SERIOUS dilemma
Discussion
Ok a girl of 8, I know of and have seen has been involved with social services for scratches all over her body, (reproted by school. They (family) say this is due to "fights with her brother", i believe otherwise. In the house is a man 21 same age as me who is staying with them, this apprent scratching has just recently started. During a normal conversation, the guy starts talking about how he "licked" her(he let that slip), he seemed rather giddy at the time as he wanted to make new friends in the country, and was VERY talkative. However now I think he knows that I know something is up, he seems ALOT more defensive now, and even seems more threatening, I think I'll cross the bastard and see if he cracks.
If you are sure, try social services. If not, keep clear - you may create a whole lot of trouble for the poor kid.
Failing that, get a couple of mates to go with you and scare the crap out of him. Obviously, do not touch him, just make him very aware that you know what is going on and that the consequences of more scratches will be dire.
Failing that, get a couple of mates to go with you and scare the crap out of him. Obviously, do not touch him, just make him very aware that you know what is going on and that the consequences of more scratches will be dire.
I think the girls welfare should be paramount. If he has stated that he has committed such acts then it is an extremely serious offence, which most probably will affect the girls life permanently.
The social services should deal with it correctly, and if any suspicion of these offences are suspected then they will be speaking to the police who will inform their child protection department.
If you speak to the male with baseball bat in hand he is unlikely to come clean, and may implicate you as an offender. This he may try to do to take the heat from him.
My advice - if you have any suspicion, which you have then speak to the police, who may already be liaising with the social services in relation to the matter. This maybe going on on a daily basis to the girl, and obviously as you have stated needs to stop.
The social services should deal with it correctly, and if any suspicion of these offences are suspected then they will be speaking to the police who will inform their child protection department.
If you speak to the male with baseball bat in hand he is unlikely to come clean, and may implicate you as an offender. This he may try to do to take the heat from him.
My advice - if you have any suspicion, which you have then speak to the police, who may already be liaising with the social services in relation to the matter. This maybe going on on a daily basis to the girl, and obviously as you have stated needs to stop.
Well thanks, the problem is I don't think the Social Services have even thought about him yet. The girl seems unusually shy and retentive, she just isn't "RIGHT" as you would expect a 8 year old girl. She seems to love her "LITTLE" brother very much and he even seems to look up to her, A little boy of 5 contributing to all those scratches.
Beaconbouy said:
Well thanks, the problem is I don't think the Social Services have even thought about him yet. The girl seems unusually shy and retentive, she just isn't "RIGHT" as you would expect a 8 year old girl. She seems to love her "LITTLE" brother very much and he even seems to look up to her, A little boy of 5 contributing to all those scratches.
I'm a social worker and before the inevitable burn-out worked in front line child protection.
You MUST contact the duty team of your local soc servs as soon as possible.
Tell them all you know and let them do the investigative work. They may have already had a referral from school, health visitor etc so your information could add weight to that.
The scratches could be a non accidental injury or even the girl self harming due to emotional upset.
With regards to the guy, if things are substantiated he will be removed from the home, indeed he may already be known to the local police sex offenders unit, these people tend to drift from victim to victim.
Good luck.
The girls well being and safety is a priority and obviously must be reported asap.
You want to see my 4yr old fight with his older brother. Little darling doesn't hold back an inch and regulary elder brother has to beat a hasty tactical retreat (he's 13).
Beaconbouy said:
A little boy of 5 contributing to all those scratches.
You want to see my 4yr old fight with his older brother. Little darling doesn't hold back an inch and regulary elder brother has to beat a hasty tactical retreat (he's 13).
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