“How can YOU afford THAT”??
Discussion
p1stonhead said:
p1stonhead said:
Godlysmasko said:
I’m sort of the opposite. I’m a 20 year old female who looks quite young for my age anyway and I picked up my new 718 Cayman two months, fully expecting an array of “how can you afford that?” comments, but so far, it’s been mostly positive. I get strangers in supermarket car parks/at petrol pumps/at drive-thrus telling me they love the colour/nice car/nice wheels and so on which always makes my day! I did have some close friends who couldn’t bring themselves to even acknowledge the fact that I’d gotten a new car, and to this day still haven’t said a single word about it. As someone already said above, it seems that people somehow get bitter with someone is doing better than them. It’s sad, really. I love seeing people do well for themselves!
Well done on the car and don’t worry about what your colleagues think - at the end of the day, they’re most likely just wishing the car was theirs!
Well done indeed but to be fair, how does anyone afford a new Cayman at 20?! Were you working since you were ten? Well done on the car and don’t worry about what your colleagues think - at the end of the day, they’re most likely just wishing the car was theirs!
Most of my close mates go out on the P
s every week, some smoke and most of them like 2-3 foreign holidays a year. My car friends tend to be like me and are more frugal when spending on none car related things and don't buy what they can't afford or pay unnecessary interest 
I work for myself and have done for over 20 years but recently the PA of one of my customers said to me quietly "you do know what some people say about you" and I was expecting a sarcastic comment to be told "they think you are a drug dealer and your business is just a front to keep the Police away"
I don't drive my Porsches daily and have started to reduce my Facebook involvement except for family pictures, finding that Instagram is a far better media to upload pictures to.
s every week, some smoke and most of them like 2-3 foreign holidays a year. My car friends tend to be like me and are more frugal when spending on none car related things and don't buy what they can't afford or pay unnecessary interest I work for myself and have done for over 20 years but recently the PA of one of my customers said to me quietly "you do know what some people say about you" and I was expecting a sarcastic comment to be told "they think you are a drug dealer and your business is just a front to keep the Police away"
I don't drive my Porsches daily and have started to reduce my Facebook involvement except for family pictures, finding that Instagram is a far better media to upload pictures to.
Si-3PO said:
I don’t know about that, I’m one to downplay things and possibly cover up things to friends of mine that are less fortunate than me.
Somebody finding out you have a new Porsche and being a di*k about it is one thing but I think the bigger di*k is the one that goes around telling people who aren’t in a position to buy a nice car about their new Porsche before they’ve even taken delivery!
I assume this is directed at me, the OP. I wasn’t going to respond because of the ad hominem, but your sentiment did make me take stock. Somebody finding out you have a new Porsche and being a di*k about it is one thing but I think the bigger di*k is the one that goes around telling people who aren’t in a position to buy a nice car about their new Porsche before they’ve even taken delivery!
I considered whether I had in fact been gratuitously flaunting my good fortune, and whether I was indeed “going around telling people” about my new car. But I haven’t. I’ve told only a very few people, whether at work or outside, and they are people with whom I would normally share and receive stuff like this.
So whilst I may well be a d*ck for lots of reasons - I am, like everyone I know, a deeply flawed human being - your post gave me pause for thought, which is only ever a good thing. Thank you.
Si-3PO said:
I don’t know about that, I’m one to downplay things and possibly cover up things to friends of mine that are less fortunate than me.
Do you realize how patronising that sounds?I'll never to be in a position to buy a new Porsche but I'm interested in cars, so if someone I know is buying a nice car, or any car, then I'm interested. Or am I supposed to assume that someone more 'fortunate' is somehow a better person and therefore be embarrassed by the fact that I can't afford what they can?
If people see you genuinely enjoy your cars and have a happy demeanour then you won't experience many problems amongst the wider public. Indeed you will find interested strangers come up to you in the petrol station. Friends and colleagues are a different matter because you're a mirror for their own issues. It's actually nothing personal and is more about them. Go and enjoy your car - you bought it for you after all. Great choice with the manual too! Well done
Si-3PO said:
I don’t know about that, I’m one to downplay things and possibly cover up things to friends of mine that are less fortunate than me.
Somebody finding out you have a new Porsche and being a di*k about it is one thing but I think the bigger di*k is the one that goes around telling people who aren’t in a position to buy a nice car about their new Porsche before they’ve even taken delivery!
