MRI - am i being alarmist?

MRI - am i being alarmist?

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philv

Original Poster:

3,930 posts

214 months

Tuesday 23rd January 2018
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HI,

I have a young daughter.
Separated from my x.
They live in france.

My daughter has been poorly in the last year.

As a precaution she was told to have an MRI of the head.
(ie visual disturbances + headaches = tumors?)

As of now, my x still hasn't made an appointment for the scan.
It is a quick phone call.
In France, you have to ring to make the appointment over the phone.
I cannot do it, but i can check if she has by ringing the MRI department.

Am i unreasonable to expect her to do it asap?

If it is nothing then it was never urgent, if it is somethign then it was very urgent.
That's my thinking.

I am frustrated and concerned that my x is takign moths to do blood test and eye tests that are required.
And it is not delays in getting appointments, it is my x not ringing to make an appointment.

I'd be ringing straight away.

Thoughts?


mattyn1

5,754 posts

155 months

Tuesday 23rd January 2018
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Difficult - but why can't you do it?

philv

Original Poster:

3,930 posts

214 months

Tuesday 23rd January 2018
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mattyn1 said:
Difficult - but why can't you do it?
I don't have the social security papers/id, etc.
I don't live in France.

I get my daughter on Friday from school and return Monday for school when i go there to see her.

If i could, i would.


mattyn1

5,754 posts

155 months

Tuesday 23rd January 2018
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How is the relationship with the ex?

philv

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3,930 posts

214 months

Tuesday 23rd January 2018
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mattyn1 said:
How is the relationship with the ex?
Not good.
No open hostility, but email/text contact only.



mattyn1

5,754 posts

155 months

Tuesday 23rd January 2018
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philv said:
Not good.
No open hostility, but email/text contact only.
You know you have to bite the bullet and call her. You need to speak to each other. You need to bury any issues you have with each other and communicate for the sake of your daughter.

You are not alone though - it is hard - but been there, done it, t-shirt etc.

Suggest coffee/lunch/dinner next time you collect?

Autopilot

1,298 posts

184 months

Tuesday 23rd January 2018
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philv said:
HI,

Am i unreasonable to expect her to do it asap?
Not in the slightest. She's your daughter and you want the best for her and would expect your Ex to get on and get the appointment sorted.

philv

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3,930 posts

214 months

Tuesday 23rd January 2018
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I finally got a reply from her.

But nothing about the scan.
No information or responses to my questions at all.

philv

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3,930 posts

214 months

Tuesday 23rd January 2018
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After asking yet again a couple of times, i got the reply that she will make the appointment this week.

Ah well, no problem, it's only a brain scan.


mattyn1

5,754 posts

155 months

Tuesday 23rd January 2018
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Email and texts are easy to ignore! Have you tried phoning her?

philv

Original Poster:

3,930 posts

214 months

Tuesday 23rd January 2018
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mattyn1 said:
Email and texts are easy to ignore! Have you tried phoning her?
Without going into details, normal communication won't work.

After further pressing, she replies that she was busy at work and she'll do it this week.

This is on the back of taking over 6 weeks to do blood tests.


The Ors

174 posts

113 months

Tuesday 23rd January 2018
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I don't want to worry you but she needs to do it ASAP.

My son suffered from similar symptoms & was referred for an MRI by the consultant Ophthalmologist, as he was older than most children suffering from his particular vision problem. The MRI picked up a brain tumour which resulted in an ambulance to Bristol Children's Hospital & several operations over the next month to remove it.

Our GP had just brushed off our concerns but the consultant at BCH told us that without the necessary operations, our son had 3 to 6 months to live.

It is unlikely your daughter has a tumour; they are rare. Push your ex to get it checked out anyway.

Good luck. I hope she is ok.