Your partner’s previous partners - how many is too many?
Your partner’s previous partners - how many is too many?
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Ayahuasca

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27,590 posts

310 months

Wednesday 13th September 2023
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Yes it’s one of those late night questions that one ponders when one is in a ruminative mood.

Low mileage cars are generally worth more, right? You would be pretty upset if the low mileage car you were buying turned out to have been clocked wouldn’t you?

How does it work with one’s potential significant other? Is there a number of previous partners that is just too much?










bearman68

4,941 posts

163 months

Wednesday 13th September 2023
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I think more than 800 would raise eyebrows.

But less than 2 or 3 would be a bit surprising as well.

Somewhere in between would be about right.

Radec

6,017 posts

78 months

Wednesday 13th September 2023
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Don't forget the rule of 3, however many your Mrs has said it is, multiply it by 3.

MBVitoria

2,533 posts

254 months

Wednesday 13th September 2023
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IMO no good can come from asking about your partner's "body count". It's a highly personal thing and pestering them to tell you just makes you look insecure and jealous.

Besides, the car analogy really doesn't work.


ridds

8,373 posts

275 months

Wednesday 13th September 2023
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Ayahuasca said:
Yes it’s one of those late night questions that one ponders when one is in a ruminative mood.

Low mileage cars are generally worth more, right? You would be pretty upset if the low mileage car you were buying turned out to have been clocked wouldn’t you?

How does it work with one’s potential significant other? Is there a number of previous partners that is just too much?
What about a low mileage one that had been on Trackdays every weekend? hehe

MBVitoria

2,533 posts

254 months

Wednesday 13th September 2023
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bearman68 said:
I think more than 800 would raise eyebrows

But less than 2 or 3 would be a bit surprising as well.

Somewhere in between would be about right.
Sudden flash from the past - remember watching a grainy VHS copy of the "Houston 500" back in the day lol hehe

beambeam1

1,698 posts

74 months

Wednesday 13th September 2023
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ridds said:
What about a low mileage one that had been on Trackdays every weekend? hehe
Don't forget the passenger laps!

Cold

16,742 posts

121 months

Wednesday 13th September 2023
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MBVitoria said:
IMO no good can come from asking about your partner's "body count". It's a highly personal thing and pestering them to tell you just makes you look insecure and jealous.

Besides, the car analogy really doesn't work.
True. A stinky clutch is easily fixed in a car.

MattsCar

2,497 posts

136 months

Wednesday 13th September 2023
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bearman68 said:
I think more than 800 would raise eyebrows.

But less than 2 or 3 would be a bit surprising as well.

Somewhere in between would be about right.
398?

YankeePorker

4,830 posts

272 months

Thursday 14th September 2023
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Reminds me of that old story…

“Honey, I have a confession. I used to be a hooker.”
“That’s alright love, we all go through phases of life, I’m sure it wasn’t for too long.”
“No you’re not understanding me, I used to play for Wigan.”

fttm

4,616 posts

166 months

Thursday 14th September 2023
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beambeam1 said:
ridds said:
What about a low mileage one that had been on Trackdays every weekend? hehe
Don't forget the passenger laps!
Eww that sounds gross vomit

K87

4,304 posts

130 months

Thursday 14th September 2023
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I have a question, it is for a friend, does five at the same time count as one or five?


GT03ROB

14,035 posts

252 months

Thursday 14th September 2023
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MBVitoria said:
IMO no good can come from asking about your partner's "body count". It's a highly personal thing and pestering them to tell you just makes you look insecure and jealous.
No good ever came from asking the question. Would the answer ever change anything?

GilletteFan

672 posts

62 months

Thursday 14th September 2023
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Radec said:
Don't forget the rule of 3, however many your Mrs has said it is, multiply it by 3.
This is a very good guide.

For me, I don't worry as I really doubt they've got more notches than me. Also, my gut tells me that the more average a girl is, the higher is the multiple (think x5/ x6) since better looking girls are more discriminating for obvious reasons.

YankeePorker

4,830 posts

272 months

Thursday 14th September 2023
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Thing is, much like a car the wear pattern is very revealing, albeit harder to hide. If Niki Laura’s ears already look like they need some work and the gear-lever is very sloppy then you know that the carfax is missing some essential details.

wildoliver

9,320 posts

247 months

Thursday 14th September 2023
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I used to think the past was the past and the future mattered.

But a few different girlfriends taught me that lots of partners tended to go with an unhealthy attitude to relationships. So while it wouldn't bother me for a short term fling (likely be more fun indeed) as a long term relationship it rarely works.

Sure enough the one I settled down with was the polar opposite.

Smint

3,665 posts

66 months

Thursday 14th September 2023
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The chances of becoming just another notch will be higher on a machine gun than a flintlock.

DodgyGeezer

49,253 posts

221 months

Thursday 14th September 2023
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Does the same also apply to those men who put it about, that is should women reject them for too many partners?

GilletteFan

672 posts

62 months

Thursday 14th September 2023
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DodgyGeezer said:
Does the same also apply to those men who put it about, that is should women reject them for too many partners?
I'm of the opinion, could be based on experience, that there's a good chance women like a well used and in demand model. They know it will work and work very hard.

Abdul Abulbul Amir

13,179 posts

243 months

Thursday 14th September 2023
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GilletteFan said:
DodgyGeezer said:
Does the same also apply to those men who put it about, that is should women reject them for too many partners?
I'm of the opinion, could be based on experience, that there's a good chance women like a well used and in demand model. They know it will work and work very hard.
Yes, women like to know their choice has been validated by other women.