What would you do if your loved one bought you something....
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that you absolutely hated?
For instance, supposing your loved one digged deep and bought you a registration number that seemed to spell your name in some way that you thought was totally naff?
The essence of the situation would be that you couldn't put it in a drawer and forget about it, like a jumper or a tie, but had to put it on your car where it would be seen every day?
It needn't be a registration, BTW, but something that you couldn't hide away
The problem would be that if you said that you didn't like it, they might realise that it wasn't only their gift that you didn't like, but their taste?
For instance, supposing your loved one digged deep and bought you a registration number that seemed to spell your name in some way that you thought was totally naff?
The essence of the situation would be that you couldn't put it in a drawer and forget about it, like a jumper or a tie, but had to put it on your car where it would be seen every day?
It needn't be a registration, BTW, but something that you couldn't hide away
The problem would be that if you said that you didn't like it, they might realise that it wasn't only their gift that you didn't like, but their taste?
For my 25th birthday my then girlfriend bought me a gold sovereign ring and a voucher for a tattoo parlour.
She couldn't have got it more wrong. There was no way I was ever going to wear the ring and there was no way I was going to have a £100 tattoo, so accepting the gifts was simply not an option.
This became the catalyst for a split. She thought I was staid and dull - she spent her life trying to turn me into something I wasn't. She didn't want a boyfriend in a suit, she wanted one in cowboy boots, with ear-rings and tattoos. I suddenly realised that she fundamentally didn't know or understand me. It didn't matter how attractive she was, in that moment she proved, beyond any doubt, that we had no basis for a relationship.
If your loved one bought you a present that you weren't keen on, I think that would be an understandable faux pas. To buy you something you actively hate suggests they either don't know you very well or don't respect your judgement.
She couldn't have got it more wrong. There was no way I was ever going to wear the ring and there was no way I was going to have a £100 tattoo, so accepting the gifts was simply not an option.
This became the catalyst for a split. She thought I was staid and dull - she spent her life trying to turn me into something I wasn't. She didn't want a boyfriend in a suit, she wanted one in cowboy boots, with ear-rings and tattoos. I suddenly realised that she fundamentally didn't know or understand me. It didn't matter how attractive she was, in that moment she proved, beyond any doubt, that we had no basis for a relationship.
If your loved one bought you a present that you weren't keen on, I think that would be an understandable faux pas. To buy you something you actively hate suggests they either don't know you very well or don't respect your judgement.
What is the reg number ? i.e. would it only be naff if you started trying to spell things with it with funny placed screws etc ? In other words, if you put it on the car with normal, legal spacing, would it look okay ? (I guess it's not the kind of thing you can return to the "shop" in this case, so you're kind of stuck with it anyway ?)
Tell him/her fast and get it sorted (the relationship). If not the bad presents keep arriving you partner spends a fortune and you get progressively unhappier as every where you look is an expensive present you don't like.
My wife has got the message to have me with her when she buys a present otherwise it usually goes back.
This probably makes me sound like an ogre, but it was the presents that were the problem, a gold chain too short for my neck, ring too small for my finger, camera wrong make/model. All of which then ment I had to spend nearly the same again to get it sorted.
My wife has got the message to have me with her when she buys a present otherwise it usually goes back.
This probably makes me sound like an ogre, but it was the presents that were the problem, a gold chain too short for my neck, ring too small for my finger, camera wrong make/model. All of which then ment I had to spend nearly the same again to get it sorted.
I think honesty is good in these situations. An understanding woman is a good one.
But - you need to be quick. Its no good fannying around looking at it, admiring it. If it is'nt good, break the news quickly.
My missus bought me a Rolex a couple of years ago. I didn't like it, it wasn't one that I'd pick. I told her straight away and explained that if she's spending that kind of money, I might aswell have one that I really liked.
It was swapped and I love the Rolex that I wear now, that I chose and she bought.
But - you need to be quick. Its no good fannying around looking at it, admiring it. If it is'nt good, break the news quickly.
My missus bought me a Rolex a couple of years ago. I didn't like it, it wasn't one that I'd pick. I told her straight away and explained that if she's spending that kind of money, I might aswell have one that I really liked.
It was swapped and I love the Rolex that I wear now, that I chose and she bought.
singlecoil said:
It needn't be a registration, BTW, but something that you couldn't hide away
If you really can't hide it away, while I agree that honesty isn't always the best policy, I think its the only way to go in this case...along with industrial strength diplomacy. If you're not honest and have to look at the thing everyday, that will have a worse effect than maybe a temporary huff from her that you didn't like it. How bad is it anyway? Not like she bought you the WHOCT is it? Is it?
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