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The girlfriend and i were talking the other night about flirting. We are both out going friendly people and we're both confused about what flirting is.
We couldn't understand the difference between the sex's in terms of flirting.
Picture the scene. You are introduced to someone of the same sex by a mutual friend and get on well, have lots in common and "chat" about similar interests.
Now if you do the same with someone of the opposite sex you get accused of flirting, but your still "chatting" about the same stuff.
I understand there will be perhaps be lots of non verbal communication going on between the two opposite sex's (Body language etc) but what makes chatting "flirting"?
Phill
We couldn't understand the difference between the sex's in terms of flirting.
Picture the scene. You are introduced to someone of the same sex by a mutual friend and get on well, have lots in common and "chat" about similar interests.
Now if you do the same with someone of the opposite sex you get accused of flirting, but your still "chatting" about the same stuff.
I understand there will be perhaps be lots of non verbal communication going on between the two opposite sex's (Body language etc) but what makes chatting "flirting"?
Phill
wikipedia said:
Flirting may consist of stylized gestures, language, body language, postures, and physiologic signs, some of which are also part of foreplay. Among these, at least in Western society, are:
* Eye contact
* Casual touches
* Smiling suggestively
* "Protean" signals, such as touching one's hair
* Sending and receiving notes, poems, mixtapes, or written music
* Friendly teasing
* Winking
* Constant glances
If you were talking to a mate would usually wink, exchange constant glances, or touches. And sending notes is probably out of the question
>> Edited by UncleDave on Friday 17th February 22:49
bluespanner said:
you said it yourself: body language. also tone of voice.
I blame the Communication Studies A-Level I did at School. I now read a lot more into Non Verbal communication. I always make an attempt to make eye contact with whoever I am talking to. My sarcastic sense of humour also means I tease people a lot.
pmanson said:
you said it yourself: body language. also tone of voice.
My sarcastic sense of humour also means I tease people a lot.
me too. but you have to decide (rightly) if the girl responds well to a bit of teasing, and how far to push it. otherwise, the results can be disasterous.
bluespanner said:
you said it yourself: body language. also tone of voice.
My sarcastic sense of humour also means I tease people a lot.
me too. but you have to decide (rightly) if the girl responds well to a bit of teasing, and how far to push it. otherwise, the results can be disasterous.
Yeah i've had a few shocked faces before. Normally sarcastic to everyone, I get away with it (most of the time) as I have a smile on my face while i'm taking the p
s!
Just been to stay at my mates uni for the weekend, last night we went out with of of his mates who id not met before, 2 girls and a guy. I was flirting with this girl night, then today my mate casually pointed out that the bloke we were with was actually her boyfriend! 
oops - showed what chemistry those two had!
oops - showed what chemistry those two had! I think silly people looking for an argument with their partners may refer to any form of chatting as flirting, but in my book flirting is simply giving out signs that you fancy the other person. These signs can be very subtle, and some people actually do them all the time even if they don't fancy you - which is what makes the dating game so tricky!
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