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generally asking for a friend, my divorce went like clock work so can't really help beyond telling him to try reason with her.
facts: married 30 years. 2 grown up kids - 25/30. £300k house paid off. business each - £50k net profit a year. £10k car.
he left, breakdown in marriage, grown apart etc. renting £700 a month. she's in the house. since sold the car and not given him anything.
now he wants a divorce, she's saying she's signing nothing, giving him nothing etc etc. she's keeping the lot, he left etc etc. 2 kids are trying to reason with her, amicable on both sides with the kids. tbf pretty 'normal' family.
looking online, divorce is £593. he wants to split the assets 50/50, house and cash. keep a business each. she can have all the assets in the house - he'll concede that for an easy life.
but she's still been difficult.
what's his best options please?!
facts: married 30 years. 2 grown up kids - 25/30. £300k house paid off. business each - £50k net profit a year. £10k car.
he left, breakdown in marriage, grown apart etc. renting £700 a month. she's in the house. since sold the car and not given him anything.
now he wants a divorce, she's saying she's signing nothing, giving him nothing etc etc. she's keeping the lot, he left etc etc. 2 kids are trying to reason with her, amicable on both sides with the kids. tbf pretty 'normal' family.
looking online, divorce is £593. he wants to split the assets 50/50, house and cash. keep a business each. she can have all the assets in the house - he'll concede that for an easy life.
but she's still been difficult.
what's his best options please?!
thanks for all the replies.
he's trying to avoid the solicitor route but out of interest if he gets a brief, and he costs 10k, and she gets a brief that cost 20k, do they split the bill or wld his bill come out of his share of the money and her bill her share?
it does seem the easiest 50/50 but I forgot to mention she didn't work for 20 years when the kids where growing up. the business she has now is only 5 years old but lucrative, ironically set up by my friend in her name. on books this business prob has more 'growth' and earning potential than my mates building business.
also no pensions at all for either of them. the house and businesses where the pension.
I suppose the answer you've all given is the one he doesn't want to hear but it's inevitable. he needs a brief if she doesn't come round soon and accept a 50/50 on the cash in the bank and house.
he needs the cash to get somewhere to live as annoyed paying £700 a month rent for a houser smaller than the kitchen extension he built on the married home last year.
luckily, and been serious, his mental health is ok and he's taking it well. supported by mates who keep him smiling x
he's trying to avoid the solicitor route but out of interest if he gets a brief, and he costs 10k, and she gets a brief that cost 20k, do they split the bill or wld his bill come out of his share of the money and her bill her share?
it does seem the easiest 50/50 but I forgot to mention she didn't work for 20 years when the kids where growing up. the business she has now is only 5 years old but lucrative, ironically set up by my friend in her name. on books this business prob has more 'growth' and earning potential than my mates building business.
also no pensions at all for either of them. the house and businesses where the pension.
I suppose the answer you've all given is the one he doesn't want to hear but it's inevitable. he needs a brief if she doesn't come round soon and accept a 50/50 on the cash in the bank and house.
he needs the cash to get somewhere to live as annoyed paying £700 a month rent for a houser smaller than the kitchen extension he built on the married home last year.
luckily, and been serious, his mental health is ok and he's taking it well. supported by mates who keep him smiling x
again thanks for all the replies.
as an update - hate threads that aren't updated- he's rang her and the house is getting valued this week.
he asked simple questions like how much moneys in each others accounts etc. she refused to answer? assume a brief would have to be instructed to find this out?!
said she's starting divorce procedures online, again this week.
seems like a lot of words are been said but see if any actions are taken.
as an update - hate threads that aren't updated- he's rang her and the house is getting valued this week.
he asked simple questions like how much moneys in each others accounts etc. she refused to answer? assume a brief would have to be instructed to find this out?!
said she's starting divorce procedures online, again this week.
seems like a lot of words are been said but see if any actions are taken.
hey, further update.
seems the ex has taken some legal advice from somewhere - or massively changed her tune!
her parents are elderly and in poor health. home owners but place is only worth about £100k.
so since saying 'I'll drag the divorce out for years' to 'how quick can we get this sorted' lol
this is good news for my pal. he's since done some sums and thinks that if they kept each others lot and just split the house he'll be almost there.
question is: is the divorce and clean break thing the same? I remember from my divorce we did both and had to fill in our finances, pensions etc but can't remember if that was the divorce paperwork or the clean break one?
reading these posts makes me think im lucky my ex wasn't mental. tbs prob Clint wait to see the back of me. now re-married and shacked up down south in a million pound gaff and rick bloke! as a side laugh she cited unreasonable behaviour on the paper work (had to list something back then/0 and put I spend to much time on forums :-)
seems the ex has taken some legal advice from somewhere - or massively changed her tune!
her parents are elderly and in poor health. home owners but place is only worth about £100k.
so since saying 'I'll drag the divorce out for years' to 'how quick can we get this sorted' lol
this is good news for my pal. he's since done some sums and thinks that if they kept each others lot and just split the house he'll be almost there.
question is: is the divorce and clean break thing the same? I remember from my divorce we did both and had to fill in our finances, pensions etc but can't remember if that was the divorce paperwork or the clean break one?
reading these posts makes me think im lucky my ex wasn't mental. tbs prob Clint wait to see the back of me. now re-married and shacked up down south in a million pound gaff and rick bloke! as a side laugh she cited unreasonable behaviour on the paper work (had to list something back then/0 and put I spend to much time on forums :-)
update:
rings her after the house valuation. how much is the house worth please? 'not telling you', my solicitor has told me not to talk to you.
of course he has with every letter and call going through him he'll be killing it.
my mate said I want half the house and half the car. either take my 50/50 or go see your brief and then you'll be 20k down and still get 50/50 (he hopes)
either way told him, pretty much what 95% people have said on here, its tuna get a lot worse, and expensive, before it gets better.
I even said to him forget the car, ur talking about 5k share for him, and just say half the house. that should be £140k I reckon. sounds a much better deal for her.
he said no, its principle, I want half the car. I said you could send £15k on a brief to chase a £5k pay day.
shows how emotions can play on both sides. my mates a decent business man, said you would run a business plan or decisions like that so snap out of ur principle stance. or it will cost you
rings her after the house valuation. how much is the house worth please? 'not telling you', my solicitor has told me not to talk to you.
of course he has with every letter and call going through him he'll be killing it.
my mate said I want half the house and half the car. either take my 50/50 or go see your brief and then you'll be 20k down and still get 50/50 (he hopes)
either way told him, pretty much what 95% people have said on here, its tuna get a lot worse, and expensive, before it gets better.
I even said to him forget the car, ur talking about 5k share for him, and just say half the house. that should be £140k I reckon. sounds a much better deal for her.
he said no, its principle, I want half the car. I said you could send £15k on a brief to chase a £5k pay day.
shows how emotions can play on both sides. my mates a decent business man, said you would run a business plan or decisions like that so snap out of ur principle stance. or it will cost you
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