Accused of hitting a car and driving away. Harrasment?
Accused of hitting a car and driving away. Harrasment?
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onyx39

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11,349 posts

181 months

Friday 4th July 2014
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I work in an building where a number of companies rent space (Regus).
Went down to my car yesterday afternoon, and there was a note from another driver saying that she thought I had hit her car, and could I contact her.
I had not, but, rather than ignore it, I chose to "nip it in the bud", so I called the driver, she immediately came down to the car.
She explained that someone had hit her car, and she had noticed that there was damage on my car which would tie in with the damage to her car.
I explained to her that, if she looked closely, she would see that the paint on her car was red, and my car is purple.
My damage was ironically caused in the same way in a TFL car park in Osterley last year.
She still insisted on getting insurance involved and I politely pointed out that, as it had nothing to do with me, she was not getting my insurance details and walked off.
She followed me demanding my details, which I ignored, and this morning, she followed me into the office demanding my full name and phone number.
Now, I have only worked in the building for 3 weeks, so I do not want to start getting nasty and telling her to "****" off, but, I am beginning to find it a little tiresome, and frankly mildly upsetting.
What's my best course of action if she continues, I am contemplating getting the Police involved if she does not stop harassing me.

jbsportstech

5,069 posts

210 months

Friday 4th July 2014
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Tell her if she asked again you will inform the police of harassment. You have pointed out the paint on her car is different to yours and has no witnesses. It her word against yours and the wrong colour paint on her. She must be a couple of sandwichs short of a lunch box!

blueg33

46,900 posts

255 months

Friday 4th July 2014
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Any CCTV in the car park?

onyx39

Original Poster:

11,349 posts

181 months

Friday 4th July 2014
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blueg33 said:
Any CCTV in the car park?
No idea, she says she is going to review the tapes, but I did wonder if she is just trying to scare me into putting my hands up.

Nigel Worc's

8,121 posts

219 months

Friday 4th July 2014
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She doesn't need your details.

If she believes you have damaged her car, all she has to do is give your redg number to her insurance company, they will do the rest.

Then your "pain" begins, at least two years ncb will be removed from you if renewal comes up whilst this is ongoing, this will be refunded later if you are cleared.

I don't know how you appease her, but I'd suggest you get some pictures of the damage to her car, showing the red paint etc.

If she keeps on, you should be cleared at the end of the day, but she'll cause you issues in the meantime, so best to stay friendly, polite, and helpful if you can.

DoubleSix

12,572 posts

207 months

Friday 4th July 2014
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onyx39 said:
trying to scare me into putting my hands up.
Oooo... Don't do that or you'll be the one facing harassment charges! wink

Phil Dicky

7,194 posts

294 months

Friday 4th July 2014
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DoubleSix said:
Oooo... Don't do that or you'll be the one facing harassment charges! wink
I guess this is a suitable time to ask for pictures smile

Snowboy

8,028 posts

182 months

Friday 4th July 2014
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If it was me I'd do what you are doing.

If that failed I'd be inclined to put in a complaint to the building management and ask if they could either prove it wasn't your car via CCTV or perhaps ask them to contact her employer to ask her to stop.


TwistingMyMelon

6,519 posts

236 months

Friday 4th July 2014
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I would be tempted to ask for the CCTV if you can ASAP to rule you out, in case it is re-written

Drive Blind

5,798 posts

208 months

Friday 4th July 2014
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were you actually parked next to her in the car park or has she just walked round the car park looking for another car with damage?

onyx39

Original Poster:

11,349 posts

181 months

Friday 4th July 2014
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Drive Blind said:
were you actually parked next to her in the car park or has she just walked round the car park looking for another car with damage?
Yes, but the way the damage was done, I could have not done it whilst parking.
The side of my car that was damaged was next to another car.

jesta1865

3,453 posts

240 months

Friday 4th July 2014
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onyx39 said:
Drive Blind said:
were you actually parked next to her in the car park or has she just walked round the car park looking for another car with damage?
Yes, but the way the damage was done, I could have not done it whilst parking.
The side of my car that was damaged was next to another car.
does your car bend the laws of physics then?

sounds like she might have done it herself and then thought she could get you to pay for it as you had the damage.

i did bump a car once, the lady was in her car and i must have hit her at 2mph. she was trying to say to me that the damage on the front of her lexus was caused by me, when i pointed out that the wifes bumper was 6 inches below the damage (bumper would hit her bumper not grill) and that it was yellow paint on her grill and not black like the wifes (unmarked) she suddenly changed her tune and jumped in the car and rushed off. never heard anything again.

V8forweekends

2,501 posts

155 months

Friday 4th July 2014
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This is ironic - having been told off by the woman who rammed the back of my Jag because I had the temerity to issue an expletive (not at her, just in the immediate shock of it), and having been informed by the woman in a Ka who bumped into it at slow speed "I didn't hit you" and having been lucky that a security guard nabbed the woman who put a massive scrape down the side of my Mondeo (she said she was going to come back later to leave a note) I find it incredible the approach some females seem to have to driving and damaging other people's cars.

Maybe she's trying to judge the OP by her standards - but she needs to be told she has no justification and then ignored.

onyx39

Original Poster:

11,349 posts

181 months

Friday 4th July 2014
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The thing that is really starting to grate, is the fact that I am now having to go out of my way to put right something that has nothing to do with me!!!!!

boobles

15,251 posts

246 months

Friday 4th July 2014
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Tell her to do one! Phone the police to inform them of what has happened & how you are getting the blame then tell her to expect a visit from them.

PurpleMoonlight

22,362 posts

188 months

Friday 4th July 2014
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onyx39 said:
The thing that is really starting to grate, is the fact that I am now having to go out of my way to put right something that has nothing to do with me!!!!!
No you don't, just ignore her.

boobles

15,251 posts

246 months

Friday 4th July 2014
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The more & more you get "invoved" the more guilty she will think you are!

Eclassy

1,201 posts

153 months

Friday 4th July 2014
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I hope you took pictures on the day she made the allegations.

Call police on 101 and report it just so there is a record of whats going on, then the next time she disturbs you tell he to Foxtrot Oscar!

boobles

15,251 posts

246 months

Friday 4th July 2014
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Eclassy said:
I hope you took pictures on the day she made the allegations.

Call police on 101 and report it just so there is a record of whats going on, then the next time she disturbs you tell he to Foxtrot Oscar!
Wouldn't that only land him in more st? hehe

funkyrobot

18,789 posts

259 months

Friday 4th July 2014
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blueg33 said:
Any CCTV in the car park?
Nope. The OP reversed into the camera pole and knocked that down too.