Does your partner belittle your driving skills?
Does your partner belittle your driving skills?
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jessica

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6,321 posts

281 months

Thursday 21st July 2005
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when ever I mention car related stuff,my hubby always sneers.
because of course he is much better at everything than me.............

including driving :furious:

wedg1e

27,038 posts

294 months

Thursday 21st July 2005
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No, just my willy

Mrs Trackside

9,299 posts

262 months

Thursday 21st July 2005
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No. Trackside is a bad passenger in ANYBODYs car. If he wants to belittle my driving, he can always walk.

tinman0

18,231 posts

269 months

Thursday 21st July 2005
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my other half is superb, couldn't ask for a better passenger.

However, she was pretty cross with me in Switzerland in June. whilst she was in my car with me throwing it round some fantastic roads - she was perfectly ok. however, when my friend in the car behind swapped passengers, she got to see me throwing the car from outside the car i got a silent lecture that evening.

I think her conversation with the other driver whilst following me was "I cant see any dust on the road - hold on thats not dust - its TYRE SMOKE!".

clubsport

7,411 posts

287 months

Thursday 21st July 2005
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Once you are getting along Ok take them out for a spin,,,get it slightly sideways at 3 figure speeds and see if they scream.... If the young lady is fine with that, you have a good basis to build a relationship.

Obviously this is stage 2, because if she has already mentioned the Recaro race seat is a little tight you know you will probably never see her again anyway...Harsh but fair

wedge girl

4,688 posts

268 months

Thursday 21st July 2005
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No never, French TVR was very complimentary when I took him around Brands.

I often drive and he is an excellent passenger.

scared but happy

24,147 posts

258 months

Thursday 21st July 2005
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Yes! She sure does. Even had the cheek to turn on the left indicator for me. I suggested that she could drive but NOoo
Anyhow yesterday after ripping a muscle in my neck up and a short trip to the doctors she drives me and its bloody bad! Braking so sharp I nearly headbut the windscreen and we must have missed a parked car by a fag papers width

Its a bad as Mrs Bucket sometimes "Minding the horse in the field"

simpo two

92,718 posts

294 months

Thursday 21st July 2005
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I've learned to keep my mouth shut in the company of women drivers.

Well there's no point in trying to make them any better is it?! It's genetic, right?

Oopsy, there's my plane...

julianhj

8,868 posts

291 months

Thursday 21st July 2005
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No worries here, Mrs HJ oooh, first time I've referred to her like that is a very good passenger, and is quite happy to have me doing all the driving.

DanBoy

4,899 posts

272 months

Thursday 21st July 2005
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When I had a partner, she was an excellent passenger...

Until she found out how fast we were going, at which point she would tell me we were both about to die.

It used to be so much fun going, "Ninety... A hundred... A hundred and ten..."

wedge girl

4,688 posts

268 months

Thursday 21st July 2005
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simpo two said:

Well there's no point in trying to make them any better is it?! It's genetic, right?



I was taught to drive by a man, are you saying he didn't bother teaching me properly, or didn't know how to

cosmoschick

7,977 posts

278 months

Thursday 21st July 2005
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jessica said:

because of course he is much better at everything than me.............

including driving


You'd best hand him the iron and let him get on with it then!

And in answer to your question: No! In fact, quite the opposite. He doesn't have any issues with my style of driving. And vice versa.

Don

28,378 posts

313 months

Thursday 21st July 2005
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jessica said:
when ever I mention car related stuff,my hubby always sneers.
because of course he is much better at everything than me.............

including driving


This is sod all to do with driving and you know it.

Sort this out now. Or shut the up.

I don't mean to be rude. I've not posted on your threads before now to do with this. But I'd be being dishonest if didn't say I hadn't noticed a pattern.

Deal with this now.

And stop with the "I want a divorce/some attention" bollox. Its not helping you and it's not helping anyone else.





