Things you thought you would do in life, but now won’t

[Esceptico]

I have a significant birthday coming up soon. Taking stock I realise there things I thought I would do in life that now won’t happen. I’m not crying about it. Lots of stuff I’ve done I never thought would have been possible growing up. Just reflecting.

As this is PH: buying a hypercar. I got pretty close. Tried to but failed to buy an F50 when we lived in Switzerland. Was offered an F40 but didn’t take it up. Wrong decision with hindsight. Now I no longer have the desire but even if I did, the prices are too high.

Going to Africa. Specifically sub Saharan Africa (I’ve been to North Africa). When I was younger I had a great desire to travel but that has diminished over the years. Lots of other places that were on my “to visit” list have fallen off. Nowadays I’m much less interested in going places unless I can speak the language and know the culture.

Learning to fly. I’ve tried a few times over the years but for time and money reasons stopped. Now can’t see it happening.

Owning a horse. Too much work involved plus I don’t bounce like I used to!

[Gecko1978]

911, dream car, at 30 thought about a used one but bought house, 40 the same but 2 kids no spare time for 3rd car, and nkw with electric age upon us I don't fancy a car that will likey be obsolete and electric ones dont appeal and a RIMAC is out of my price range so will likey never own a porsche.

Same with another motorcycle had 2 loved them but 12 yesrs now cant see it happening.

Being truely happy, i think the boat sailed when I was 30, mortgages, then kids, meant work grind and now school fees will mean working longer and so not having tome for things I really enjoy. To realise its as good as it gets is in a way easier as then you can accept it an move on.

[Regbuser]

Jesus, so narrow and materialistic.
I never thought (now with hindsight thanks to therapy) that I'd break free of inner London poverty, but I did.
I never thought I'd be a resolved human who cared about the future of those around me and of the wider socio-economic future, but I do.
I thought I'd live for a 1,000 years, but I'm all too fragile and will return to the universe soon enough, and I accept that.
Live in the present.

[Neddy Sea Goon]

Either a full nut and bolt restoration of a series 3 landy, or build a kit car 7 from scratch.

Life's taken a different turn, and I'm not unhappy, but no space for a garage, and realistically, not an especially efficient way to spend money

[bazza white]

Have children. Always wanted them but come to the realisation it may not happen being single so much. Accepting it and accepting single life changed my views and approach on life and quite enjoyed it. I'm 39 now and met someone recently but by the time we get round to the kid thing the ship may have sailed. Luckily she's gone through the same so both want to do loads of traveling and adventures.

[Om]

Regbuser said:

Jesus, so narrow and materialistic.
I never thought (now with hindsight thanks to therapy) that I'd break free of inner London poverty, but I did.
I never thought I'd be a resolved human who cared about the future of those around me and of the wider socio-economic future, but I do.
I thought I'd live for a 1,000 years, but I'm all too fragile and will return to the universe soon enough, and I accept that.
Live in the present.

[red_slr]

Retire to France.
In my 20s and early 30s I was 100% set on this.
However I think the country has changed a lot in the last 10 years.
Its unlikely I would ever do it now. I think there are few places I would even want to live there now tbh.

[P-Jay]

Not much, I went traveling a while ago (a while being 21 years this month). I'd already joined the 'world of work' a few years before, before anyone starts with "gap yah"

I came back to the UK broken, and broke 11 months later, having not seen as much as I wanted to and spending too much time treating it like an extended package holiday, drinkin', chasing girls and such, vowing to get a job, save some money, clean myself up a bit and head back on 'the trail' that was my only plan for a few years, which seems crazy now, I was clearly no good at it, because I got a very good job and spent the next decade drinkin', chasing girls and such.

Now I'm 41, Happily Married with 2 kids, it's not like I can grab a bag and a few grand and go and see middle-America, or the less touristy bits of Europe or whatever.

It's not to say I won't do it again at all (terrible thought) but it will be different, My Wife and I plan to do it in a few years time when the kids are at least partly self-sufficient, I'll be in my 50s by then.

[Muzzer79]

Having children

I was never fussed about having them, but assumed it was kind of inevitable that it would happen.

