doesn't time fly........
Discussion
Before I start, I am NOT looking for sympathy......
A year ago today, my Dad passed away, and for anyone who has lost one (or in my case, both) parent, the 1st anniversary is always a bugger. Before anyone asks, I'm not looking for a shoulder to cry on...
Mum died in 1996, but after I rweturned to work after Dad's funeral, I remember saying to one of the ladies at work without thinking....'I'm an orphan' which is bizzarre when you think about it, but it's true - you never stop being a child until your last parent passes away
I know I'm in danger of being slated for being self indulgent here, but I do miss the old beggar, he was a constant, when all around me was going tits up, the wisdom of jack hargreaves, but without the beard and pipe, I remember he once took a knackered upright hoover, took it to bits, and within a couple of hours had turned the motor into a grinding stone for his shears, blades, a frustrated engineer to the end!!!
He was always there for me, never judged (although told me off now and then)and was the one I would always look to for guidance
There is an old irish saying....Never trust a man who never takes a drink - that's true, with the exception of my Dad...
I miss him, but I suppose he already knows that!!
the top and bottom of it all is that the year has flown by quicker that I could have caught it!!!!
A year ago today, my Dad passed away, and for anyone who has lost one (or in my case, both) parent, the 1st anniversary is always a bugger. Before anyone asks, I'm not looking for a shoulder to cry on...
Mum died in 1996, but after I rweturned to work after Dad's funeral, I remember saying to one of the ladies at work without thinking....'I'm an orphan' which is bizzarre when you think about it, but it's true - you never stop being a child until your last parent passes away
I know I'm in danger of being slated for being self indulgent here, but I do miss the old beggar, he was a constant, when all around me was going tits up, the wisdom of jack hargreaves, but without the beard and pipe, I remember he once took a knackered upright hoover, took it to bits, and within a couple of hours had turned the motor into a grinding stone for his shears, blades, a frustrated engineer to the end!!!
He was always there for me, never judged (although told me off now and then)and was the one I would always look to for guidance
There is an old irish saying....Never trust a man who never takes a drink - that's true, with the exception of my Dad...
I miss him, but I suppose he already knows that!!
the top and bottom of it all is that the year has flown by quicker that I could have caught it!!!!
I know how it feels to lose the father figure.
I miss my dad so much. I lost mine when I was about 12 and now I'm 21. Most of my 'rememberable' life is without him. I just wish I had more time to do all those dad things like working on cars and motorbikes together and just doing dad and lad things
I can't imagine what it would be like to lose my mother too. I think I'd now be old enough and independent enough to go ahead as before, but in reality I think I would be distraught. I just feel desperately sorry for all those children who lost their parents at a young age. It must be the most awful thing imaginable to grow up without a parent to share your life with.
I miss my dad so much. I lost mine when I was about 12 and now I'm 21. Most of my 'rememberable' life is without him. I just wish I had more time to do all those dad things like working on cars and motorbikes together and just doing dad and lad things
I can't imagine what it would be like to lose my mother too. I think I'd now be old enough and independent enough to go ahead as before, but in reality I think I would be distraught. I just feel desperately sorry for all those children who lost their parents at a young age. It must be the most awful thing imaginable to grow up without a parent to share your life with.
Edited by Shay HTFC on Friday 8th August 22:46
Ah, but they're always there inside you, aren't they? You say something and think he/she would've said that. Or you do something embarassing and realize it's what she/he would have done. We all turn into our parents, however much we try not to. Focus on the good memories, and imagine what you'd be talking about if they were sitting next to you now. They'll never be completely gone...
I was orphaned last year just before my 40th birthday. dad went fifteen years ago and mum followed last March. You are dead right about the orphaned comment, hit me like a train, and that is the point at which your childhood ends.
All I feel is empathy, not sympathy. Empathy is more usefull than sympathy every time IMHO
All I feel is empathy, not sympathy. Empathy is more usefull than sympathy every time IMHO
My Dad died when I was 13 and he was only 39. Still miss him each and every day. Was at boarding school when he died but I've made contact with his best mate who was with him when he finally passed away. He told me of the chat they had about an hour before he died so I have some idea of his last moments and from what he said I cant imagine the torture he must've endured.
Chin up...it really does get better.
Chin up...it really does get better.
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