Sad news re: Baby Groomi
Sad news re: Baby Groomi
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groomi

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9,330 posts

269 months

Tuesday 13th November 2007
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I don't really know why I'm posting this, I guess it's just to use you guys as some form of counselling.

My wife gave birth to our first child on Sunday evening after a straightforward pregnancy and labour. Oliver Morgan Groom weighed in at a mighty 9lbs 12oz and measured 57cm and was a truly beautiful baby. Tragically though, Oliver was not to be the bouncing bundle of joy we had wished for. He had suffered an oxygen shortage at some point during delivery leaving him with catastrophic brain damage, thus he was unable to breath for himself.

He was immediately whisked away to the Special Care Baby Unit where he was stabalised and monitored before being transeferred overnight to another hospital which has a Neonatal Intensive Care Unit. My wife and I followed him over and sat with him while he lay still. The staff were truly magnficent and I cannot thank them enough for there support.

Unfortunately there was to be no hopes of a happy outcome as the consultant explained to us the severity of his condition. On Monday evening, just 26 hours after his birth, Oliver was removed from the machines keeping him alive and died in our arms.

We are both truly distraught and just don't know how to come to termswith such a loss. We should be at home with a beautiful baby, instead we're at my inlaws with a huge empty void in our lives. We're in control of the events and are making the necessary arrangements. We're in control of our feelings, both for Oliver and for each other, but neither of us have been 'hit' by it all yet - we're just waiting for reality to kick in.

I'm not looking for messages of condolences (although I'm sure there will be many as you're such a great bunch), but I just needed another outlet which I don't have to face as I recount the events.

Life can be such a bitch.

Fer

7,767 posts

306 months

Tuesday 13th November 2007
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F**k, mate, I am so sorry to hear that. Words cannot begin to touch what you must be going through.

My thoughts are with you both, keep your chin up.

Killer2005

20,510 posts

254 months

Tuesday 13th November 2007
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cry

Sorry to hear that, best wishes to you and mrs.

xllifts

3,724 posts

229 months

Tuesday 13th November 2007
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sh1t mate
Words fail me right now................






All i can say is so sorry to hear of you great loss, if there's anything we can do just say!


trumpet600

3,527 posts

257 months

Tuesday 13th November 2007
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Really sorry to hear your sad news.


I feel for you and mrs groomi.

Gizmo535

18,150 posts

235 months

Tuesday 13th November 2007
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I have nothing to say that will be helpful. Just my sincerest condolences for a terrible, terrible loss. Count your blessings: you have, and will need, each other.

Vixpy1

42,697 posts

290 months

Tuesday 13th November 2007
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Thats awefull, My deepest sympathies to you both frown

minimoog

7,395 posts

245 months

Tuesday 13th November 2007
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Dear god I'm so sorry frown

Deltaf01

1,512 posts

223 months

Tuesday 13th November 2007
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Jesus man im very sorry to hear of that.
Please accept my deepest sympathies at this difficult and unpleasant time.

mondeoman

11,430 posts

292 months

Tuesday 13th November 2007
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Oh F@ck!!

Thats a total b7tch!

Words can't help you at the momnet, just the love and suupport of your friends and family

Biker's Nemesis

41,250 posts

234 months

Tuesday 13th November 2007
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I could only read half of that.

I'm so sorry for both of you's.

John.

WD*

4,045 posts

277 months

Tuesday 13th November 2007
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So, so sorry to hear about baby Oliver - my thoughts are with you and your family. frown

Mikey G

4,864 posts

266 months

Tuesday 13th November 2007
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And i thought i was going through a bad patch, really sorry to hear frown

Fallen Angel

2,317 posts

235 months

Tuesday 13th November 2007
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I am so so sorry... don't really know what to say... but you just take care and look after your wife - I reckon you both need each other right now...

angel

B15TT0

1,204 posts

268 months

Tuesday 13th November 2007
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Tragic news.

Feeling for you.

AlexKP

16,484 posts

270 months

Tuesday 13th November 2007
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I am so dreadfully sorry to hear of your loss. What happened is simply bad luck of the very worst kind.

This happened to one of my closest friends three years ago. They now have a perfect one year old boy.

Time does heal and perhaps they appreciate their son all the more for it.

I wish you both all the future happiness that will come to you I am sure, once the black clouds have eventually lifted.


GKP

15,099 posts

267 months

Tuesday 13th November 2007
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Wow. I'm stunned. Best wishes to you both. Sleep well little Oliver.

frown

Catz

4,852 posts

237 months

Tuesday 13th November 2007
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Oh no! How totally tragic!

No idea how you both must be feeling just now but try to be strong for each other. Very sad news indeed.

mrsxllifts

2,501 posts

225 months

Tuesday 13th November 2007
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Am totally lost for words. I know nothing that I say can make anything better. All I can offer is one of these from the xl household to the groomi household. I would sure as hell need one in your situation.






cyberface

12,214 posts

283 months

Tuesday 13th November 2007
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Really not much I can say other than that's awfully bad news, ever so sorry frown