Soshalllllllll network s@#&ehousery
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I try to limit my soshallllll network interactions as far as reasonably possible. But it seems it can go ballistic without warning sometimes. I’m in my early fifties, and my “footprint” is mostly because I have to, because T&C., However, lately I’ve found a f
ktonne of new people have started to request a follow. Some of them are off the back of my support for Yankee cheer athletes, and that’s sweet. If I can help, I will. But I recently ( couple of weeks back) ran into a ex girlfriend ( we are talking 30 years back here). And she hasn’t aged badly TBF. I’ve now had about a hundred requests from god knows who, who might have known me back in the day. I’m not complaining, it’s fun. But fk my old boots, I can’t remember most of them. How do Ideal with it without sounding like a megadick?
ktonne of new people have started to request a follow. Some of them are off the back of my support for Yankee cheer athletes, and that’s sweet. If I can help, I will. But I recently ( couple of weeks back) ran into a ex girlfriend ( we are talking 30 years back here). And she hasn’t aged badly TBF. I’ve now had about a hundred requests from god knows who, who might have known me back in the day. I’m not complaining, it’s fun. But fk my old boots, I can’t remember most of them. How do Ideal with it without sounding like a megadick?Nicetobenice said:
You'll never see them and you don't want to interact with them.
What's the issue?
The problem being that I ve recently come back to an old stomping ground. It seems I ve moved on, they maybe haven t so much. That s cool, but I m now having to balance a professional image with a lot of slightly not entirely compliant history. It s an interesting problem. I have got fWhat's the issue?
k all idea how to deal with it really, Ditch it, go dark is not on the cards because T&C. SodiumThiopental said:
Nicetobenice said:
You'll never see them and you don't want to interact with them.
What's the issue?
The problem being that I ve recently come back to an old stomping ground. It seems I ve moved on, they maybe haven t so much. That s cool, but I m now having to balance a professional image with a lot of slightly not entirely compliant history. It s an interesting problem. I have got fWhat's the issue?
k all idea how to deal with it really, Ditch it, go dark is not on the cards because T&C. In my case there were one or two people that I had to stop contact with - we were just in a different place, had nothing in common anymore as our outlooks had changed and for me I found as much as it pained me to admit and realise, that friendship was doing me more harm than good and /or not getting anything from it anymore.
Previous said:
I've had / been in a similar position. LinkedIn for professional network. Others for social. And you simply don't accept new requests from anyone you don't want to talk to. It's not hard.
In my case there were one or two people that I had to stop contact with - we were just in a different place, had nothing in common anymore as our outlooks had changed and for me I found as much as it pained me to admit and realise, that friendship was doing me more harm than good and /or not getting anything from it anymore.
That sounds about right. It’s balancing binning not happening with stuff that might work. It’s confusing to say the least.In my case there were one or two people that I had to stop contact with - we were just in a different place, had nothing in common anymore as our outlooks had changed and for me I found as much as it pained me to admit and realise, that friendship was doing me more harm than good and /or not getting anything from it anymore.
OP -with all due respect this sounds like the kind of “problem “ that teenage girls have.
Do you have a desperate need for friends? Do you need to be “in with me in crowd”? Do you feel validated by the number of “friends “ / connections that you have?
If you like people click “accept “ if you don’t like them click “ignore “. It’s that simple.
Do you have a desperate need for friends? Do you need to be “in with me in crowd”? Do you feel validated by the number of “friends “ / connections that you have?
If you like people click “accept “ if you don’t like them click “ignore “. It’s that simple.
SodiumThiopental said:
I try to limit my soshallllll network interactions as far as reasonably possible. But it seems it can go ballistic without warning sometimes. I m in my early fifties, and my footprint is mostly because I have to, because T&C., However, lately I ve found a fktonne of new people have started to request a follow. Some of them are off the back of my support for Yankee cheer athletes, and that s sweet. If I can help, I will. But I recently ( couple of weeks back) ran into a ex girlfriend ( we are talking 30 years back here). And she hasn t aged badly TBF. I ve now had about a hundred requests from god knows who, who might have known me back in the day. I m not complaining, it s fun. But fk my old boots, I can t remember most of them. How do Ideal with it without sounding like a megadick?
You already sound like a megadick with the thread title and post, and your prolific posting in many threads on here in only a few weeks.ktonne of new people have started to request a follow. Some of them are off the back of my support for Yankee cheer athletes, and that s sweet. If I can help, I will. But I recently ( couple of weeks back) ran into a ex girlfriend ( we are talking 30 years back here). And she hasn t aged badly TBF. I ve now had about a hundred requests from god knows who, who might have known me back in the day. I m not complaining, it s fun. But fk my old boots, I can t remember most of them. How do Ideal with it without sounding like a megadick?At 50+ years old you should have the common sense to know how to deal with your issues
Countdown said:
OP -with all due respect this sounds like the kind of problem that teenage girls have.
Do you have a desperate need for friends? Do you need to be in with me in crowd ? Do you feel validated by the number of friends / connections that you have?
If you like people click accept if you don t like them click ignore . It s that simple.
Mostly no. I can’t chuck babies out with bath water though. That’s the dilemma.Do you have a desperate need for friends? Do you need to be in with me in crowd ? Do you feel validated by the number of friends / connections that you have?
If you like people click accept if you don t like them click ignore . It s that simple.
Opapayer said:
What a ridiculous thread. WTF does T&C mean? Just don t accept stuff or accept it. Who honestly gives a st about social media accounts nowadays anyway?
This on all counts. No fecking idea what T&C is and frankly don't care either. I'm in my fifties as well and I can categorically state that Facebook or whatever social site is being used is utter garbage. Honestly, no-one cares.t about social media accounts nowadays anyway?Ted Maul said:
This on all counts. No fecking idea what T&C is and frankly don't care either. I'm in my fifties as well and I can categorically state that Facebook or whatever social site is being used is utter garbage. Honestly, no-one cares.
However, retirement funds are retirement funds. So managing it is not entirely irrelevant. I’m just spit balling a bit, looking for opinions from people that know how to milk it better than I know how to really.Nicetobenice said:
Just ignore the requests.
This.I'm in a few different Facebook groups (Urbexing, RC cars, mountain biking and hillwalking) and any time I post up about a place I've been that people really want to know about I get flood of Friends requests, particularly with Urbexing. I just let them build up until they stop counting (99+) and they are no longer an issue. If an old friend tries to contact me and just does a Friend request I most likely miss it but if I bump into them I can show them the tab and explain why with no issue. Everyone that has actually wanted to contact me rather than just be nosey usually either calls or texts me as I have the same mobile number I've had since my first mobile.
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