Match.com (Vol. 7)
Discussion
Unreal said:
You may find things change quite dramatically if either you finds out that the other is having sex elsewhere. It may be one of those situations where it's best to let things drift if you aren't particularly unhappy with the situation but I'd be surprised if the existing arrangement would survive the arrival of a third party. Even if the two of you want to be besties, it's unlikely the third party would tolerate it.
She'd already told me 5 weeks ago she was seeing someone so I assumed that was already happening; she subsequently told me she finished it and that that hadn't happened. I believe her because I know how blunt she is, she wouldn't sugar coat if she had. And it still wouldn't be any of my business anyway.And yep, totally get the latter part. By the same token, any 'besties' setup probably wouldn't sit well with someone I meet either. Time will tell. It'll work it's own way out. I'm just not going to close the door on the possibility because some folks who know nothing about us say I should.
BunkMoreland said:
Best way to get over any woman is to get under 5 more 
The rest of your post: 'whatever'That bit, I'm seeing someone tomorrow who I've had great banter with for a couple of weeks, so yeah that's part of the plan to not sit around pining for something that might never happen. What will be will be but it looks better than every chat I've had so far (including pics that validate the profile). It won't be *her* but there's no reason it can't be great fun. Beach date. We're planning to watch sunset, listen to music, drink wine, have a laugh.... and when we get hungry my flat is 1 min away and just eat can sort it out if we're that cool with each other or there's a plethora of local restaurants within minutes.
trackdemon said:
BunkMoreland said:
Best way to get over any woman is to get under 5 more
The rest of your post: 'whatever'That bit, I'm seeing someone tomorrow who I've had great banter with for a couple of weeks, so yeah that's part of the plan to not sit around pining for something that might never happen. What will be will be but it looks better than every chat I've had so far (including pics that validate the profile). It won't be *her* but there's no reason it can't be great fun. Beach date. We're planning to watch sunset, listen to music, drink wine, have a laugh.... and when we get hungry my flat is 1 min away and just eat can sort it out if we're that cool with each other or there's a plethora of local restaurants within minutes.
P.s. I most definitely would happily say what I did to your face.
trackdemon said:
The rest of your post: 'whatever'
That bit, I'm seeing someone tomorrow who I've had great banter with for a couple of weeks, so yeah that's part of the plan to not sit around pining for something that might never happen. What will be will be but it looks better than every chat I've had so far (including pics that validate the profile). It won't be *her* but there's no reason it can't be great fun. Beach date. We're planning to watch sunset, listen to music, drink wine, have a laugh.... and when we get hungry my flat is 1 min away and just eat can sort it out if we're that cool with each other or there's a plethora of local restaurants within minutes.
So how did Friday go? That bit, I'm seeing someone tomorrow who I've had great banter with for a couple of weeks, so yeah that's part of the plan to not sit around pining for something that might never happen. What will be will be but it looks better than every chat I've had so far (including pics that validate the profile). It won't be *her* but there's no reason it can't be great fun. Beach date. We're planning to watch sunset, listen to music, drink wine, have a laugh.... and when we get hungry my flat is 1 min away and just eat can sort it out if we're that cool with each other or there's a plethora of local restaurants within minutes.
Did you have a good time? (That's in a general sense, not looking for intimate details!)
Bluevanman said:
I'm completely the opposite to some of you guys,if a woman makes it clear she no longer wants to see me.....and there's been a few lol...... I don't go chasing after her, I delete her number and put her into a mental box that is the past.
There's too much mental anguish in unrequited love, been there once many years ago, I won't put myself in that situation again.
Sometimes the woman has a change of heart and gets back in touch but it never works out in my experience
Exactly the same, a break up is for a reason, never going to chase it or go back. There's too much mental anguish in unrequited love, been there once many years ago, I won't put myself in that situation again.
Sometimes the woman has a change of heart and gets back in touch but it never works out in my experience
Quick 'pre date' date tonight as she's passing by on the way home from work.... Be interesting as her profile is a mixed bag of 'wow she's stunning' in a couple of pics and 'is that the same person' in others. So a low key quick meet seems a good plan, if we get on well then a 'proper' date can be arranged.... if not, I've been out for a quick drink with somebody nice who's not as hot as I thought.
London date tomorrow with someone I connected with last weekend, we ended up chatting back and forth till 4am Saturday and have been chatting daily since. Seems cool and fun. Wish she wasn't 90mins drive away. Hence London for first meet as we can both train, if we get on as per chats then driving to each other will be worth it. She's anxious about travel and tube and doesn't like driving, which is a little off putting as I don't want to wind up being the one that makes all the effort... and frankly, a 41yo woman with a grown up kid should be able to handle such basic stuff in life, shouldn't she? Am I being unreasonable in not understanding her anxieties?
Couple of others I'm chatting to, kind of keeping it alive in case others don't work out. Also because I'm a bit jaded to it all so half expect the arranged dates not to go as hoped... which may not be an ideal mindset, or maybe not giving much of a s
t and having options will work well. Who knows. Numbers game isn't it....
London date tomorrow with someone I connected with last weekend, we ended up chatting back and forth till 4am Saturday and have been chatting daily since. Seems cool and fun. Wish she wasn't 90mins drive away. Hence London for first meet as we can both train, if we get on as per chats then driving to each other will be worth it. She's anxious about travel and tube and doesn't like driving, which is a little off putting as I don't want to wind up being the one that makes all the effort... and frankly, a 41yo woman with a grown up kid should be able to handle such basic stuff in life, shouldn't she? Am I being unreasonable in not understanding her anxieties?
Couple of others I'm chatting to, kind of keeping it alive in case others don't work out. Also because I'm a bit jaded to it all so half expect the arranged dates not to go as hoped... which may not be an ideal mindset, or maybe not giving much of a s
t and having options will work well. Who knows. Numbers game isn't it....trackdemon said:
She's anxious about travel and tube and doesn't like driving, which is a little off putting as I don't want to wind up being the one that makes all the effort... and frankly, a 41yo woman with a grown up kid should be able to handle such basic stuff in life, shouldn't she? Am I being unreasonable in not understanding her anxieties?
It does call into question how she functions day-to-day - we all have a detailed route planner and satnav in our pocket, getting to an unfamiliar place is pretty easy.If it's a topic of conversation before you've even met, there's a real chance that a few dates from now the expectation is that you'll always be the one travelling, because she doesn't like to.
shtu said:
trackdemon said:
She's anxious about travel and tube and doesn't like driving, which is a little off putting as I don't want to wind up being the one that makes all the effort... and frankly, a 41yo woman with a grown up kid should be able to handle such basic stuff in life, shouldn't she? Am I being unreasonable in not understanding her anxieties?
It does call into question how she functions day-to-day - we all have a detailed route planner and satnav in our pocket, getting to an unfamiliar place is pretty easy.If it's a topic of conversation before you've even met, there's a real chance that a few dates from now the expectation is that you'll always be the one travelling, because she doesn't like to.
Don't right her off based on that.
Adam. said:
Don t see what is scary about train and tube, some may not like driving but she should be able to cope with it.
Would put me off if that is reflective of PER general attitude to life and it s basic challenges
I agree. People who seem to be problematic at the beginning get worse as it goes on. Obviously if stunning and amazing in bed exceptions can be made. Would put me off if that is reflective of PER general attitude to life and it s basic challenges
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