Raising kids - who's right, me or the wife?
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So here's the dilemma: Every now and then one of the kids is a victim of a minor injustice at school. For example, a group of kids get a detention (or whatever) because of the actions of just one or two. My attitude, when my kid complains of this injustice tends to be something like; 'life is full of injustice, so you'd better get used to it!' My missus is often keen to have a quiet word with the teacher - it's a private school and such communication is encouraged.
I'm of the opinion that such 'unjust' circumstances form a healthy part of growing. One day in the future they'll be passed over for promotion and they'll need to deal with this. My missus, on the other hand, would say 'fight to change the injustice'. It's a conundrum.
I'm of the opinion that such 'unjust' circumstances form a healthy part of growing. One day in the future they'll be passed over for promotion and they'll need to deal with this. My missus, on the other hand, would say 'fight to change the injustice'. It's a conundrum.
I'm with you on this one. Sh1t happens and learning to live with it without feeling perecuted or hard done by is a valuable lesson. Especially for kids at private school who are sometimes removed from the hard knocks of life due to their priveledged background ( I went to private school myself, but not from a well off background )
Is detention really such a hardship anyway ?. At my school you were allowed to do your homework, so I just used to do the subject the teacher looking after the detention taught. That way I could get heshe to explain anything I did not understand
>> Edited by ledger on Tuesday 28th June 16:53
Is detention really such a hardship anyway ?. At my school you were allowed to do your homework, so I just used to do the subject the teacher looking after the detention taught. That way I could get heshe to explain anything I did not understand
>> Edited by ledger on Tuesday 28th June 16:53
BliarOut said:
Don't argue with your wife, even though you are right.... You know how you get a crick in your neck when you sleep on the sofa
When there is the possibility of sex (and lets face it, for most married PH'ers, this is one day a year) a wife is never wrong, always right.
When there is no possibility of sex (the other 364 days a year, or 365 on a leap year, does this mean two days of sex?) a wife can be wrong, and she can do nothing to you..
I think.
vixpy1 said:
BliarOut said:
Don't argue with your wife, even though you are right.... You know how you get a crick in your neck when you sleep on the sofa
When there is the possibility of sex (and lets face it, for most married PH'ers, this is one day a year) a wife is never wrong, always right.
When there is no possibility of sex (the other 364 days a year, or 365 on a leap year, does this mean two days of sex?) a wife can be wrong, and she can do nothing to you..
I think.
For the benefit of the jury, are you married Mr Vixpy?
>> Edited by BliarOut on Tuesday 28th June 17:07
Small incidents of "seemingly" unjust circumstances definitely form part of a healthy development - otherwise all you're left with is a bunch of whiners who want everything their own way and get in a rage when that doesn't happen.
It's certainly good for children to question circumstances in which they find themselves but to constantly raise objections to minor punishments will piss the school off and make them think all parents are complete nanny-goats who bleat "it's not MY child's fault" at every opportunity.
But what do I know, I'm neither a parent, nor a teacher, nor any sort of angel when it came to behaving myself at school!
It's certainly good for children to question circumstances in which they find themselves but to constantly raise objections to minor punishments will piss the school off and make them think all parents are complete nanny-goats who bleat "it's not MY child's fault" at every opportunity.
But what do I know, I'm neither a parent, nor a teacher, nor any sort of angel when it came to behaving myself at school!
vixpy1 said:
BliarOut said:
are you married Mr Vixpy?
What have you been taking? Can i have some?
We all know you're not, but it wouldn't have had the same comedy potential
Actually, you have been a little quiet on PH of late, and I did hear a rumour of a new sweetheart
>> Edited by BliarOut on Tuesday 28th June 17:08
I think that you are both right. If it is something small that results in a class detention or extra prep then it is good to learn that life’s not fair sometimes.
On the other hand there are times when a major injustice is done and it has to be attended to.
I have always said to ex’s kids that they should accept the small things as part of life but fight the big ones. If they are in the right we will always back them up, woe betide them if they are telling pokies though…
On the other hand there are times when a major injustice is done and it has to be attended to.
I have always said to ex’s kids that they should accept the small things as part of life but fight the big ones. If they are in the right we will always back them up, woe betide them if they are telling pokies though…
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