Of course! It’s not cool to constantly show off the car to them/talk about it around them especially if it’s clear they’re not interested, but I think you should be allowed to at least be able to tell them about the car at least when you first get it. When they’re your friends and you’re excited about something, of course you should be able to share that with them. I agree though that it’s pretty crap of someone to go around telling EVERYONE about their new Porsche (especially when they haven’t even got it yet!) But for close friends who are supposed to be supportive and happy of you, of course you should be able to tell them.Somebody finding out you have a new Porsche and being a di*k about it is one thing but I think the bigger di*k is the one that goes around telling people who aren’t in a position to buy a nice car about their new Porsche before they’ve even taken delivery!
If one of my close friends got a new car/new job/new house and DIDN’T tell me, I’d honestly be like wtf. These things are a big deal in their life and if they didn’t tell me about it I’d probably question whether or not they actually consider me as a friend!
It just baffles me that people can be so bitter about other people’s success/purchases to the point of being rude about it! It’s a tricky topic, though, and nice cars are something that seems to grind on a lot of people’s gears. Some people are genuinely interested, some will be bitter. Tread carefully
p1stonhead said:
Well done indeed but to be fair, how does anyone afford a new Cayman at 20?! Were you working since you were ten?
International bestselling author Edited by p1stonhead on Friday 23 February 08:46
First published at 17! I only ever splurge on cars and holidays though. An author’s income fluctuates yearly, so I figured I might aswell enjoy a nice sports car while sales are currently good! Life is too short not to enjoy the things we want to while we can 
p1stonhead said:
Well done indeed but to be fair, how does anyone afford a new Cayman at 20?! Were you working since you were ten?
International bestselling author Edited by p1stonhead on Friday 23 February 08:46
First published at 17! I only ever splurge on cars and holidays though. An author’s income fluctuates yearly, so I figured I might aswell enjoy a nice sports car while sales are currently good! Life is too short not to enjoy the things we want to while we can StevenRugg said:
Ilovejapcrap said:
People are horrible
This is it! We've hit the nail on the head there! ;-)https://www.theregister.co.uk/2017/04/12/facebook_...
https://www.theregister.co.uk/2018/02/05/tech_addi...
CaineIsCarter said:
I assume this is directed at me, the OP. I wasn’t going to respond because of the ad hominem, but your sentiment did make me take stock.
I considered whether I had in fact been gratuitously flaunting my good fortune, and whether I was indeed “going around telling people” about my new car. But I haven’t. I’ve told only a very few people, whether at work or outside, and they are people with whom I would normally share and receive stuff like this.
So whilst I may well be a d*ck for lots of reasons - I am, like everyone I know, a deeply flawed human being - your post gave me pause for thought, which is only ever a good thing. Thank you.
It wasn’t directed at you specifically! For all I knew the people you’d discussed the car with could be people that would be interested in it or have the means to buy one but haven’t for whatever reason ... and it sounds like that’s the case! I considered whether I had in fact been gratuitously flaunting my good fortune, and whether I was indeed “going around telling people” about my new car. But I haven’t. I’ve told only a very few people, whether at work or outside, and they are people with whom I would normally share and receive stuff like this.
So whilst I may well be a d*ck for lots of reasons - I am, like everyone I know, a deeply flawed human being - your post gave me pause for thought, which is only ever a good thing. Thank you.
EGTE said:
"Social" media is horrible. Bin it completely and live happily in the real world, just like we all did up until 10 years ago.
https://www.theregister.co.uk/2017/04/12/facebook_...
https://www.theregister.co.uk/2018/02/05/tech_addi...
I could not agree more. I dropped Facebook 5 years ago when I realised all had brought to my life was anxiety and stress, and 6 months ago I bailed on Twitter when I became conscious of how compulsive and addictive and utterly meaningless it is. YMMV. https://www.theregister.co.uk/2017/04/12/facebook_...
https://www.theregister.co.uk/2018/02/05/tech_addi...
Dr Jekyll said:
Do you realize how patronising that sounds?
I'll never to be in a position to buy a new Porsche but I'm interested in cars, so if someone I know is buying a nice car, or any car, then I'm interested. Or am I supposed to assume that someone more 'fortunate' is somehow a better person and therefore be embarrassed by the fact that I can't afford what they can?
That’s a different story, I’m not in a position to purchase a GT3 but I’m happy to read about and listen to owners with them because I have a genuine interest in cars. I'll never to be in a position to buy a new Porsche but I'm interested in cars, so if someone I know is buying a nice car, or any car, then I'm interested. Or am I supposed to assume that someone more 'fortunate' is somehow a better person and therefore be embarrassed by the fact that I can't afford what they can?
