Drunk mate at door.
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groucho

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12,134 posts

269 months

Tuesday 8th February 2005
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Just had one of my mates appear inside my house while I was in the bath, and mrs Grouch has let him in. To say that he is drunk is an understatement. I know he's my mate, but that's what the pub's for.
I've just got in from work, not had my dinner yet, all that's ruined now.
He and his wife constantly fight and bicker, the only reason I can think that he came round my house is that he realises I've got a spare room that just come available.
This is a very frightening scenario, I don't want to fall out with him, but I won't be able to resist it as I feel my space has been seriously compromised.

If any of you knew him, you would understand.
BLOODY, BLOODY, BLOODY HELL

Grouch.



>>> Edited by groucho on Wednesday 9th February 07:40

2 Smokin Barrels

31,781 posts

258 months

Tuesday 8th February 2005
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Just tell him to feck off. If he's a mate he'll understand. (Give him a lager for the journey )

groucho

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12,134 posts

269 months

Tuesday 8th February 2005
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Too late for that I'm afraid, he has fallen into a coma. Now I've got the task of throwing him out in the morning, and I know he'll have his eyes on my spare room.

Grouch.

towman

14,938 posts

262 months

Tuesday 8th February 2005
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My best mate did that to me once - moaning about his missus, his kids, his job etc etc etc.

Sent him away firmly but pleasantly.

They found his body the next morning (exhaust/hosepipe).

If only......................



Sorry to be on a downer, but the title bought back memories I wish I didn`t have.

Steve

paolow

3,261 posts

281 months

Tuesday 8th February 2005
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just drag him out and dump him on the doorstep. if hes that shitfaced he wont remember even coming into your house so will assume he got that far and then crashed out.
hell probably then either wake up in the night/early morning and sheepishly make his way home congratulating himself that he didnt actually meet you and make an arse of himself.

hmmm - edited to add that towman may have a point and that at least you know he wont do anything silly if hes akip on your sofa.

>> Edited by paolow on Tuesday 8th February 18:45

puggit

49,441 posts

271 months

Tuesday 8th February 2005
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Don't let him move from the sofa! Under no circumstances mention the spare room if you don't want this going further.

He'll have sobered up enough later on in the evening to remove him with a few stern words, if you so choose.

cotty

41,898 posts

307 months

Tuesday 8th February 2005
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paolow said:

hmmm - edited to add that towman may have a point and that at least you know he wont do anything silly if hes akip on your sofa.


Just leave him a bucket

groucho

Original Poster:

12,134 posts

269 months

Tuesday 8th February 2005
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I going to have to hide all the alcohol in the house. It will be the first thing he'll look for when he wakes up.

Grouch.

rico

7,917 posts

278 months

Tuesday 8th February 2005
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I know how you feel. I HATE mates trying to take advantage of me. Girlfriends go "buy me a drink"... im tempted to tell them to "feck off" as they know i'll buy them one!

My flatmate's currently taking the p*ss on bills at the moment... Just because i work and have an income to be able to easily pay the bills does NOT mean he can get a free ride. Whereas he hasn't got a job, lives off student loans and bursaries... Luckily he's gone out for the night so i haven't committed ABH yet...



titiany

2,122 posts

255 months

Tuesday 8th February 2005
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Groucho - I've learnt recently how important mates are. He may be a complete pain in the backside, comatosed mess, but I guess he's like it for a reason. He's also obviously landed on your doorstep for a reason too.

Leave him where he is, talk to him in the morning and ensure that he does something about his problems so that the situation isn't repeated. You may resent him now, but I'm guessing he will be grateful to you in the morning.

Mates stick through bad times as well as good, and nobody is perfect. Stick with him if you consider him as your friend, and tell him another time that he has been complete oaf.

towman

14,938 posts

262 months

Tuesday 8th February 2005
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titiany said:
Groucho - I've learnt recently how important mates are. He may be a complete pain in the backside, comatosed mess, but I guess he's like it for a reason. He's also obviously landed on your doorstep for a reason too.

Leave him where he is, talk to him in the morning and ensure that he does something about his problems so that the situation isn't repeated. You may resent him now, but I'm guessing he will be grateful to you in the morning.

Mates stick through bad times as well as good, and nobody is perfect. Stick with him if you consider him as your friend, and tell him another time that he has been complete oaf.


Well said

crankedup

25,764 posts

266 months

Tuesday 8th February 2005
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Poor sod just wants a shoulder to be sick on

srebbe64

13,021 posts

260 months

Tuesday 8th February 2005
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Your house is your house - he 's got no right to turn up drunk and expect you to put him up - chuck him out and tell him to come back when he's sober!

Plotloss

67,280 posts

293 months

Tuesday 8th February 2005
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He's a mate.

Thats family as far as I am concerned.

Give him more booze, put him to bed he will remember very little.

Quiet word in his shell like in the morning and bobs yer aunties live in lover.

Nevin

2,999 posts

284 months

Tuesday 8th February 2005
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rico said:
I know how you feel. I HATE mates trying to take advantage of me. Girlfriends go "buy me a drink"... im tempted to tell them to "feck off" as they know i'll buy them one!

My flatmate's currently taking the p*ss on bills at the moment... Just because i work and have an income to be able to easily pay the bills does NOT mean he can get a free ride. Whereas he hasn't got a job, lives off student loans and bursaries... Luckily he's gone out for the night so i haven't committed ABH yet...





Don't let him get away with it. My old flatmate tried to do this to me all the time and I would never live with him again. He felt I should absorb costs as I was earning more than him. He was still on £50k mind you. Tight git

wedge girl

4,688 posts

262 months

Tuesday 8th February 2005
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If you were walking in his shoes,what would you do, would you want your friends to turn you away?

Just make it clear in the morning that whilst you were happy to help him out last night, you have a family to consider, and he can't make a habit of it.

DanH

12,287 posts

283 months

Tuesday 8th February 2005
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titiany said:
Groucho - I've learnt recently how important mates are. He may be a complete pain in the backside, comatosed mess, but I guess he's like it for a reason. He's also obviously landed on your doorstep for a reason too.

Leave him where he is, talk to him in the morning and ensure that he does something about his problems so that the situation isn't repeated. You may resent him now, but I'm guessing he will be grateful to you in the morning.

Mates stick through bad times as well as good, and nobody is perfect. Stick with him if you consider him as your friend, and tell him another time that he has been complete oaf.



Actually one thing I've learnt is that not all mates are worth the time and trouble. Some people just make their lives shit and if you are involved will do the same to you.

Probably sounds really callous, but their are plenty of people who take way more than they give.

p.s. not suggesting Groucho kick this guy out etc. Its just a general observation.

>> Edited by DanH on Tuesday 8th February 19:37

groucho

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12,134 posts

269 months

Tuesday 8th February 2005
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I,m not going to turn him away, not tonight anyway. Srebbe64's right though, I wouldn't do it, and I get in some right states.
I think he's having real mental problems, I've known him for many years. It's the last 3 years that he has changed considerably, he upsets everybody he comes in to contact with. I imagine he's turned up here because we're the most easy going people he knows, and nobody else would put up with him. I think he will end up divorced very shortly.
I don't want to sound horrible but I not very good at dealing with drunks, as it brings back memories of myself when I had a bad drink problem, it's mrs Grouch that has the listening ear.

Grouch.

>> Edited by groucho on Wednesday 9th February 07:41

sadako

7,080 posts

261 months

Tuesday 8th February 2005
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Give him a sofa and a bucket for the night. When he comes round in the morning talk to him, sounds like he needs it more than beer.