Dealing with depression 2...
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As many of you know, over the past few months I have been feeling extremely low and have asked for advice on how to deal with it/ feel better.
Well things have got worse since, and more recently I have found that im really, really struggling now. Im going to call my parents later to try and see what they suggest - but they are at work now and I can wait.
I just want your advice on dealing with things, I am not on anti-depressents/ havent seen a GP as im scared of talking about certain issues and dont really want my parents worrying about me.
This is affecting my health, my friendships, my work and to be honest, I cant see myself continuing circling the drain like this for that much longer.
Thanks in advance,
Ben CA
Well things have got worse since, and more recently I have found that im really, really struggling now. Im going to call my parents later to try and see what they suggest - but they are at work now and I can wait.
I just want your advice on dealing with things, I am not on anti-depressents/ havent seen a GP as im scared of talking about certain issues and dont really want my parents worrying about me.
This is affecting my health, my friendships, my work and to be honest, I cant see myself continuing circling the drain like this for that much longer.
Thanks in advance,
Ben CA
Ben
Please try and see your GP - I went thru' the same thing in my early 20's, and then a few years later. You don't have to take tablets, and there are community mental-health staff who will visit you in your home etc whenever. There are loads of options available. Also reconsider talking to your parents. In my experience, they will be less phased than you would imagine - mine certainly were!
Here if you need to talk...
Al
Please try and see your GP - I went thru' the same thing in my early 20's, and then a few years later. You don't have to take tablets, and there are community mental-health staff who will visit you in your home etc whenever. There are loads of options available. Also reconsider talking to your parents. In my experience, they will be less phased than you would imagine - mine certainly were!
Here if you need to talk...
Al
My parents know im low, as do most of my friends - they are incredibly supportive. However I fear my parents, my mum in particular would be ridiculously worried if I asked to see my GP about it. I remember all too well how upset she was when my brother had to see a psychiatrist at a young age. She worries about me too much as it is, she would feel upset that she cant help.
Have a chat (anonymously if you want) here the people are very understanding because they are in the same position as you. Just post "This is how I feel..." and let rip. I guarantee you they'll understand and you'll be surprised at how many people reply with "that's exactly how I feel/felt".
You'll be amazed too, at how much better you'll feel knowing you aren't the only one/a wierdo/destined to feel like this forever...
All the best and if you want to chat - feel free to email through my profile.
You'll be amazed too, at how much better you'll feel knowing you aren't the only one/a wierdo/destined to feel like this forever...
All the best and if you want to chat - feel free to email through my profile.
Likewise Ben, I have been "Coping" by myself and recently it hasn't been working well at all. I've lost a grip of my future, sleep pattern, girlfriend, etc, etc and life for me has come totally to bits. Even though outwardly I am fairly normal.
At 5pm today, I am off to the doc to mess up my clean slate and hopefully get myself sorted out.
I figure it this way. It's like an aircraft trying to take off. You have got to get the engine revs up enough to get the engine "on cam" in order to clear the hedge at the end of the runway. Although you can have as many attempts as you like at taking off, eventually you will just resign yourself to not flying at all. Life is about flying, so go and see the storeman and go and "borrow" a Nitrous kit to enable your engine to get "on the cam" so that you can clear the hedge and fly. There is nothing wrong with your engine compared to everyone elses, it merely has lost revs.
I have felt the best in ages knowing that I'm not on my own and I can get sorted out. Why suffer any longer?
At 5pm today, I am off to the doc to mess up my clean slate and hopefully get myself sorted out.
I figure it this way. It's like an aircraft trying to take off. You have got to get the engine revs up enough to get the engine "on cam" in order to clear the hedge at the end of the runway. Although you can have as many attempts as you like at taking off, eventually you will just resign yourself to not flying at all. Life is about flying, so go and see the storeman and go and "borrow" a Nitrous kit to enable your engine to get "on the cam" so that you can clear the hedge and fly. There is nothing wrong with your engine compared to everyone elses, it merely has lost revs.
I have felt the best in ages knowing that I'm not on my own and I can get sorted out. Why suffer any longer?
I was the same as yourself a while back, everything was building up to a huge mountain. I was fine around my friends but the moment I came home everything compounded again to make life seem really bad.
I'm lucky in that my dad is/was the same as me so understands how it feels to think that every little thing is trying to stop you progressing, how every little word that someone says is out to be nasty... It isn't.