I was talking about flaunting a car purchase to those that don’t have the means to buy a car like that and and to which a Porsche simply represents a huge chunk of disposable income. A lot of my friends have no interest in cars and don’t earn as much as me, should I rub a new car purchase in their face simply because I am excited about it and like cars?
m444ttb said:
The thing I find odd is when I know ask me how I can afford it when they have two kids, two new/nearly new cars on finance and a large mortgage. None of which I have. Instead we have a teenage 996, a 20 year old 3-series, a smaller house / mortgage and a cat.
Absolutely. Your situation closely reflects my own; I only have one car, but I do have a cat and I have precisely the right number of wives and children. CaineIsCarter said:
EGTE said:
"Social" media is horrible. Bin it completely and live happily in the real world, just like we all did up until 10 years ago.
https://www.theregister.co.uk/2017/04/12/facebook_...
https://www.theregister.co.uk/2018/02/05/tech_addi...
I could not agree more. I dropped Facebook 5 years ago when I realised all had brought to my life was anxiety and stress, and 6 months ago I bailed on Twitter when I became conscious of how compulsive and addictive and utterly meaningless it is. YMMV. https://www.theregister.co.uk/2017/04/12/facebook_...
https://www.theregister.co.uk/2018/02/05/tech_addi...
I use Twitter as a New Agrregator, following journalists, bloggers etc that I like but my used ID is totally anonymous. I do have a Facebook account as I found I needed one to know what's going on at my kids school...never post anything and have about 30 "friends". Most of my mates aren't on Facebook
Godlysmasko said:
p1stonhead said:
Well done indeed but to be fair, how does anyone afford a new Cayman at 20?! Were you working since you were ten?
International bestselling author Edited by p1stonhead on Friday 23 February 08:46
First published at 17! I only ever splurge on cars and holidays though. An author’s income fluctuates yearly, so I figured I might aswell enjoy a nice sports car while sales are currently good! Life is too short not to enjoy the things we want to while we can Godlysmasko said:
p1stonhead said:
Well done indeed but to be fair, how does anyone afford a new Cayman at 20?! Were you working since you were ten?
International bestselling author Edited by p1stonhead on Friday 23 February 08:46
First published at 17! I only ever splurge on cars and holidays though. An author’s income fluctuates yearly, so I figured I might aswell enjoy a nice sports car while sales are currently good! Life is too short not to enjoy the things we want to while we can Godlysmasko said:
p1stonhead said:
Well done indeed but to be fair, how does anyone afford a new Cayman at 20?! Were you working since you were ten?
International bestselling author Edited by p1stonhead on Friday 23 February 08:46
First published at 17! I only ever splurge on cars and holidays though. An author’s income fluctuates yearly, so I figured I might aswell enjoy a nice sports car while sales are currently good! Life is too short not to enjoy the things we want to while we can A large majority of people aren’t into cars per see, we enthusiasts are merely a small percent of the population.
Many (even earning the same salaries) chose to aim their jealously/snide comments at me in the past due to cars i owned even though they’ve had the same chances to own such cars but choose to buy houses/holidays/piss it up the wall.
When facing redundancies 5 years ago a work college of mine (actually higher paid) said 'john smith' will be ok 'cause he’s got a Porsche, little did he realise his new to him transporter van cost more.
I’m now fortunate enough to live near to my new job so cycle into work and use the cars purely for pleasure, intending not to take them into work for the reason stated by the OP....sad world.
Many (even earning the same salaries) chose to aim their jealously/snide comments at me in the past due to cars i owned even though they’ve had the same chances to own such cars but choose to buy houses/holidays/piss it up the wall.
When facing redundancies 5 years ago a work college of mine (actually higher paid) said 'john smith' will be ok 'cause he’s got a Porsche, little did he realise his new to him transporter van cost more.
I’m now fortunate enough to live near to my new job so cycle into work and use the cars purely for pleasure, intending not to take them into work for the reason stated by the OP....sad world.
Sadly, because of our natural 'British reserve' we often have this small-minded tendency to see displays of 'wealth' as being somewhat vulgar.
It's very small-minded and peculiar, but not always down to jealousy, per se.
OP - people will quickly get over their negativity towards your choice and worry about better things in their lives. Plus, if you're the humble person you seem to be, they'll quickly understand your motives for buying the car and most will be pleased for you.
Likewise you'll soon learn not to care about other people's opinion because you'll be too busy enjoying your Porker (which is lovely, btw - congrats!).
It's very small-minded and peculiar, but not always down to jealousy, per se.
OP - people will quickly get over their negativity towards your choice and worry about better things in their lives. Plus, if you're the humble person you seem to be, they'll quickly understand your motives for buying the car and most will be pleased for you.
Likewise you'll soon learn not to care about other people's opinion because you'll be too busy enjoying your Porker (which is lovely, btw - congrats!).
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