Presents from (now) ex
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I have a dilemma regarding whta to do about presents from what has now become my ex.
It was my birthday last month and she bought me loads of nice stuff, there wasn't anything particularly valuable as such, just a number of nice little things which built up to quite a lot.
I can't see us getting back together so I'm not sure what to do about these things. I can't really give them back, but do I get her a gift of what I guess to be similar value now, or as it's her birthday in a month shall I wait and get her a present then?
It was my birthday last month and she bought me loads of nice stuff, there wasn't anything particularly valuable as such, just a number of nice little things which built up to quite a lot.
I can't see us getting back together so I'm not sure what to do about these things. I can't really give them back, but do I get her a gift of what I guess to be similar value now, or as it's her birthday in a month shall I wait and get her a present then?
Get her a present for her birthday. Life's too short etc, etc. Just cause you're no linger an item, doesn't mean you both can't be nice, kind individuals, and civil to each other. The ex-wife and I used to send each other cards and stuff for a while, until we met up with new partners... never did anyone any harm.
ps - And you never know
ps - And you never know
Don't do it! Tricky. Personally I would get her a nice, thoughtfull but not too expensive present for her birthday but nothing else. Relationships shouldn't be about money so I wouldn't say you owe her anything.
It's like buying rounds of drinks, sometimes you drink for free, sometimes you pay more than your share. All works out on the end.
It's like buying rounds of drinks, sometimes you drink for free, sometimes you pay more than your share. All works out on the end.
soxboy said:
I have a dilemma regarding whta to do about presents from what has now become my ex.
It was my birthday last month and she bought me loads of nice stuff, there wasn't anything particularly valuable as such, just a number of nice little things which built up to quite a lot.
I can't see us getting back together so I'm not sure what to do about these things. I can't really give them back, but do I get her a gift of what I guess to be similar value now, or as it's her birthday in a month shall I wait and get her a present then?
get her a present that's half decent and you could get your cock wet again if you're lucky
chilli said:
Get her a present for her birthday. Life's too short etc, etc. Just cause you're no linger an item, doesn't mean you both can't be nice, kind individuals, and civil to each other.
Thats always the problem with these sorts of questions, we never know the full details, there could be a number of reasons why the relationship failed and he would not wish to remain nice and civil to her. ie she slept with his dad/best mate/sister etc.
In this case it sounds like she wants to continue the relationship be it as a girlfreind or just as a freind.
minimax said:
get her a present that's half decent and you could get your cock wet again if you're lucky
Thats why I'm still friends with my ex (since August last year!!!)
Personally, I'd buy her something nice for her birthday that you know she'll love.
besides, you've got ages to decide you could be back together by then.
Paul
Cotty said:
Get her a present for her birthday. Life's too short etc, etc. Just cause you're no linger an item, doesn't mean you both can't be nice, kind individuals, and civil to each other.
Thats always the problem with these sorts of questions, we never know the full details, there could be a number of reasons why the relationship failed and he would not wish to remain nice and civil to her. ie she slept with his dad/best mate/sister etc.
In this case it sounds like she wants to continue the relationship be it as a girlfreind or just as a freind.
If it assists nobody did the nasty with anyone else. Introduced 6 months ago as friend of a friend, had a great time together, good xmas and new year. Went pear shaped end of January, couple of weeks after my birthday, when she confessed she'd been checking my texts and cross referencing stories with mate's other halves after boys nights out.
Have no wish to dip my wick again, even after beers, just feel that I ought to do something to say thanks for the trouble she's gone to with the birthday stuff.
mungo said:
she confessed she'd been checking my texts and cross referencing stories with mate's other halves after boys nights out.
Definitely wash your hands of her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I had a g/f that didn't trust me. It didn't matter how many times I told her I was faithful to her she didn't believe me... the longer we were together the worst she got... She was obsessed I fancied my friend Emilie just because she was a girl, she was obsessed that I was texting someone, she was obsessed that I must be seeing one of the nurses at the local A&E because my job see's me there a lot, she was obsessed that I was shagging someone at work. I always finish work late because it's the nature of my job and she thought that was because I was seeing someone.
Did I mention she tried to stop me going out on lads nights out towards the end of our relationship?
The truth is I was 100% faithful to her the entire year and a half we were together. It did my head in so I finished it.
Trust me - if you go back she will only get worse. Find someone else.
>> Edited by mungo on Wednesday 22 February 14:19
That is exactly what happened, even down to friends (and nurses!).
I have now moved on to pastures new.
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