That ship has sailed now. I don't have regrets.

[Colonel Cupcake]

I don't think I will die in the Australian Outback.

[Ash_]

bazza white said:

Have children. Always wanted them but come to the realisation it may not happen being single so much. Accepting it and accepting single life changed my views and approach on life and quite enjoyed it. I'm 39 now and met someone recently but by the time we get round to the kid thing the ship may have sailed. Luckily she's gone through the same so both want to do loads of traveling and adventures.

Same here, though in my case I can't have children.

[How u doing]

Travel more, never brave enough to give up work. Now I've time less desire for adventure and roughing it.

I'm less inquisitive now, and traveling comfortably is just another holiday.

[jonwm]

In my mid 20's I got a job at a large global logistics company (yellow and red) and people moved to all far flung places to work, I always wanted to do it, USA was top of my list but with no degree I could ever get the support even though work would help, I left last year after 16 years near on and realise now with 3 kids in tow I'll never realise that dream of moving to a different country with work, although the kids pretty much secured that there was something about leaving the company that closed the dream for me.

[imp123]

bazza white said:

Have children. Always wanted them but come to the realisation it may not happen being single so much. Accepting it and accepting single life changed my views and approach on life and quite enjoyed it. I'm 39 now and met someone recently but by the time we get round to the kid thing the ship may have sailed. Luckily she's gone through the same so both want to do loads of traveling and adventures.

I had my first at 40 and second at 42, so it's not too late. Have the conversation and make sure neither of you want any.

[matchmaker]

Muzzer79 said:

Having children

I was never fussed about having them, but assumed it was kind of inevitable that it would happen.

That ship has sailed now. I don't have regrets.

For me it's having grandchildren. We have two sons, but neither like children. One is also gay, so that's a double no!

[Maximus_Meridius101]

Baz Luhrmann knows what’s what.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=3FYlPEC8yb4

Edited by Maximus_Meridius101 on Wednesday 9th June 16:39

[P-Jay]

matchmaker said:

Muzzer79 said:

Having children

I was never fussed about having them, but assumed it was kind of inevitable that it would happen.

That ship has sailed now. I don't have regrets.

For me it's having grandchildren. We have two sons, but neither like children. One is also gay, so that's a double no!

Grandkids is something I hope I don't miss out on. My Eldest is Gay and, I just don't see it, he'll change of course, but even for a teenager he's self-centred, I just don't see him ever wanting to give up so much of himself to adopt or whatever and raise a Child.

I was 38 when my youngest was Born, she'll live her own life of course, but my wish for her, if she wants them is to wait until she's at least 30 before she has a family, when I'll be 68 (quick maths there) not old, old, but not young either. It's part of the reason why, maybe a few years too late I'm really trying to look after myself to stay as 'young' as possible for as long as possible.

[geeks]

Maximus_Meridius101 said:

Bad Luhrmann knows what’s what.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ZxEHGAY7LbY

God 22 years on and I still enjoy it and now realise how much of it is true!

[ettore]

Regbuser said:

Jesus, so narrow and materialistic.
I never thought (now with hindsight thanks to therapy) that I'd break free of inner London poverty, but I did.
I never thought I'd be a resolved human who cared about the future of those around me and of the wider socio-economic future, but I do.
I thought I'd live for a 1,000 years, but I'm all too fragile and will return to the universe soon enough, and I accept that.
Live in the present.

Can’t afford the 911 then?

[Psycho Warren]

Finding a soulmate to share my life with. Im too much of a odd ball and a bit mentally unhinged to attract most women from an intimate relationship perspective. Plenty of female friends though.

I would have to fundamentally change who I am and my hobbies/interests and in essence fake a seemingly normal mentally well balanced life which would be a complete lie. Sure i accept in all relationships you might compromise on hobbies etc but not change who you are. At 40 I am unlikely to change in my fundamental character and I don't believe in lying or hiding who you are to get into a relationship so that means I have to be very lucky in finding someone who likes me enough to put up with my st. That's unlikely. I can accept that even if its not what i want sometimes. Sure I can have the odd casual relationship that fills the itch for company and intimacy but thats not the same as something longterm.