Difficulty switching off outside of work...

Difficulty switching off outside of work...

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Pheo

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3,331 posts

202 months

Friday 28th April 2017
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Anyone else suffer from this? I find it hard to stop thinking about decisions I've made / interactions with colleagues and often end up re running things in my head over and over. On a bad day (fortunately not often) this can have a severe impact on my mood. I hold a management position in a large financial services org, running a team of 12.

Wondering if anyone has tips to share on letting it all go when you walk out the door? Besides getting blind drunk!!

Digger

14,640 posts

191 months

Friday 28th April 2017
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Straight in to the gym after work! Sorted.

clarkmagpie

3,559 posts

195 months

Friday 28th April 2017
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Sounds simple but find something you enjoy doing.
I upcycle bits of furniture.
I find it a good way to unwind and it takes my mind off work related issues.

It gets me out of the house, collecting or delivering, meet new people and get some beer tokens as well.

bridgdav

4,805 posts

248 months

Friday 28th April 2017
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After having this for several months.. I bought a 1000 piece puzzle..!
It's something that you must submerge yourself in, otherwise you'll get nowhere.
It's also cheap and easily turned on and off.

I forgot no after doing a few over a couple of months, that I could switch off a lot easier.
There are plenty in the Charity shops or specific interest ones on Amazon won't break the bank. What harm can it do.?

G111MDS

316 posts

91 months

Friday 28th April 2017
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Gym for me too, and by the time I'm finished my head is clear of any work issues. While not for everyone, I go to Crossfit classes and one thing I think really helps switch off is the fact that someonelse has planned out what we're doing, so it's just a case of pitching up and do as your told.

Pheo

Original Poster:

3,331 posts

202 months

Friday 28th April 2017
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Some good ideas here... I should probably goto the gym more. Immersion is definitely true. I have a bunch of hobbies (like gardening etc) but
I still do often find I'm going over things again (for instance this morning I woke up thinking about it!)

Maybe I need to get in the finance forum and concentrate on my FIRE date wink

Countdown

39,799 posts

196 months

Friday 28th April 2017
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Digger said:
Straight in to the gym after work! Sorted.
Agree with this. Not going to the gym makes me much more tired/stressed/irritable.

Evanivitch

20,010 posts

122 months

Friday 28th April 2017
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I'd recommend running myself, if you can think whilst blasting a 5km or doing some efforts then you've better cognitive skills than me.

Or a long commute, that sadly works for me too.

ReallyReallyGood

1,622 posts

130 months

Friday 28th April 2017
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Do you have a Japanese Peace Lilly?

KAgantua

3,867 posts

131 months

Friday 28th April 2017
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Pheo said:
Anyone else suffer from this? I find it hard to stop thinking about decisions I've made / interactions with colleagues and often end up re running things in my head over and over. On a bad day (fortunately not often) this can have a severe impact on my mood. I hold a management position in a large financial services org, running a team of 12.

Wondering if anyone has tips to share on letting it all go when you walk out the door? Besides getting blind drunk!!
YES! Only during bad times though. Heard its like PTSD (Where you don't necessarily think about 'what bad things happened' rather 'What could I have done' or 'What will I do') etc.

I am more assertive these days and have learned, for want of a better term to not 'give a f***' - but during certain situations I still worry after work

menguin

3,764 posts

221 months

Friday 28th April 2017
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I shoot people.





Online.

StuTheGrouch

5,728 posts

162 months

Friday 28th April 2017
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menguin said:
I shoot people.





Online.
For now....

Steve Campbell

2,124 posts

168 months

Friday 28th April 2017
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Do you commute ? I found I was bringing some of the work stresses home with me so I chose a place on my journey where I consciously started to think about home v work. It was about 3/4 the way home, so it gave me 45 mins to process what happened in the day, 15 mins to get in a good mood for home. Do this for a month and make it a habit.

That and video games aswell......

dudleybloke

19,800 posts

186 months

Friday 28th April 2017
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Avawhank.

Yipper

5,964 posts

90 months

Friday 28th April 2017
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Running 12 staff is not exactly Richard Branson. The world will keep spinning whatever decisions you make. Just switch on when you enter the office door, and visualize un-switching when you exit the office door.

menguin

3,764 posts

221 months

Friday 28th April 2017
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StuTheGrouch said:
For now....
You misunderstand - I hack their laptops and electrocute them. biggrin

MikeGoodwin

3,336 posts

117 months

Friday 28th April 2017
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Photography and editing photos.

Masturbation.

Working out (power rack in garage)

I struggled to switch off after work when I first started working out of uni but didn't take me long to learn to disconnect. Same thing as you though.

StuTheGrouch

5,728 posts

162 months

Friday 28th April 2017
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MikeGoodwin said:
Photography and editing photos.

Masturbation.

Are these activities linked?

stalker....

Tannedbaldhead

2,952 posts

132 months

Friday 28th April 2017
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Death defiance.

I found riding big bikes flat out on the public highway tremendously focusing, Never once did I find myself tankslapping towards an unforgiving cluster of trees on a ZX6R after riding over a cat's eye whilst exiting a 120mph bend at eleven tenths and find myself worrying about how my last project would stand up to the scrutiny of an in depth audit.

Need a rest? Want three months off? Crash. The class A pain relief the doctors fill your veins up with will take your mind of all that work nonsense.

cat with a hat

1,484 posts

118 months

Friday 28th April 2017
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