P.S. I'm sure your driving is perfectly OK. If it isn't then go get an Advanced Driving qualification. You can then say: "Rospa agrees I'm the best...so shut the up or pass it yourself..."

danhay

7,556 posts

285 months

Thursday 21st July 2005
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He only does it because of the novelty value of getting away with it.

In truth he probably thinks your driving skills are at least the equal of his.

planetdave

9,922 posts

282 months

Thursday 21st July 2005
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Not seen you have it sideways - waving, like the queen, out of the window yet.

Errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Balmoral Green

42,561 posts

277 months

Thursday 21st July 2005
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Don said:

jessica said:
when ever I mention car related stuff,my hubby always sneers.
because of course he is much better at everything than me.............

including driving



This is sod all to do with driving and you know it.

Sort this out now. Or shut the up.

I don't mean to be rude. I've not posted on your threads before now to do with this. But I'd be being dishonest if didn't say I hadn't noticed a pattern.

Deal with this now.

And stop with the "I want a divorce/some attention" bollox. Its not helping you and it's not helping anyone else.





P.S. I'm sure your driving is perfectly OK. If it isn't then go get an Advanced Driving qualification. You can then say: "Rospa agrees I'm the best...so shut the up or pass it yourself..."




I say old chap, that was a little bit strong dont you think?

Don

28,378 posts

313 months

Thursday 21st July 2005
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danhay said:
He only does it because of the novelty value of getting away with it.

In truth he probably thinks your driving skills are at least the equal of his.


Total cack. He thinks his driving skills are beyond reproach. Same as the rest of the planet.

Cack of course. But there you go. I doubt very much if Mr jessica thinks his skills are equal to hers. He thinks they're far better.

So DEMAND PROOF. Who gives a shit if YOU think you're good. What does someone else think who's QUALIFIED TO HAVE AN OPINION!

Go find out.

Don

28,378 posts

313 months

Thursday 21st July 2005
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Balmoral Green said:



I say old chap, that was a little bit strong dont you think?


Bored of it, mate.

Its not that I don't think jessica is nice. I'm certain she's absolutely lovely. And her beautiful kids and (all too likely) smashing husband too.

WildCat

8,369 posts

272 months

Thursday 21st July 2005
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jessica said:
when ever I mention car related stuff,my hubby always sneers.
because of course he is much better at everything than me.............

including driving



Ist now Aunty Wildy mode

jessica Liebchen - you need to be more assertive. I am sure you are much better at many things than your husband.

If Mad Doc dare make silly talk - ist simple... is to hot buttered crumper und the spare room und my claws

Ja - he ist better at ironing shirts than I am - but I am better at loading washing machine. We are equal match at chopping onions und stuff in kitchen ...

He ist better at making pastries - short crust und that flaky stuff und I am much better at pulverising bread dough as I pretend this ist Steviebabes und ist so-oh satisfying to puchit around - und I do make a decent stew und Lancashire hot pot as I am very good at stirring things up und he does acknowledged the extra spices in my curries ...

He ist better than I am at hanging wallpaper und curtains (I once tried to fit curtains in littlest room in house only we had not fit the toilet seat at time und I was silly young cat und stood on loo to reach und slipped und foot slid in the little bendy bit und I was stuck... for four hours - und all he could do when he found me was laugh ) But I am better at sewing the curtains in first place und painting.

So - there will be thing you do better than he does or equally well or not quite as well but fairly well - you need to recognise these und be more assured und confident.

ist my agony aunty mode ;-

As for driving skill - we are even match. Und we just enjoy the drive whoever ist driving.

Und I am sure you are both lovely drivers anyway - but as Don says - perhaps you should just discreetly take an IAM und solve one und for all.

>> Edited by WildCat on Thursday 21st July 23:02

vrooom

3,763 posts

296 months

Thursday 21st July 2005
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My other half dont complain, apart from "oh you ran tho the red light" "oh shit!", She cant drive. I do all driving.