Question for the Gentlemen members.....
Discussion
... though I am of course fully aware that the Ladies will read this and instantly judge me!
I am in a quandry with a young lady and I need some advice. I met her in a noted club in Portsmouth (Tiger, Tiger for those in the know!) and got her number and a pull, so all good there. Met up with her tuesday and let's just say, thing heated up (alright she wasn't the type of "lady" that my mother would approve of but there you go!). Anyway, now she wants a relationship and I, obviously, don't. So guys I need some way out, without resorting to " I just wanted to get my end away, you meant nothing to me" or " It's not me, it's you...", because I don't really feel like upsetting her, unless really necessary.
I know I sound like an absolute w
r and I am fully aware of that, but any help would be gratefully received!!
I am in a quandry with a young lady and I need some advice. I met her in a noted club in Portsmouth (Tiger, Tiger for those in the know!) and got her number and a pull, so all good there. Met up with her tuesday and let's just say, thing heated up (alright she wasn't the type of "lady" that my mother would approve of but there you go!). Anyway, now she wants a relationship and I, obviously, don't. So guys I need some way out, without resorting to " I just wanted to get my end away, you meant nothing to me" or " It's not me, it's you...", because I don't really feel like upsetting her, unless really necessary.
I know I sound like an absolute w
r and I am fully aware of that, but any help would be gratefully received!!Plotloss said:
Just say you're not up for a relationship but a
Nooooooooooooooooo, to a lot of girls/women that just means, yeah I'll see you from time to time, until you convince me to have a relationship. A
buddy arrangement has to start out that way..erm.. I'm told. 
For now, just say No I can't meet you on Fiday night, sorry but I'm not interested in taking this any further, you're a nice girl/woman but this isn't right for me at the moment. Thanks for the goodtimes, it was a blast. That's it, end of. None of this we'll still be mates and all that crap that means nothing. Just do the right thing and be nice about it in the process.
OK well, I have sent her a text asking to meet up tonight for a drink. I think, judging by the general reponses, I will go for the truth and see how it pans out. It should be fine if I do it somewhere public!! Less chance of a scene!! Though, I do rather like Plotloss's idea.... buddies. Hmmm... 
Vixpy, she could do with some comforting later... maybe you could swoop on your winged horse!!
buddies. Hmmm... Vixpy, she could do with some comforting later... maybe you could swoop on your winged horse!!
chim_girl said:
hanks for the goodtimes, it was a blast.
Any woman will translate that as:
I really enjoyed nailing you to the bed, I had a great time, i don't really care what kind of time had because I'm a heartless man who only screwed you for a laugh. I don't care about your feelings cos you're worthless, and i used you, and you were crap.. now piss off cos i have no more use for you...
Cue the waterworks!
vixpy1 said:
hanks for the goodtimes, it was a blast.
Any woman will translate that as:
I really enjoyed nailing you to the bed, I had a great time, i don't really care what kind of time had because I'm a heartless man who only screwed you for a laugh. I don't care about your feelings cos you're worthless, and i used you, and you were crap.. now piss off cos i have no more use for you...
Cue the waterworks!
Maybe I should just say that to her!! Save her having to think too much!
Advice from a PH lady 
Nothing wrong with what you did, my only advice would be to not mislead her. Be honest that you don't want a relationship but you're happy to have the odd "liaison" if she so chooses. Give her the option. We have absolutely no problem with you boys not wanting a relationship but we don't like it when you're not honest with us about it just so you can get a shag.
Hope this helps!
Nothing wrong with what you did, my only advice would be to not mislead her. Be honest that you don't want a relationship but you're happy to have the odd "liaison" if she so chooses. Give her the option. We have absolutely no problem with you boys not wanting a relationship but we don't like it when you're not honest with us about it just so you can get a shag.
Hope this helps!
birdbrain said:
Advice from a PH lady
Nothing wrong with what you did, my only advice would be to not mislead her. Be honest that you don't want a relationship but you're happy to have the odd "liaison" if she so chooses. Give her the option. We have absolutely no problem with you boys not wanting a relationship but we don't like it when you're not honest with us about it just so you can get a shag.
Hope this helps!
Exactly the route I was going down, albeit badly and abruptly...
i would phone her.
she's gonna get all excited about meeting you and get all dressed up and for what?i think there's more likely to be a scene with the scenario your planning rather than a phone call or going round to see her.
i don't think its the best way forward.....unless you really are looking for a f...buddy?
she's gonna get all excited about meeting you and get all dressed up and for what?i think there's more likely to be a scene with the scenario your planning rather than a phone call or going round to see her.
i don't think its the best way forward.....unless you really are looking for a f...buddy?
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