Meeting the parents
Discussion
I am engaged to a wonderful woman. The only catch is that she Chinese which means that at some point I’m going to have to got over to china to meet her parents.
I’m terrified as I can’t speak any mandarin (I’m learning but I’m already studying a very challenging degree and I don’t have any gift for languages)
Her parents weren’t very happy when they heard the news. Mainly because if anything goes wrong she’s a long way form home. Which is understandable. But I feel that when I go over to china there just going to be a lot of aquward smiles. And I’ll will be close to 40 degrees C so being used to Glasgow and Aberdeen summers I’ll probably just curl up and die.
Has anyone been it a similar situation or have any good meeting the parent’s stories?
I’m terrified as I can’t speak any mandarin (I’m learning but I’m already studying a very challenging degree and I don’t have any gift for languages)
Her parents weren’t very happy when they heard the news. Mainly because if anything goes wrong she’s a long way form home. Which is understandable. But I feel that when I go over to china there just going to be a lot of aquward smiles. And I’ll will be close to 40 degrees C so being used to Glasgow and Aberdeen summers I’ll probably just curl up and die.
Has anyone been it a similar situation or have any good meeting the parent’s stories?
Jaglover said:
when her mother asks what you want for dinner..
114, 65 and 15 are the wrong answers!
I think instead you should think how lucky you are!!. I don't speak any Russian and my Mother in law doesn't speak any English, and so we get on great.
Ah!....Isn't Argos wonderful
I had meet my Polish ex girlfriend's mother in Poland, I could only say thanks, say hi and bye, ask for beer and say 'I love you', which was all a bit useless. She got Kasia (my ex) to help her write a little speech. After that, and very sweet it was too, we couldn't really speak to each other, but Kasia acted as a translator and you can communicate a lot without speaking. It will be cool.
>> Edited by moleamol on Friday 17th February 20:28
>> Edited by moleamol on Friday 17th February 20:28
vixpy1 said:
its flied lice you plick
seriously, though, you don't want to work yourself up about this. obviously there's a huge cultural difference, plus the distance involved means they'll worry, but i can't imagine this being any different to any other 'meet the parents' scenario. just play it cool and try not to end up in a greg focker situation while you're over there...
Mrs Scorp is a Filipina, i went to live in Manila for 11 months and got married there, luckily they all spoke good english and liking a drink at the time i got on with the locals fine. I get on very well with my in-laws, it's a bit of a bind my inlaws still live there because we have to go back and visit and also show them their new grand children, im not looking forward to taking a 2-3yr old on a 17 hour flight.
editted for bad typing.. again
>> Edited by scorp on Friday 17th February 20:34
editted for bad typing.. again
>> Edited by scorp on Friday 17th February 20:34
stu_the_flat said:
my father think it will be to much hassile have one side of the family fly accorss the world. so he wants to have the wedding half way.
yes that right my dad wants to have the wedding in afganistan
Do whatever makes you and your mrs the happiest. Good luck with your trip!
It's surprisingly easy to communicate and share "Moments" with people with whom you share no common language. body language conveys a lot, and eventually after talking at eachother for a while, with neither having a clue what the other is saying, you end up coming to some sort of point where you both know what is going on.
At least that is my experience (mostly in Russia, as I can get by okay in French Italian German and English).
At least that is my experience (mostly in Russia, as I can get by okay in French Italian German and English).
F.M said:
I`m sure there values are probably old fashioned so being polite and presentable should see you through........Watch how much you drink...no point in puking on there carpet when/if you overdo it........
Reminds me of the second time I went to my girlfriends parents house. Travelled to Bristol to see my girlfriend (uni holidays) - got absolutely trashed and proceeded to vomit potato wedges (
) and kebab on there neighbours lawn and then in the kitchen bin, followed by much of the same in the morning. I then had a 6 hour coach journey back up north... 
For the love of god stay away from alcohol while meeting them...
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