The newly married couple who were shot and killed:

[neil_bolton]

I know this is a sensitive subject from some, certainly listening to R2 right now regarding the couple who were tragically shot and killed whilst taking their honeymoon in Antuiga.

I know that my thoughts when I heard the story were ashamedly that the husband would be better off dead that have to recover and then discover that the love of his life had been killed.

To hear today that he had been pronounced dead today left me feeling sad and, again, ashamedly, that he and his wife could be togther in whatever there is out there for us after death; at least, I like to think that is the case.

My question is, trying to make sense of my emotion, is whether or not others would feel the same?

I know that if I married my girlfriend, and to then have her taken away from me so tragically, that I'd shamelessly probably not want to have to deal with it: having my life taken from me also would be of cold comfort?

A tough choice to make?

I mean this with regard to couples without children - if I had a child, I'd not be at all thinking the above - I'd have something to live for...

[Simpo Two]

I'd rather be alive and single than married and dead.

[sleep envy]

Simpo Two said:

I'd rather be alive and single than married and dead.

don't most married men think that?

[Simpo Two]

sleep envy said:

Simpo Two said:

I'd rather be alive and single than married and dead.

don't most married men think that?

Dunno, I'm single!

[Mr Will]

I've clicked fight for my life, but that is under the assumption that it would be a life worth living.

If I had a bullet lodged in my brain and was going to spend the rest of my days as a vegetable then I think it would be a different matter.

All in all it is a horrible situation and my sympathies go out to all the family and friends of the deceased.

[Caruso]

I take it the OP has never been married?

[Neil_H]

I'd rather be dead I think, especially since you'd probably be brain damaged as well.

[Robatr0n]

I heard the sad news on the radio last night and I felt as though I would rather have died than wake up and find my loved one dead whilst probably having to live with horrific injuries.

Just my take on the matter..

[hornetrider]

Simpo Two said:

I'd rather be alive and single than married and dead.

I'd rather be single and dead than married and alive















;)

[littlegreenfairy]

Call me a sentimental girl, but that story makes me feel so empty inside. Utter waste of lives and especially for it to happen at such a special time of their life

[cronk-flakes]

I'd like to think I would persue on through life, even without my beloved at my side.

I try to live by 'No matter what'. But I guess that phrase could be seen in contrasting views here.

(i.e. 'No matter what' I'll live on through until I pass on for good. VS 'No matter what' my bride and I will be together.)

ETA: If she is reading this, 'I love you!'

Edited by cronk-flakes on Monday 4th August 13:24

[MentalSarcasm]

Robatr0n said:

I heard the sad news on the radio last night and I felt as though I would rather have died than wake up and find my loved one dead whilst probably having to live with horrific injuries.

Just my take on the matter..

Same here.

If there was a chance I could make a full recovery than I think I would want to live on, just to see the murderer put behind bars.

If I were to survive in a vegetative state then for the love of God pull the plug and let me go! Quality of life over quantity for me please.

[ludo]

Looking at it the other way round, if I was killed, I would rather see my wife survive and find happiness with someone else than for her to be dead as well; logical symmetry suggests that I would want to live on as well.

[blindswelledrat]

Robatr0n said:

I heard the sad news on the radio last night and I felt as though I would rather have died than wake up and find my loved one dead whilst probably having to live with horrific injuries.

Just my take on the matter..

Depends largely on whether you had the income for prostitutes.
If so, then you're laughing really.

[EmmaP]

sleep envy said:

Simpo Two said:

I'd rather be alive and single than married and dead.

don't most married men think that?

[ali_kat]

Robatr0n said:

I heard the sad news on the radio last night and I felt as though I would rather have died than wake up and find my loved one dead whilst probably having to live with horrific injuries.

Just my take on the matter..

Tis mine too in that situation.

[Asterix]

Sad episode this - my thoughts go out to their families.

In the state the poor fella was in, I'd probably go for pulling the plug - otherwise, fight for life and try and ensure justice is served.

[rude-boy]

Mr Will said:

I've clicked fight for my life, but that is under the assumption that it would be a life worth living.

If I had a bullet lodged in my brain and was going to spend the rest of my days as a vegetable then I think it would be a different matter.

All in all it is a horrible situation and my sympathies go out to all the family and friends of the deceased.

Same here which is why I clicked dead given the case in point. I have a living will which deals with such problems, all those closest to me who might have to make the decisions know my thoughts and I hope would act according to my wishes.

[jamesgrrr]

whoever would rather die than live without their partner, is there nothing else in your life worth living for?? Everyone (well most people) get over the death of their parents this isn't that much different, it may feel like it at the time but 5 years down the line...

[Chainguy]

I'd rather have the ending he had, just never waking up, than coming round to find out I'd just lost my new wife.

sg me off if you want, but hey, there it is.