Match.com (Vol. 7)

[moanthebairns]

trackdemon said:

BunkMoreland said:

Best way to get over any woman is to get under 5 more

The rest of your post: 'whatever'

That bit, I'm seeing someone tomorrow who I've had great banter with for a couple of weeks, so yeah that's part of the plan to not sit around pining for something that might never happen. What will be will be but it looks better than every chat I've had so far (including pics that validate the profile). It won't be *her* but there's no reason it can't be great fun. Beach date. We're planning to watch sunset, listen to music, drink wine, have a laugh.... and when we get hungry my flat is 1 min away and just eat can sort it out if we're that cool with each other or there's a plethora of local restaurants within minutes.

So no spoons and the speedway then...

P.s. I most definitely would happily say what I did to your face.

[mondayo]

trackdemon said:

The rest of your post: 'whatever'

That bit, I'm seeing someone tomorrow who I've had great banter with for a couple of weeks, so yeah that's part of the plan to not sit around pining for something that might never happen. What will be will be but it looks better than every chat I've had so far (including pics that validate the profile). It won't be *her* but there's no reason it can't be great fun. Beach date. We're planning to watch sunset, listen to music, drink wine, have a laugh.... and when we get hungry my flat is 1 min away and just eat can sort it out if we're that cool with each other or there's a plethora of local restaurants within minutes.

So how did Friday go?
Did you have a good time? (That's in a general sense, not looking for intimate details!)

[interstellar]

This thread has died a death unfortunately. No stories to tell Tim or Petrus?

Some of you have to be going on dates.

[Greenmantle]

interstellar said:

This thread has died a death unfortunately. No stories to tell Tim or Petrus?

Some of you have to be going on dates.

Haven't you heard!
AI has taken over OLD.
No more stories to tell now.

[throt]

interstellar said:

This thread has died a death unfortunately.

Being single is the new "best" thing apparently

Relationships need stamina, time, effort and energy, appears few have that now

[Bluevanman]

I know lots of mature singletons and very few bother with dating apps any more,in fact very few bother with dating at all .

[Doesitdrive]

Bluevanman said:

I'm completely the opposite to some of you guys,if a woman makes it clear she no longer wants to see me.....and there's been a few lol...... I don't go chasing after her, I delete her number and put her into a mental box that is the past.
There's too much mental anguish in unrequited love, been there once many years ago, I won't put myself in that situation again.
Sometimes the woman has a change of heart and gets back in touch but it never works out in my experience

Exactly the same, a break up is for a reason, never going to chase it or go back.

[trackdemon]

Quick 'pre date' date tonight as she's passing by on the way home from work.... Be interesting as her profile is a mixed bag of 'wow she's stunning' in a couple of pics and 'is that the same person' in others. So a low key quick meet seems a good plan, if we get on well then a 'proper' date can be arranged.... if not, I've been out for a quick drink with somebody nice who's not as hot as I thought.

London date tomorrow with someone I connected with last weekend, we ended up chatting back and forth till 4am Saturday and have been chatting daily since. Seems cool and fun. Wish she wasn't 90mins drive away. Hence London for first meet as we can both train, if we get on as per chats then driving to each other will be worth it. She's anxious about travel and tube and doesn't like driving, which is a little off putting as I don't want to wind up being the one that makes all the effort... and frankly, a 41yo woman with a grown up kid should be able to handle such basic stuff in life, shouldn't she? Am I being unreasonable in not understanding her anxieties?

Couple of others I'm chatting to, kind of keeping it alive in case others don't work out. Also because I'm a bit jaded to it all so half expect the arranged dates not to go as hoped... which may not be an ideal mindset, or maybe not giving much of a st and having options will work well. Who knows. Numbers game isn't it....

[interstellar]

How was the “pre date” date?

[shtu]

trackdemon said:

She's anxious about travel and tube and doesn't like driving, which is a little off putting as I don't want to wind up being the one that makes all the effort... and frankly, a 41yo woman with a grown up kid should be able to handle such basic stuff in life, shouldn't she? Am I being unreasonable in not understanding her anxieties?

It does call into question how she functions day-to-day - we all have a detailed route planner and satnav in our pocket, getting to an unfamiliar place is pretty easy.

If it's a topic of conversation before you've even met, there's a real chance that a few dates from now the expectation is that you'll always be the one travelling, because she doesn't like to.

[Lincsls1]

shtu said:

trackdemon said:

She's anxious about travel and tube and doesn't like driving, which is a little off putting as I don't want to wind up being the one that makes all the effort... and frankly, a 41yo woman with a grown up kid should be able to handle such basic stuff in life, shouldn't she? Am I being unreasonable in not understanding her anxieties?

It does call into question how she functions day-to-day - we all have a detailed route planner and satnav in our pocket, getting to an unfamiliar place is pretty easy.

If it's a topic of conversation before you've even met, there's a real chance that a few dates from now the expectation is that you'll always be the one travelling, because she doesn't like to.

Plenty of people aren't keen on driving, seemingly more so females. And I can understand the anxiety around using the trains and tube. Fine if you're using them daily, if not then not so much.
Don't right her off based on that.

[Adam.]

Don’t see what is scary about train and tube, some may not like driving but she should be able to cope with it.

Would put me off if that is reflective of PER general attitude to life and it’s basic challenges