Drunk child, A&E, irresponsible parents..

[mmmunch]

Just wanted some advice, got a call at 2am from a paramedic, eldest child (17) spent the evening at his mates house whilst his parents were also there.

It appears that he is paralytic so an ambulance was called. My wife read the notes in A&E it states 4 cans of cider and marijuana. He's been on drips all night and is being kept in today.

I'd hazard that it's clearly more than 4 cans to get in that sort of state, but my biggest concern is that his friends parents were in the house and were quite happy to let them have the cider, ( we all had a beer or two at that age) but I do have an issue with the weed..

To top it off, social services will be involved as he's still a minor and this has implications with our daughter who is 11 as her school will need to be told.

I'm understably not happy and I'm in two minds either to go round to the kids house to find out what the fk the parents were thinking, or just drop a call into 101 as it's now going to be on the system with social services and let plod deal with it.

Is it just me or would you let someone else's kid get in a state in your house and let them smoke weed and then just call 999 and go to bed?

[numtumfutunch]

Teens drink and do drugs - its what they're famous for

If he were mine Id be grateful this happened before he left home and was on his own to deal with the consequence

Admittedly I may be softer than you but as long as the scumbag learns from this and doesnt do it again then Id leave it there

EDIT: before going nuclear Id also make sure which of the perps supplied the weed, you may not like the answer!

Edited by numtumfutunch on Saturday 4th March 08:56

[sparkythecat]

Before you go off at the deep end, you need to talk to your lad and get his account of events.
Why do you think your daughters school need to know that her 17 year old brother got drunk / stoned ?

[justanother5tar]

What 17 year old doesn't do that?

We've all been there at one point.

[Leicester Loyal]

We all did it at that age (well, a large majority of us), I'd be thankful it was in a house with people around rather than on the streets in the middle of nowhere on his own.

[Brads67]

social services could not care less about a 17yr old getting drunk. And it`s none of the Schools business either.

Try not to make a huge deal of it, he`ll be embarrassed about the whole thing and will be hoping it all goes away.

Use it as a learning experience, not a discipline one.

[Durzel]

Leicester Loyal said:

We all did it at that age (well, a large majority of us), I'd be thankful it was in a house with people around rather than on the streets in the middle of nowhere on his own.

+1

It's a rite of passage really. I'm sure he feels enough of an idiot about it already without it being blown out of all proportion. I drunk a bottle of vodka neat at 17 (maybe even 16) at a party because I thought I was showing off and had no idea of my limits. All I remember of that night is my Dad turning up to recover me.

Drink and weed is part of life's rich tapestry when you're growing up. As said above be glad that he was in an environment where he was in a protective environment. By all means give him a bking when he's recovered, and if you're dead set against marijuana you can shout about that too, but it doesn't need to go any further than that.

[chow pan toon]

Your kid has obviously inherited the "lightweight" gene from somewhere. Commiserations

[herewego]

If he's not disciplined won't he think it's okay and that you don't care.

[TwigtheWonderkid]

justanother5tar said:

What 17 year old doesn't do that?

We've all been there at one point.

What, so drunk an ambulance was called, put on a drip and kept in all day in hospital?? Nope, never been there. Not sure I know anyone who has?

[alfie2244]

Bit of luck he has learned a lesson and won't do it again, I did similar on whiskey aged about 15 never touched the stuff ever since........had the condom chat yet?

[Neilsfirst]

alfie2244 said:

Bit of luck he has learned a lesson and won't do it again, I did similar on whiskey aged about 15 never touched the stuff ever since........had the condom chat yet?

You learnt quicker than me then! Took me three times before I was put off the stuff. As a positive I did give up drinking between 17 and 18 without a bking from my parents.

OP your son might be a better person after this experience. I know if I had woken up in hospital with the mother of all hangovers and no access to a fry up to sort things out my consumption would have been curbed much sooner.

Edited for grammar police!

[GoneAnon]

TwigtheWonderkid said:

What, so drunk an ambulance was called, put on a drip and kept in all day in hospital?? Nope, never been there. Not sure I know anyone who has?

What if the calling the ambulance was just another sign of the "nanny-state" mentality.

"Oh, this kid is st-faced in our house. Call a ambulance"

Back in my day, I reckon he would have been left to sleep it off. If he was lucky he might have been rolled into something resembling the recovery position. And in the morning he would have had the piss ripped, quite mercilessly, for weeks to come.

[Ahbefive]

Is this a serious thread? 17 year old gets drunk and has a smoke....big deal.

[mmmunch]

GoneAnon said:

What if the calling the ambulance was just another sign of the "nanny-state" mentality.

"Oh, this kid is st-faced in our house. Call a ambulance"

Back in my day, I reckon he would have been left to sleep it off. If he was lucky he might have been rolled into something resembling the recovery position. And in the morning he would have had the piss ripped, quite mercilessly, for weeks to come.

Whilst I understand that we've all been there, I was never in such a state that-

1- the 'responsible' adults in the house let my 17 year old drink to excess and smoke marijuana,
2- called an ambulance because he was in such a state,
3- spend the night in A&E with 2 IV saline drips.

If I was the parent and one of my sons friends got so wasted in my house I'd be looking to take some form of responsibility if their parent came calling?

It has been confirmed that it will be referred to social services as he is classed as a minor.

Unfortunately this isn't the first instance- last year when he was in high school he was going out with a sixth former who was 18, so invariably was mixing with 18 year olds and doing what they do, rather than his peer group who were happy on their PS4. We had a call that he had been admitted to the local A&E as he had been out drinking with them, got stfaced and left in a gutter because he was too young/drunk to go clubbing. He wasn't mature enough to deal with that relationship and got dumped soon after.

He's just been released now so wife is on her way home with him now.

Thanks for all the responses.

J

[bigandclever]

So he's been hospitalised twice for being bladdered and somehow you're having a go at the other parents? Righto.

[GT03ROB]

If a parent of a 17yr old came round to me to give me a bking for letting their offspring get pissed, I can see me giving them both barrels over their lack of parenting skills to bring up a child that behaved like that in my house!

Let it go. Hopefully your kid has learned a lesson

Many moons ago had same at my parents place. Kid concerned was all over the place. My parents called his dad, who was local plod. When he turns up the kid was literally thrown into the back of car, with his dad muttering that the kid won't do that again & he'll make sure of it as he apologized for said kid.

[numtumfutunch]

bigandclever said:

So he's been hospitalised twice for being bladdered and somehow you're having a go at the other parents? Righto.

This

[GT03ROB]

mmmunch said:

Whilst I understand that we've all been there, I was never in such a state that-

1- the 'responsible' adults in the house let my 17 year old drink to excess and smoke marijuana,
2- called an ambulance because he was in such a state,
3- spend the night in A&E with 2 IV saline drips.

If I was the parent and one of my sons friends got so wasted in my house I'd be looking to take some form of responsibility if their parent came calling?

It has been confirmed that it will be referred to social services as he is classed as a minor.

Unfortunately this isn't the first instance- last year when he was in high school he was going out with a sixth former who was 18, so invariably was mixing with 18 year olds and doing what they do, rather than his peer group who were happy on their PS4. We had a call that he had been admitted to the local A&E as he had been out drinking with them, got stfaced and left in a gutter because he was too young/drunk to go clubbing. He wasn't mature enough to deal with that relationship and got dumped soon after.

He's just been released now so wife is on her way home with him now.

Thanks for all the responses.

J

With that background I wouldn't worry about other parents & responsibility. Think you need to look a little closer to home

[Shaw Tarse]

Thread title is apt...