How can I find out if I'm still married?
How can I find out if I'm still married?
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clockworks

Original Poster:

7,690 posts

175 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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When we split 25 years ago, I moved 300 miles away. No contact with her for over 5 years, then she started divorce proceedings. I remember signing something agreeing to it, but don't remember getting anything more. No kids, no financial settlement, no arguments. We both kept what we owned.

What's the easiest way to find out if the divorce actually went through?

I may possibly be considering getting married again....

ziggy328

1,412 posts

244 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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Get married again and see if you get arrested?

ReverendCounter

6,087 posts

206 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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Leave the toilet seat up

clockworks

Original Poster:

7,690 posts

175 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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ziggy328 said:
Get married again and see if you get arrested?
That actually did make me laugh out loud

mickyh7

2,347 posts

116 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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Ask for a Blow Job!

longblackcoat

5,047 posts

213 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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Assuming you don't know anything more than you've posted (ideally you'd have dates, name of court etc), then you need to fill in form D440 and specify a 10-year period. The Central Family court will then do a search of that period and let you knoe. Be warned, it's (a) £65 per 10 year period searched (b) a slow process.

Hope this helps


https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/form-d4...

donkmeister

12,918 posts

130 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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See if the ex has remarried - if so then you're golden.

longblackcoat

5,047 posts

213 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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donkmeister said:
See if the ex has remarried - if so then you're golden.
Well, unless she's a bigamist .......

CloudStuff

4,254 posts

134 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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donkmeister said:
See if the ex has remarried - if so then you're golden.
You've reached around with a couple of assumptions there - cuckolding and special showers.

NortonES2

663 posts

78 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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Ask her, they know everything.

donkmeister

12,918 posts

130 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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longblackcoat said:
donkmeister said:
See if the ex has remarried - if so then you're golden.
Well, unless she's a bigamist .......
That's just given me an excellent idea for a sitcom with two bigamists, married to each other, sharing a cell.

Isn't there a period of X years where the marriage is deemed no more if you haven't had any contact? It will shock you to learn I'm not a divorce lawyer.

anonymous-user

84 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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donkmeister said:
See if the ex has remarried - if so then you're golden.
Why she’d do that is the bigger mystery.

Pitre

6,366 posts

264 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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Win the lottery

edthefed

827 posts

97 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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Ask her sister out ?

Canon_Fodder

1,775 posts

93 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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clockworks said:
I may possibly be considering getting married again....
'may' ... 'possibly' ... 'considering'... Hardly sounds like you've been struck by Cupid's arrow. Is it for tax reasons?

Boosted LS1

21,200 posts

290 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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Let her know you've won a million.

loskie

7,105 posts

150 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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well done OP I saw the title of this thread and just had to click to see WTF it was all about. I've not been disappointed. Please keep us all informed.

NMNeil

5,860 posts

80 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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If you hear constant nagging; you're still married. biggrin
But to make sure:
https://www.nationalarchives.gov.uk/help-with-your...

Collectingbrass

2,974 posts

225 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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donkmeister said:
longblackcoat said:
donkmeister said:
See if the ex has remarried - if so then you're golden.
Well, unless she's a bigamist .......
That's just given me an excellent idea for a sitcom with two bigamists, married to each other, sharing a cell.

Isn't there a period of X years where the marriage is deemed no more if you haven't had any contact? It will shock you to learn I'm not a divorce lawyer.
No contact for 5 years is one of the grounds for divorce, but you still need to do the court docs.

@OP you are Dale Vince and I claim my five pounds https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-gloucestersh...

fuzzymonkey

473 posts

255 months

Tuesday 12th April 2022
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Put all the cushions in your house in cuboard. If they all reappear or you suddlenly get a bunch of new ones, then you're still married.