And as for doctors, well I'm skeptical and despise many doctors ever since one told me I was "molycoddled" and was imagining the cost pain, ringing and dizzyness stemming from my ears - I don't personally think that many doctors care when they can't make something better with a simple prescription. However, at the surgery I'm registered to there is one man who helped me more than I can ever thank him for. He didn't do anything, he just sat and listened and asked a few questions, he probed a little and didn't suggest I had to leave at any point - we seemed to talk for 30mins (but in reality it wasn't more than 10 or so). I walked out feeling exactly the same but later that day everything started to get better, just as he explained it would.
My point? Not all doctors are bad, not all doctors want to chuck you out the door... some are there to help so use them!
One of the things I got told to do was sit down and write a long list of all the things that were actually happening badly and start to solve them. Make a plan to correct or dismiss the problem and do it. As your list gets shorter you start to improve apparently.
If your parents worry that much call them - I'm fairly certain they won't mind been called at work regardless, thats what parents are for!
I'm lucky in that my dad is/was the same as me so understands how it feels to think that every little thing is trying to stop you progressing, how every little word that someone says is out to be nasty... It isn't.
And as for doctors, well I'm skeptical and despise many doctors ever since one told me I was "molycoddled" and was imagining the cost pain, ringing and dizzyness stemming from my ears - I don't personally think that many doctors care when they can't make something better with a simple prescription. However, at the surgery I'm registered to there is one man who helped me more than I can ever thank him for. He didn't do anything, he just sat and listened and asked a few questions, he probed a little and didn't suggest I had to leave at any point - we seemed to talk for 30mins (but in reality it wasn't more than 10 or so). I walked out feeling exactly the same but later that day everything started to get better, just as he explained it would.
My point? Not all doctors are bad, not all doctors want to chuck you out the door... some are there to help so use them!
One of the things I got told to do was sit down and write a long list of all the things that were actually happening badly and start to solve them. Make a plan to correct or dismiss the problem and do it. As your list gets shorter you start to improve apparently.
If your parents worry that much call them - I'm fairly certain they won't mind been called at work regardless, thats what parents are for!
Often depression is simply a matter of chemicals interacting in your Brain. My father suffered from depression and had to give up drinking.
One natural remedy is execise as it releases Endomorphins (Hope I spelt that right)into the brain. Many people will have probable felt this, a feeling of being 'high' after some strenous exercise.
It is also vitally important to get enough sleep, as a lack of sleep can also result in depression.
One natural remedy is execise as it releases Endomorphins (Hope I spelt that right)into the brain. Many people will have probable felt this, a feeling of being 'high' after some strenous exercise.
It is also vitally important to get enough sleep, as a lack of sleep can also result in depression.
Take the long view. Whatever is making you feel this way now may well be a thing of mirth in five or ten years. You might not be able to see it now, but your whole future is an open book.
I know it sounds like a cliche, but life has to be lived forwards yet it can only be understood when looking backwards.
Just because you don't see an answer today, doesn't mean there isn't one.
I know it sounds like a cliche, but life has to be lived forwards yet it can only be understood when looking backwards.
Just because you don't see an answer today, doesn't mean there isn't one.
Oh, man. Sorry to hear about this.
I've been there myself. Its impossible to describe to people who have'nt been there also, such is the way this can make you feel.
The only hope I can offer is the FACT that it CAN get better!
However hopeless the situation feels, and however much you feel that you are in a spiral from which there is no escape, the truth is that you CAN find a path out of it.
If you don't want to talk to your parents, thats fine. I can understand that sometimes the people who are closest to you are the last people you want to share this with !
Instead get some independent help. Think about calling MIND , the charity that deals with these issues.
You can find a local support number on this website:
www.mind.org.uk Click on "In your area".
The site also contains information about depression, including a pdf file you can download, full of useful information.
You might find it hard to summon up the momentum to make the call. But you can do it - after all, you are able to post here on PH, so you can make contact with independent help if you really want to !
Go for it. Let us know how you get on, and best wishes.
I've been there myself. Its impossible to describe to people who have'nt been there also, such is the way this can make you feel.
The only hope I can offer is the FACT that it CAN get better!
However hopeless the situation feels, and however much you feel that you are in a spiral from which there is no escape, the truth is that you CAN find a path out of it.
If you don't want to talk to your parents, thats fine. I can understand that sometimes the people who are closest to you are the last people you want to share this with !
Instead get some independent help. Think about calling MIND , the charity that deals with these issues.
You can find a local support number on this website:
www.mind.org.uk Click on "In your area".
The site also contains information about depression, including a pdf file you can download, full of useful information.
You might find it hard to summon up the momentum to make the call. But you can do it - after all, you are able to post here on PH, so you can make contact with independent help if you really want to !
Go for it. Let us know how you get on, and best wishes.
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