How much would you give

[UKbob]

To a "not-your-closest-friend-but-still-a-friend" if you'd been invited to his wedding reception, and upon the reverse of the invitation were either gift giving or monetary donation options, and you chose to give money?

[tvrbob]

£50

I would actually give a gift though.

[minimax]

yeah I think £50 is fair enough but I would also give a gift instead, I always think a gift is more appopriate because it reflects a little of your own personality and also your interpretation of the recipients personality

[planetdave]

Stuff the money/gift list - give wine/champers

[rooster]

always a gift, money is a bit tacky.

[ZR1cliff]

rooster said:

always a gift, money is a bit tacky.

In some country i think they pin money to the bride?

I would give £30-£50,but even £30 is the equivilant of 2 toasters and a set of towels.

[Rob P]

minimax said:

yeah I think £50 is fair enough but I would also give a gift instead, I always think a gift is more appopriate because it reflects a little of your own personality and also your interpretation of the recipients personality

i.e buy something you also benefit from

[PatHeald]

rooster said:

always a gift, money is a bit tacky.

I agree.

A £50 gift voucher is just about acceptable.

[mybrainhurts]

Ask for an attendance fee.....

[TripleS]

mybrainhurts said:

Ask for an attendance fee.....

Did you used to be called Jimmy Tarbuck by any chance?

Best wishes all,
Dave.

[rooster]

ZR1cliff said:

In some country i think they pin money to the bride?

isn't that a bit painful for the bride?

[Lois]

I'm going to a wedding in september and the invitation came with a little poem basically asking for money instead of a gift!
Now this is a woman from work who's I've only known since October and I certainly don't have £50 to give! No idea what I'm gonna do!

[shirepro]

Lois,

why not just not go? If you hardly know her you could find a subsequent engagement. £50 buys a few trips to the cinema, nights out without having to be bored to death.



Overall I would buy a pressie, something decadent they probably wouldn't buy for themselves.

I have given vouchers in the past if requested, and gratefuly received specific ones too, but when we wed we asked them not to buy gifts or give money or vouchers if it could be helped (the older generataion tend to insist) as we didn't need it and would rather they spend money having a good time. We also felt a bit mean to invite people to celebrate and then, in effect ask them to pay for themselves when we had chosen the date, the venue and the cost. Bit like being invited to a birthday meal and then being expected to buy the birthday girl their meal too which once happened to me.

[Lois]

I'm not not going!! She's lovely and I was even invited on her hen doo (was a big weekend away but I couldn't afford it).

Guess I'll just have to go on a shopping trip!

[UKbob]

Im opting for the money, a) since I didnt buy a gift this afternoon, and b) the invitation said holiday money would be very gratefully received

[up-the-dubs]

Yea, it all depends on the people getting married. If they've lived together for a while they have all the white goods/candle holders they need. Asking for a bit of money gets them a free holiday that they might not have been able to afford (expensive wedding) and will enjoy just as much.

Just a thought.

[longwool]

I never give money and almost always try to avoid buying anything from a list. I prefer to be a little more imaginative and hopefully find something that will be treasured and remind them of the friend that gave it. I have a dislike of lists, I find it rather demonstrates a lack of taste. I certainly would not give money that would go into the honeymoon holiday sinking fund.

[silversun]

ZR1cliff said:

In some country i think they pin money to the bride?

They do this in Greece, but probably in other countries as well.

I wouldn't like to give money because then it's immediately obvious how much you've stumped up, whereas with a gift they would have to do a bit of research to find out. Unless you're my friend who got a John Lewis internet wedding list then logged on every so often to see how much people had spent!

[Lois]

Just found the poem!

Louise and Chris are getting Wed,
Let's hope the day is sunny.
What shall we get them for a gift?
Perhaps a bit of money.

[monkeyhanger]

Gift voucher.

A bit less "tacky" than straight cash.

I think wedding gifts are a personal thing and the recipients should be grateful for whatever they get.

>> Edited by monkeyhanger on Saturday 30th July 17:23