's recording her basal body temperature which you would need to get a special thermometer for. Fernings method which involves licking a slide (as I understand, you may have to look it up) and then there's cervical mucus (which I will not go into here).
I've had friends who have used http://www.fertilityfriend.com/ and said that it's great, I believe it allows you to chart out your basal body temperature and will if nothing else give her a better indication of her cycle.
But, I do think that taking a break from it all would be good. I recall reading years ago about how when a woman wants to have a baby she actually releases something that will make it harder (I have no idea about the details).
But good luck and hope that things work out soon.
There is another part of this and that conceiving (or problems therein) can be directly impacted by stress and anxiety, perhaps in your case the stress and anxiety of wanting to get pregnant in the first place. Just as a thought, perhaps ease up on the approach, let the mind take a rest from the anxiety side and see how things happen. There is plenty of hearsay and anecdotal accounts of people who say the baby came along when they had actually stopped trying. You can't force mother nature along the path she does not want to go at the moment, but you can ease up on the stress side and give your mind and body a break from the stress.
drivin_me_nuts said:
There is another part of this and that conceiving (or problems therein) can be directly impacted by stress and anxiety, perhaps in your case the stress and anxiety of wanting to get pregnant in the first place. Just as a thought, perhaps ease up on the approach, let the mind take a rest from the anxiety side and see how things happen. There is plenty of hearsay and anecdotal accounts of people who say the baby came along when they had actually stopped trying. You can't force mother nature along the path she does not want to go at the moment, but you can ease up on the stress side and give your mind and body a break from the stress.
Agreed. You know anxiety is creeping in when it becomes a chore to do the business.
MacGee said:
cut out smoking and alcohol...
This is good advice and something a lot of people don't follow apparently. Stress plays a major part in my experience. When my wife wanted to get pregnant the first time she was became very stressed as she expected it to happen straight away.....after six months we went to a fertility clinic etc which I have to say I didn't enjoy. Anyway she became pregnant just before we were going to try for IVF. Second time around she was much more relaxed as we already had a little boy....she became pregnant at the first time of asking (so to speak).
Legend83 said:
Wife and I have been trying for about seven months now with no joy.
I know at our age 27/28 a GP will just tell us to keep trying rather than test us for problems.
Looking at buying Pregnacare and Wellman conception tablets to see if they help.
Any other tips?
Every month that goes by, it gets harder and harder (no pun intended) to deal with no postive result.
Cut out the stress! We tried for 2 years and when we finally stopped worrying about it, well, if it all goes Ok I'll be a daddy early next March. I know at our age 27/28 a GP will just tell us to keep trying rather than test us for problems.
Looking at buying Pregnacare and Wellman conception tablets to see if they help.
Any other tips?
Every month that goes by, it gets harder and harder (no pun intended) to deal with no postive result.
Don't worry when it's right it will happen.
(Don't be at it 3 times a day though, your little swimmers will be more potent if you manage just a couple of times a week, and no crafty tugs on the side!)
Edited by v8will on Thursday 5th August 19:42
h0b0 said:
we tried for 8 months and had no luck. We had a schedule of doctors and hospital visits all arranged to carry out the tests including a dye test for her. Then the period was missed and she was pregnant. I don't know if it is coincidence but it was the first month of trying that I hadn't smoked.
Last week we were told that she had a blighted ovum and would more than likely miscarry or have it aborted. Yesterday we found out that our fetus/embryo/blob is bloody good at hiding and I heard the heart beat for the first time!!!!!
So, don't give up no matter what is thrown at you.
Damn it....Last week we were told that she had a blighted ovum and would more than likely miscarry or have it aborted. Yesterday we found out that our fetus/embryo/blob is bloody good at hiding and I heard the heart beat for the first time!!!!!
So, don't give up no matter what is thrown at you.
Friday the 13th was not a good day in the h0b0 house hold. Went for a routine scan and the sack had not grown as it should. Going to have it removed next week. Feels like we have lost it twice now and this time I heard the heart beat so it really does feel like I have lost a child.
h0b0 said:
h0b0 said:
we tried for 8 months and had no luck. We had a schedule of doctors and hospital visits all arranged to carry out the tests including a dye test for her. Then the period was missed and she was pregnant. I don't know if it is coincidence but it was the first month of trying that I hadn't smoked.
Last week we were told that she had a blighted ovum and would more than likely miscarry or have it aborted. Yesterday we found out that our fetus/embryo/blob is bloody good at hiding and I heard the heart beat for the first time!!!!!
So, don't give up no matter what is thrown at you.
Damn it....Last week we were told that she had a blighted ovum and would more than likely miscarry or have it aborted. Yesterday we found out that our fetus/embryo/blob is bloody good at hiding and I heard the heart beat for the first time!!!!!
So, don't give up no matter what is thrown at you.
Friday the 13th was not a good day in the h0b0 house hold. Went for a routine scan and the sack had not grown as it should. Going to have it removed next week. Feels like we have lost it twice now and this time I heard the heart beat so it really does feel like I have lost a child.
The good news is that you guys got pregnant.
Lizzie
What I find amazing is that so many pregnancies end this way but it is totally unspoken about. I remember a good friend of mine going through this and I thought there was something wrong with her. It should be said at school that 25% of known pregnancies miscarry and of all pregnancies 50% miscarry.
