Does the husband need to know?
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No idea on the legal obligation but if they were going through divorce proceedings I’d have thought that it would become common knowledge soon enough (as the death would surely nullify the divorce case I suggest that two divorce lawyers would have to contact each other?). Sounds like a horrible situation.
I wouldn't want to be responsible for someone not being able to say goodbye (even if separate to everyone else) or not knowing. If that is taken away it can never be given back, which sometimes can end up weighing heavy on your own mind, that's the only thing id say on that.
No idea on the legal front.
Always three sides to every story. Regardless of the truth or otherwise he will know pretty shortly anyway as you cannot divorce someone who is dead I would imagine! I just hope their are no children involved and that everyone get a clean break from each other, whole thing sounds like a big s
t sandwich!
t sandwich!OpulentBob said:
Legal front - no clue. But to be a just because he is a is not very helpful and to be honest puts you all on his level.
He married her, she married him, they had love, they have history. He should be allowed to say goodbye. Do not deny him that.
This, although in slightly more lovey dovey, fluffy language. just because he is a is not very helpful and to be honest puts you all on his level. He married her, she married him, they had love, they have history. He should be allowed to say goodbye. Do not deny him that.
It doesn't need to be anything waspish or gushing. Just a simple "I'm sorry to have to let you know that X sadly passed away in the last week. The family are dealing with her affairs and no doubt the solicitor for her estate will be in touch with your divorce solicitor in due course. In the circumstances i do not think it would be appropriate for you to seek to attend the funeral."
Rude-boy said:
OpulentBob said:
Legal front - no clue. But to be a just because he is a is not very helpful and to be honest puts you all on his level.
He married her, she married him, they had love, they have history. He should be allowed to say goodbye. Do not deny him that.
This, although in slightly more lovey dovey, fluffy language. just because he is a is not very helpful and to be honest puts you all on his level. He married her, she married him, they had love, they have history. He should be allowed to say goodbye. Do not deny him that.
It doesn't need to be anything waspish or gushing. Just a simple "I'm sorry to have to let you know that X sadly passed away in the last week. The family are dealing with her affairs and no doubt the solicitor for her estate will be in touch with your divorce solicitor in due course. In the circumstances i do not think it would be appropriate for you to seek to attend the funeral."
I think legally he is still your sisters next of kin.
Had similar only it was my brother who died suddenly having been going through a nasty/spiteful divorce for 5 years, his "hopefully soon to be ex-wife" played the "grieving widow" to a T and there was nothing the family and friends could do about it she called all the shots from identifying the body, planning the funeral and executing his will/estate.
Had similar only it was my brother who died suddenly having been going through a nasty/spiteful divorce for 5 years, his "hopefully soon to be ex-wife" played the "grieving widow" to a T and there was nothing the family and friends could do about it she called all the shots from identifying the body, planning the funeral and executing his will/estate.
If the divorce had not been finalised, then they were still married. As has already been mentioned above, if she had no will, then he will be the legal beneficiary of her estate.
In 2005, my father was in the process of divorcing my step-mother when he was taken ill and died a few days later. My brother and I had already found a house for him to live in and we were in the process of sorting a mortgage to help fund the purchase. However, although the divorce was under way, he hadn't got round to changing his will, and my step mother inherited everything. If my step mother chooses to change her will, her own children will inherit all of "her" estate and my brother and I will get nothing from our late father's estate.
Having gone through the grief, then anger of losing a parent AND his estate, I really hope the lady in this instance had re-drawn her will when the divorce started.
In 2005, my father was in the process of divorcing my step-mother when he was taken ill and died a few days later. My brother and I had already found a house for him to live in and we were in the process of sorting a mortgage to help fund the purchase. However, although the divorce was under way, he hadn't got round to changing his will, and my step mother inherited everything. If my step mother chooses to change her will, her own children will inherit all of "her" estate and my brother and I will get nothing from our late father's estate.
Having gone through the grief, then anger of losing a parent AND his estate, I really hope the lady in this instance had re-drawn her will when the divorce started.
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