How can I find out if I'm still married?
How can I find out if I'm still married?
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clockworks

Original Poster:

7,617 posts

174 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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When we split 25 years ago, I moved 300 miles away. No contact with her for over 5 years, then she started divorce proceedings. I remember signing something agreeing to it, but don't remember getting anything more. No kids, no financial settlement, no arguments. We both kept what we owned.

What's the easiest way to find out if the divorce actually went through?

I may possibly be considering getting married again....

ziggy328

1,401 posts

243 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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Get married again and see if you get arrested?

ReverendCounter

6,087 posts

205 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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Leave the toilet seat up

clockworks

Original Poster:

7,617 posts

174 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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ziggy328 said:
Get married again and see if you get arrested?
That actually did make me laugh out loud

mickyh7

2,347 posts

115 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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Ask for a Blow Job!

longblackcoat

5,047 posts

212 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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Assuming you don't know anything more than you've posted (ideally you'd have dates, name of court etc), then you need to fill in form D440 and specify a 10-year period. The Central Family court will then do a search of that period and let you knoe. Be warned, it's (a) £65 per 10 year period searched (b) a slow process.

Hope this helps


https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/form-d4...

donkmeister

12,813 posts

129 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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See if the ex has remarried - if so then you're golden.

longblackcoat

5,047 posts

212 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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donkmeister said:
See if the ex has remarried - if so then you're golden.
Well, unless she's a bigamist .......

CloudStuff

4,246 posts

133 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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donkmeister said:
See if the ex has remarried - if so then you're golden.
You've reached around with a couple of assumptions there - cuckolding and special showers.

NortonES2

633 posts

77 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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Ask her, they know everything.

donkmeister

12,813 posts

129 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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longblackcoat said:
donkmeister said:
See if the ex has remarried - if so then you're golden.
Well, unless she's a bigamist .......
That's just given me an excellent idea for a sitcom with two bigamists, married to each other, sharing a cell.

Isn't there a period of X years where the marriage is deemed no more if you haven't had any contact? It will shock you to learn I'm not a divorce lawyer.

anonymous-user

83 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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donkmeister said:
See if the ex has remarried - if so then you're golden.
Why she’d do that is the bigger mystery.

Pitre

6,304 posts

263 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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Win the lottery

edthefed

827 posts

96 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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Ask her sister out ?

Canon_Fodder

1,775 posts

92 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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clockworks said:
I may possibly be considering getting married again....
'may' ... 'possibly' ... 'considering'... Hardly sounds like you've been struck by Cupid's arrow. Is it for tax reasons?

Boosted LS1

21,200 posts

289 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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Let her know you've won a million.

loskie

7,082 posts

149 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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well done OP I saw the title of this thread and just had to click to see WTF it was all about. I've not been disappointed. Please keep us all informed.

NMNeil

5,860 posts

79 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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If you hear constant nagging; you're still married. biggrin
But to make sure:
https://www.nationalarchives.gov.uk/help-with-your...

Collectingbrass

2,951 posts

224 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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donkmeister said:
longblackcoat said:
donkmeister said:
See if the ex has remarried - if so then you're golden.
Well, unless she's a bigamist .......
That's just given me an excellent idea for a sitcom with two bigamists, married to each other, sharing a cell.

Isn't there a period of X years where the marriage is deemed no more if you haven't had any contact? It will shock you to learn I'm not a divorce lawyer.
No contact for 5 years is one of the grounds for divorce, but you still need to do the court docs.

@OP you are Dale Vince and I claim my five pounds https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-gloucestersh...

fuzzymonkey

471 posts

254 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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Put all the cushions in your house in cuboard. If they all reappear or you suddlenly get a bunch of new ones, then you're still married.