House guests

[Slushbox]

The Spanish have a saying: " Guests are like fish, after three days they start to smell."

[bunglesprout]

I had my parents with me from the 23rd, then my my brother and his wife and daughter from Boxing Day, they have all pissed off now. I love them all and we get on, but I can't stand much more than that length of time without getting seriously tetchy. My home is my happy place, where I can just kick back and relax, i can't fully relax with guests, no matter how close to them I am.

My wife and daughters constantly accuse me of being a curmudgeon and a miserable unsociable tt, but I hate having people round! I like my own space and I'm happy in my own company. A friend of ours is the complete opposite, he has to constantly have people around to his house or throw parties etc etc it does my head in thinking about it!

My daughter wants a party here next year for her 16th birthday. Last time she asked, I said "no fking way,nope, not going to happen, never, fking no no no no fk off NO"

I never answer the doorbell unless I'm expecting a parcel etc, and I never answer the telephone, not even my mobile unless it is my wife or daughters.

Having thought about it, my wife is absolutely right. I'm a miserable unsociable tt.

[HOGEPH]

When I win the lottery and build my dream house, it will only have 2 bedrooms, at opposite ends.

Couldn't stand more than one other couple in the house, and then for only a few nights.

[HTP99]

I could probably cope with one night of guests but that would be enough for me, fortunately for us we only have a small 2 bed, so we don't have people staying over.

[alorotom]

Slushbox said:

The Spanish have a saying: " Guests are like fish, after three days they start to smell."

Odd, didn't realise I could read Spanish

On topic my ex wife used to have all sort of friends stay with us for Christmas, Easter, birthdays, and any other reason she could come up with, for right on my tits and was one of the great pleasures when I booted her out

[basherX]

anonymous said:

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We had my parents round on Christmas Day/Boxing Day and it sets my teeth on edge every time. It's not that I don't love them but my father is accustomed to my mother skivvying for him and he brings that approach to my house. This is seemingly on the basis of his, what he frames as "amusing", belief that because he paid for my education he, by extension, has an ownership interest in everything that's mine.

And whilst I can, just, get them to offer to do the dishes I know that what this means in practice is a st job that I'll have to re-do later combined with weeks of trying to figure out where they put the bottle opener. So I just do it myself nowadays- at least it's time on my own.

I'm better with non-parental house guests, but not much. And I hate staying at other people's houses: absolutely impossible to escape that awkward feeling that you're imposing.

[Freds]

Fortunately we have an adjoining annex/ cottage. I just fumigate the place when they've gone. Meanwhile I can sing and fart as I wish .

[zarjaz1991]

I hate having people in the house and would not do it, nor would I stay in someone's house. I'd rather book a hotel.

That said....what's all this about expecting guests to help with the washing up? You're the host, you do it, anything else is rude and very poor etiquette. Only exception might be a bunch of mates round for a piss up, but certainly not relatives. You invite people round then expect them to wash up? Really? Belongs in the council thread frankly.

If a guest does ask if they can help, it should be politely declined.

Tsk

Edited by zarjaz1991 on Saturday 31st December 10:28

[98elise]

bunglesprout said:

My wife and daughters constantly accuse me of being a curmudgeon and a miserable unsociable tt, but I hate having people round! I like my own space and I'm happy in my own company. A friend of ours is the complete opposite, he has to constantly have people around to his house or throw parties etc etc it does my head in thinking about it!

My daughter wants a party here next year for her 16th birthday. Last time she asked, I said "no fking way,nope, not going to happen, never, fking no no no no fk off NO"

Thats classic introvert vs extrovet behaviour. I'm with you. I do not like socialising unless its a close group of mates. I hate going to parties and hate trying to make small talk with people. I especially hate anything whe I'm the host. Its not fear or being grumpy. I just don't enjoy it.


Given the choice of a party, or a night in on my own I would take the latter.

[basherX]

zarjaz1991 said:

I hate having people in the house and would not do it, nor would I stay in someone's house. I'd rather book a hotel.