The problem we face now is that we don't trust the latest scan. They have been wrong once already at different place so it is possible that this place is wrong.....maybe......
However, I watched both scans and the technician showed me the heart beat at the successful one and I saw her effectively zoom through the "baby" very quickly. I am sure she knew straight away and that I would be looking for the heart beat.
Oh well, can't let this beat us even though at times it is close.
Thank you for the words of support and perhaps if we all spoke of this more people would be more prepared for it. Sex ed tells us that if a boy sneezes at a girl in the wrong way at any time of the month once it is guaranteed to make the girl pregnant. I know why they do this but it sets us that are trying for a child up for disappointment. It just is not true.
The problem we face now is that we don't trust the latest scan. They have been wrong once already at different place so it is possible that this place is wrong.....maybe......
However, I watched both scans and the technician showed me the heart beat at the successful one and I saw her effectively zoom through the "baby" very quickly. I am sure she knew straight away and that I would be looking for the heart beat.
Oh well, can't let this beat us even though at times it is close.
Thank you for the words of support and perhaps if we all spoke of this more people would be more prepared for it. Sex ed tells us that if a boy sneezes at a girl in the wrong way at any time of the month once it is guaranteed to make the girl pregnant. I know why they do this but it sets us that are trying for a child up for disappointment. It just is not true.
I am one of those never ever ovulated types until I had a clomid baby. Getting pregnant since then has not been hard luckily as I managed it while on the pill.
However my take home baby rate is not brilliant. And I have never carried a baby to term. But I am lucky enough to have 3 running about. Recent medical advice has been that I should never have anymore... the trouble is if you are told you can't have something, you really really want it. Right now it feels worse than when I was told I would never conceieve in the first place. I don't know why as rationally that's not right.
The whole pregnancy topic and associated good and bad bits is a can of worms. There will be someone you know who is having an awful time when all is going well for you and vice versa. Horrifically emotive and something I have seen cause huge rifts between my friends
Hobo I am sorry, there is nothing I can say x
However my take home baby rate is not brilliant. And I have never carried a baby to term. But I am lucky enough to have 3 running about. Recent medical advice has been that I should never have anymore... the trouble is if you are told you can't have something, you really really want it. Right now it feels worse than when I was told I would never conceieve in the first place. I don't know why as rationally that's not right.
The whole pregnancy topic and associated good and bad bits is a can of worms. There will be someone you know who is having an awful time when all is going well for you and vice versa. Horrifically emotive and something I have seen cause huge rifts between my friends
Hobo I am sorry, there is nothing I can say x
I have watched friends and family go through this before and all I can say about it is that it is heartbreaking to know that what you want so badly is not happening for you.
Hobo, if you describe it as losing your child then that is what it is and loss has its own way of being dealt with by each indicidual. I remember my friends getting very angry, sometimes carrying around what they describe as a profound sense of injustice, other times feeling a real sense of hopelessness at their whole situation. There is no best thing to do right now, but you mention your loss of trust and your sense of loss of your baby, just by themselves are difficult things to deal with. Trust is often linked to a sense of betrayal, loss to a sense of mourning that is very real and tangible. Perhaps let both these work their way out you - go with what ever thoughts and feelings you have and let these events take their course. For your partner also, the disappoitment may be huge - though what doesn't break you makes you stronger is in itself a good thing, there is a process of adjustment and acceptance that takes time and runs its own natural course. I understand the frustration of waiting and accute uncertainty is exhausting at all levels, but allow yourselves the time to regroup, gather your thoughts, feelings and emotions and then move on again stronger. All the best.
Hobo, if you describe it as losing your child then that is what it is and loss has its own way of being dealt with by each indicidual. I remember my friends getting very angry, sometimes carrying around what they describe as a profound sense of injustice, other times feeling a real sense of hopelessness at their whole situation. There is no best thing to do right now, but you mention your loss of trust and your sense of loss of your baby, just by themselves are difficult things to deal with. Trust is often linked to a sense of betrayal, loss to a sense of mourning that is very real and tangible. Perhaps let both these work their way out you - go with what ever thoughts and feelings you have and let these events take their course. For your partner also, the disappoitment may be huge - though what doesn't break you makes you stronger is in itself a good thing, there is a process of adjustment and acceptance that takes time and runs its own natural course. I understand the frustration of waiting and accute uncertainty is exhausting at all levels, but allow yourselves the time to regroup, gather your thoughts, feelings and emotions and then move on again stronger. All the best.
Hobo - sorry to hear of your plight, it is very saddening. I wish you and your missus all the best and luck in your continued attempts.
I am getting edgy again as it's that time of the month again. My missus has been late-ish for the last 3 months but her body seems to just tease us every time. Fully expecting to be disappointed again this month but just can't help but hold on to that small hope....
I am getting edgy again as it's that time of the month again. My missus has been late-ish for the last 3 months but her body seems to just tease us every time. Fully expecting to be disappointed again this month but just can't help but hold on to that small hope....
henrycrun said:
The doggy position is more favourable for conception (seriously)
I thought it was having the girl on her back with her legs up - the "hook" position, so as to give the invading army the benefit of gravity?As others have said, loads of people I know have suddenly conceived after removing some stress from their lives.
Good luck
Edited by AJS- on Monday 16th August 13:23
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