Anti-molestation orders - rough cost
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Hi all
Bit of an odd one here but basically I need to know a rough cost of putting an anti-molestation order into place to deter my biological mother from contacting myself, my siblings and our respective children, plus my father.
To give some background my parents divorced when I was relatively young and the court awarded full care and control/custody of me to my father and removed my biological mother from the house on account of unreasonable and abusive behaviour. It was a really horrendous time that had a long term impact on me. Its telling that the court welfare officer saw me once and made an immediate decision that under no circumstances should I live with her. This was over 30 years ago and there was an order put in place but regretfully can't be traced.
Over these decades I have seen her around 10 or so times, none of the occasions are my choice. She just turns up. I've moved 3 times but she manages to track me down. I have been really clear including writing to her that there is no relationship and never will be and that I don't wish to ever see or hear from her.
She clearly has mental health issues but denies this. I cannot underestimate how awful she was to us all and is a dangerous person. She must have some major Narcissistic disorder and will make up Lie after lie when challenged.
Anyway, she has now started turning up, texting and writing letters to us and has started referring to her grandchildren. In the eyes of myself and my siblings, she has no grandchildren. I need this to stop.
Anyone got a rough idea as to the cost of putting an A-M order into place? Are there other legal measures I can explore?
Thanks all.
Bit of an odd one here but basically I need to know a rough cost of putting an anti-molestation order into place to deter my biological mother from contacting myself, my siblings and our respective children, plus my father.
To give some background my parents divorced when I was relatively young and the court awarded full care and control/custody of me to my father and removed my biological mother from the house on account of unreasonable and abusive behaviour. It was a really horrendous time that had a long term impact on me. Its telling that the court welfare officer saw me once and made an immediate decision that under no circumstances should I live with her. This was over 30 years ago and there was an order put in place but regretfully can't be traced.
Over these decades I have seen her around 10 or so times, none of the occasions are my choice. She just turns up. I've moved 3 times but she manages to track me down. I have been really clear including writing to her that there is no relationship and never will be and that I don't wish to ever see or hear from her.
She clearly has mental health issues but denies this. I cannot underestimate how awful she was to us all and is a dangerous person. She must have some major Narcissistic disorder and will make up Lie after lie when challenged.
Anyway, she has now started turning up, texting and writing letters to us and has started referring to her grandchildren. In the eyes of myself and my siblings, she has no grandchildren. I need this to stop.
Anyone got a rough idea as to the cost of putting an A-M order into place? Are there other legal measures I can explore?
Thanks all.
Why not just go to the police and complain that you are being harassed and let them speak to her about her behaviour. https://www.cps.gov.uk/legal-guidance/stalking-and...
heisthegaffer said:
Hi all
Bit of an odd one here but basically I need to know a rough cost of putting an anti-molestation order into place to deter my biological mother from contacting myself, my siblings and our respective children, plus my father.
To give some background my parents divorced when I was relatively young and the court awarded full care and control/custody of me to my father and removed my biological mother from the house on account of unreasonable and abusive behaviour. It was a really horrendous time that had a long term impact on me. Its telling that the court welfare officer saw me once and made an immediate decision that under no circumstances should I live with her. This was over 30 years ago and there was an order put in place but regretfully can't be traced.
Over these decades I have seen her around 10 or so times, none of the occasions are my choice. She just turns up. I've moved 3 times but she manages to track me down. I have been really clear including writing to her that there is no relationship and never will be and that I don't wish to ever see or hear from her.
She clearly has mental health issues but denies this. I cannot underestimate how awful she was to us all and is a dangerous person. She must have some major Narcissistic disorder and will make up Lie after lie when challenged.
Anyway, she has now started turning up, texting and writing letters to us and has started referring to her grandchildren. In the eyes of myself and my siblings, she has no grandchildren. I need this to stop.
Anyone got a rough idea as to the cost of putting an A-M order into place? Are there other legal measures I can explore?
Thanks all.
As suggested this is harassment and the police having a word might stop it but I doubt it. Last time I looked, a Non Molestation order was free but if a solicitor was to do it for you then they would have costs. A family law firm should be able to help. Bit of an odd one here but basically I need to know a rough cost of putting an anti-molestation order into place to deter my biological mother from contacting myself, my siblings and our respective children, plus my father.