That said....what's all this about expectiing guests to help with the washing up? You're the host, you do it, anything else is rude and very poor etiquette. Only exception might be a bunch of mates round for a piss up, but certainly not relatives. You invite people round then expect them to wash up? Really? Belongs in the council thread frankly.

If a guest does ask if they can help, it should be politely declined.

Tsk

Whatever you say Hyacinth.

[Alex@POD]

anonymous said:

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Then after saying hello when they arrive, your next question should be "where are you staying?".

[Steve H]

anonymous said:

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Seriously?


ETA, ^^^^^^^^ what Alex said sounds good

[zarjaz1991]

anonymous said:

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Don't answer the door.

[TLandCruiser]

zarjaz1991 said:

I hate having people in the house and would not do it, nor would I stay in someone's house. I'd rather book a hotel.

That said....what's all this about expectiing guests to help with the washing up? You're the host, you do it, anything else is rude and very poor etiquette. Only exception might be a bunch of mates round for a piss up, but certainly not relatives. You invite people round then expect them to wash up? Really? Belongs in the council thread frankly.

If a guest does ask if they can help, it should be politely declined.

Tsk

My thoughts exactly, and I would certainly not expect my parents to wash up!

[BigBen]

anonymous said:

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You have described our ideal house, we had the same problem last time we moved and ended up in a place that we don't use most of the rooms in but was the easiest way to a double garage.

[Biker's Nemesis]

98elise said:

bunglesprout said:

My wife and daughters constantly accuse me of being a curmudgeon and a miserable unsociable tt, but I hate having people round! I like my own space and I'm happy in my own company. A friend of ours is the complete opposite, he has to constantly have people around to his house or throw parties etc etc it does my head in thinking about it!

My daughter wants a party here next year for her 16th birthday. Last time she asked, I said "no fking way,nope, not going to happen, never, fking no no no no fk off NO"

Thats classic introvert vs extrovet behaviour. I'm with you. I do not like socialising unless its a close group of mates. I hate going to parties and hate trying to make small talk with people. I especially hate anything whe I'm the host. Its not fear or being grumpy. I just don't enjoy it.


Given the choice of a party, or a night in on my own I would take the latter.

The Ladybird explanation of introvert Vs extrovert.

http://www.quietrev.com/6-illustrations-that-show-...

[davek_964]

Biker's Nemesis said:

98elise said:

bunglesprout said:

My wife and daughters constantly accuse me of being a curmudgeon and a miserable unsociable tt, but I hate having people round! I like my own space and I'm happy in my own company. A friend of ours is the complete opposite, he has to constantly have people around to his house or throw parties etc etc it does my head in thinking about it!

My daughter wants a party here next year for her 16th birthday. Last time she asked, I said "no fking way,nope, not going to happen, never, fking no no no no fk off NO"

Thats classic introvert vs extrovet behaviour. I'm with you. I do not like socialising unless its a close group of mates. I hate going to parties and hate trying to make small talk with people. I especially hate anything whe I'm the host. Its not fear or being grumpy. I just don't enjoy it.


Given the choice of a party, or a night in on my own I would take the latter.

The Ladybird explanation of introvert Vs extrovert.

http://www.quietrev.com/6-illustrations-that-show-...

That party picture is brilliant - exactly how I feel at parties, and relevant given today's date!

[Trevor450]

No house guests this year. We had a nice quiet Christmas by ourselves. My dad and his girlfriend stayed over last year. He put wet clothes on top of an electric heater to dry them and nearly burnt the house down. He didn't even apologise. He seemed more narked that his clothes had scorched.

I don't mind parties and gatherings with close friends, but I find house guests hard work. A one bedroom house with the downstairs space of a four bedroomed one sounds ideal.

[Johnnytheboy]

anonymous said:

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We had multiple guests over Christmas, and two slept in the room separated from ours by a landing with a bathroom off it.

Now, I assume this is because they are parents with kids elsewhere in the house, but it would have been a lot easier and less self-conscious for me to go to the loo in the night if they hadn't insisted on sleeping with their bedroom door half open.

There's nothing on Earth worse than trying to fart silently on your own loo.

[Jasandjules]

We have five bedrooms downstairs. Sadly, it's a bungalow......