I need to divorce my wife quickly and cheaply
Discussion
Well, it's time for me to finally accept my marriage is over and I want to do divorce as quickly and as painlessly as possible with minimal expense. I want to avoid solicitors and my wife and I have agreed custody terms for the kids and financial terms so I need to now do the following:
1. Legally divorce
2. Gain a court order to establish legal documented evidence of our financial settlement
3. Legally establish the joint custody terms for our children.
The reason for posting this here is I'm looking for advice / experience of quicky divorces...Looking to do this online. Has anyone here done this? My wife and I have agreed I will divorce her and cite adultery as the reason. Appraently we can make this happen quickly then. I want to avoid solicitor costs and simply legally divorce - it won't be contested.
Advice welcome....thanks.
1. Legally divorce
2. Gain a court order to establish legal documented evidence of our financial settlement
3. Legally establish the joint custody terms for our children.
The reason for posting this here is I'm looking for advice / experience of quicky divorces...Looking to do this online. Has anyone here done this? My wife and I have agreed I will divorce her and cite adultery as the reason. Appraently we can make this happen quickly then. I want to avoid solicitor costs and simply legally divorce - it won't be contested.
Advice welcome....thanks.
You can do this in around 6 months then.
Here you go:
https://www.gov.uk/divorce/file-for-divorce
Personally I would have a deed of separation and ancillary relief arrangements (or whatever it's called) for children drawn up by a solicitor.
Here you go:
https://www.gov.uk/divorce/file-for-divorce
Personally I would have a deed of separation and ancillary relief arrangements (or whatever it's called) for children drawn up by a solicitor.
Edited by N Dentressangle on Monday 21st October 15:52
markmullen said:
I know you say you don't want to involve solicitors but as such a lot is at stake, and during divorces things rarely go as smoothly as expected, I'd really recommend getting one involved, the short term expense will be more than worth it long term.
The court order will take care of the financials - we've already agreed what it's going to be. Just need to get the paperwork concluded and submitted for the actual divorce. I've had 7 months of sh*t that I now need to put to bed without involving someone else who will take my money...or, have my wife involve a solicitor, and unravel everything we've mutually agreed. She's getting a good deal and, more importantly, my kids will do okay from it. I don't also want to line the pockets of a solicitor.
Sym7 said:
1. Legally divorce
2. Gain a court order to establish legal documented evidence of our financial settlement
3. Legally establish the joint custody terms for our children.
1. The dissolution of the marriage. You can easily do this yourself but it takes a long at it takes and you can't really rush it.2. Gain a court order to establish legal documented evidence of our financial settlement
3. Legally establish the joint custody terms for our children.
2. The division of marital assets is seperate to the dissolution of the marriage, it's called Ancillary Relief. You can start the ball rolling yourself but you will likley need a solicitor to draw up the agreement, called aConsent Order, for the Judge to ratify.
3. Residency of the children is again a different court process, but one with which you can do yourself. The problem is that the only legally binding agreement is a Joint Residence Order but the Court system has the principle not to make an Order where there is mutual agreement. So you can only achieve something legal if there is a dispute!
Good to see a number of very constructive replies. I have been divorced a number of times all by resonable agreement. However I have seen the results of seriously acrimonious divorces which can take a long time to resolve if bitterness creeps in. To my mind where children are involved these must be the primary concern of both parties. As children they rely upon their parents. The parents have to be the reasonable and responsible individual in the manner of the divorce. I do wish you well.
RSoovy4 said:
The irony is that this phrase has probably done more to put solicitors' kids through private school than any other.
Why are you the only legal on here who is constantly either talking about their earnings or alluding to earnings of the profession? For what is seen by many as a noble profession you don't half cheapen it! From your numerous comments on your own tax it's not even as if you're earning a significant amount either. Very odd poster.
Fotic said:
RSoovy4 said:
The irony is that this phrase has probably done more to put solicitors' kids through private school than any other.
Why are you the only legal on here who is constantly either talking about their earnings or alluding to earnings of the profession? For what is seen by many as a noble profession you don't half cheapen it! From your numerous comments on your own tax it's not even as if you're earning a significant amount either. Very odd poster.
I am simply making the point that our OP might be better off spending a small amount in order to get the job done right first time, and to have the benefit of negligence insurance if it all goes tits.
"Simple divorces" have a nasty habit of beocming anything but some way down the line. He needs to protect himself.
You had a pop at me on the Clairvoyant thread I seem to recall - one of your seventy odd postings. If you don't like lawyers that's down to you, but to be honest I think that the OP should do this right - whether it's with advice from a solicitor which he pays for, or from a slightly paunchy bald PHer who he won't have to.
Edited by RSoovy4 on Monday 21st October 16:31
RSoovy4 said:
Thanks a lot.
I am simply making the point that our OP might be better off spending a small amount in order to get the job done right first time, and to have the benefit of negligence insurance if it all goes tits.
"Simple divorces" have a nasty habit of beocming anything but some way down the line. He needs to protect himself.
That's a much more helpful way of phrasing it IMO than referring to the way the advisor would spend the money. I am simply making the point that our OP might be better off spending a small amount in order to get the job done right first time, and to have the benefit of negligence insurance if it all goes tits.
"Simple divorces" have a nasty habit of beocming anything but some way down the line. He needs to protect himself.
Fotic said:
RSoovy4 said:
Thanks a lot.
I am simply making the point that our OP might be better off spending a small amount in order to get the job done right first time, and to have the benefit of negligence insurance if it all goes tits.
"Simple divorces" have a nasty habit of beocming anything but some way down the line. He needs to protect himself.
That's a much more helpful way of phrasing it IMO than referring to the way the advisor would spend the money. I am simply making the point that our OP might be better off spending a small amount in order to get the job done right first time, and to have the benefit of negligence insurance if it all goes tits.
"Simple divorces" have a nasty habit of beocming anything but some way down the line. He needs to protect himself.
You might have to search around for a bit to find a solicitor willing to do a quickie
They hate simple agreements. Solicitors would much rather have two arguing parties fighting over every last penny
Your doing the right thing though she might have went for a guy with a bigger cock but you'll be the guy with the big head in the end
They hate simple agreements. Solicitors would much rather have two arguing parties fighting over every last penny
Your doing the right thing though she might have went for a guy with a bigger cock but you'll be the guy with the big head in the end
Sym7 said:
My wife and I have agreed I will divorce her and cite adultery as the reason. Appraently we can make this happen quickly then. I want to avoid solicitor costs and simply legally divorce - it won't be contested.
Advice welcome....thanks.
Are you hinting that this might not be the actual reason, if so it sounds like a recipe for disaster Advice welcome....thanks.
ging84 said:
Are you hinting that this might not be the actual reason, if so it sounds like a recipe for disaster
not if she agrees to itI used divorceonline.co.uk - from memory they charged about £300 and the whole thing cost £600. Just a question of fitting your arrangements into the boxes. If you really want to do it on the cheap fill the forms out yourself.
longblackcoat said:
Given that a divorce might well be the most expensive financial decision you'll ever make, spending about £500 to ensure that expectation = reality seems like value to me.
Like any form of insurance, it's a pointless expense until you need it.
I'd agree with this. My brother went through a very amicable divorce a few years back, but towards the end, and for some time afterwards, bith sides started wondering if the split that they'd happily agreed to was actually being over-generous to the other half. I know that in theory if it's all done right then there's no comeback, but that "if" might be key.Like any form of insurance, it's a pointless expense until you need it.
I'd counsel even the most amicable of couples to have everything at least checked over by a solicitor (each) just to confirm that it's al absolutely correctly done.
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