To give some background my parents divorced when I was relatively young and the court awarded full care and control/custody of me to my father and removed my biological mother from the house on account of unreasonable and abusive behaviour. It was a really horrendous time that had a long term impact on me. Its telling that the court welfare officer saw me once and made an immediate decision that under no circumstances should I live with her. This was over 30 years ago and there was an order put in place but regretfully can't be traced.
Over these decades I have seen her around 10 or so times, none of the occasions are my choice. She just turns up. I've moved 3 times but she manages to track me down. I have been really clear including writing to her that there is no relationship and never will be and that I don't wish to ever see or hear from her.
She clearly has mental health issues but denies this. I cannot underestimate how awful she was to us all and is a dangerous person. She must have some major Narcissistic disorder and will make up Lie after lie when challenged.
Anyway, she has now started turning up, texting and writing letters to us and has started referring to her grandchildren. In the eyes of myself and my siblings, she has no grandchildren. I need this to stop.
Anyone got a rough idea as to the cost of putting an A-M order into place? Are there other legal measures I can explore?
Thanks all.
You might also find a decent amount of information on domestic violence charity websites. Primarily aimed at females but their sections on Non Mol orders still stand.
I hope it works out for you.
A non-molestation order might be worth pursuing. You could do this yourself. My understanding is that you can use an online service set up by Citizen's Advice Bureau in London, see here - https://injunction.courtnav.org.uk/.
If you use a solicitor, then costs will vary depending upon hourly rates and seniority of solicitor instructed. As a broad brush, I would normally estimate fees of anywhere between £1,500 to £5,000+VAT depending upon whether the other party engages with the process and/or defends the application. You will also usually need to pay for a barrister to represent you at Court and their charges will vary but I would suggest may be around £750 to £1,500+VAT per hearing and it will depend upon whether matters are settled at the first hearing or if they rumble on as to what it may end up costing you overall.
Someone else has suggested looking at the harassment option through the Police and I would encourage you to look into this before embarking on the non-mol option. Furthermore, if you do apply for a non-mol, you must satisfy the Court that your mother poses an imminent risk of harm to you or your children and that is not as easy as it may first appear. This is why the harassment option may be a better fit, not to mention a more cost and time effective option for you and potentially your siblings as well.
Many family solicitors, myself included, offer free initial consultations so if you would like further assistance about your legal options and the likely costs, then it is worth arranging such a meeting. You can then choose how you move forwards from here and also whether you will instruct a solicitor to assist with those next steps.
If you use a solicitor, then costs will vary depending upon hourly rates and seniority of solicitor instructed. As a broad brush, I would normally estimate fees of anywhere between £1,500 to £5,000+VAT depending upon whether the other party engages with the process and/or defends the application. You will also usually need to pay for a barrister to represent you at Court and their charges will vary but I would suggest may be around £750 to £1,500+VAT per hearing and it will depend upon whether matters are settled at the first hearing or if they rumble on as to what it may end up costing you overall.
Someone else has suggested looking at the harassment option through the Police and I would encourage you to look into this before embarking on the non-mol option. Furthermore, if you do apply for a non-mol, you must satisfy the Court that your mother poses an imminent risk of harm to you or your children and that is not as easy as it may first appear. This is why the harassment option may be a better fit, not to mention a more cost and time effective option for you and potentially your siblings as well.
Many family solicitors, myself included, offer free initial consultations so if you would like further assistance about your legal options and the likely costs, then it is worth arranging such a meeting. You can then choose how you move forwards from here and also whether you will instruct a solicitor to assist with those next steps.
There are details here about obtaining an injunction and a link further down the page for the form you need to download and complete.
https://rightsofwomen.org.uk/get-information/viole...
Good luck, OP.
Edited to add there's also a free legal advice line here: 0207 251 6577.
https://rightsofwomen.org.uk/get-information/viole...
Good luck, OP.
Edited to add there's also a free legal advice line here: 0207 251 6577.
Edited by Bluesgirl on Tuesday 14th September 11:16
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