School Bully
Author
Discussion

g3rrd

Original Poster:

682 posts

218 months

Saturday 18th October 2008
quotequote all
I can not believe this is allowed to happen.

Grandaughter starts Secondary school and endures her first year being bullied by your stereotypical bully.
Complain to the school and SFA happens so we enrol her into another school. Luckily she loves the new school,
loads of mates and doing really well.

Now it turns out the original bully at the previous school is being bullied herself and guess what?
She has left the school and due to start at grandaughters school... FFS

arryb

11,333 posts

232 months

Saturday 18th October 2008
quotequote all
Sometimes bullys only bully because they are being bullied themselves and need to feel better about themselves by passing it on - if said bully isn't being bullied anymore then it may stop - if not, hope the new school has the ability to sort it....I wouldn't be too worried about it for now!

nats1rt

228 posts

229 months

Saturday 18th October 2008
quotequote all
Disagree, kids are evil little feckers, some grow up and some don't.

anonymous-user

84 months

Saturday 18th October 2008
quotequote all
Females are the most spiteful by far, i shudder to think these days, with text abuse etc. I was bullied for a while in secondary school cos i used to pick my nose occasionally, it was just jealousy looking back now, used to be in the footy team, rounders team, held the school record for throwing a cricket ball farthest.

Got so bad my parents wanted to take me out of the school and was a terrible experience. One day i got beaten up (hit a coupla times) by 3 of these lads and went home in tears, wouldn't get out of bed, my elder brother heard about it and rather than go after them, he dragged me out of bed and beat the crap out of me in the garden, then hugged me and said "that's the worst you'll get so tomorrow find the ring leader and do the same to him"

And i did went straight up to the so called hero when he was on his own and kicked the st out of him - got expelled for it but hey ho LOL! life lesson learned smile

Edited by anonymous-user on Saturday 18th October 20:05


Edited twice due to Carlsberg Export.

Edited by anonymous-user on Saturday 18th October 20:06

haggy

1,955 posts

244 months

Saturday 18th October 2008
quotequote all
digimeistter said:
Females are the most spiteful by far, i shudder to think these days, with text abuse etc. I was bullied for a while in secondary school cos i used to pick my nose occasionally, it was just jealousy looking back now, used to be in the footy team, rounders team, held the school record for throwing a cricket ball farthest.

Got so bad my parents wanted to take me out of the school and was a terrible experience. One day i got beaten up (hit a coupla times) by 3 of these lads and went home in tears, wouldn't get out of bed, my elder brother heard about it and rather than go after them, he dragged me out of bed and beat the crap out of me in the garden, then hugged me and said "that's the worst you'll get so tomorrow find the ring leader and do the same to him"

And i did went straight up to the so called hero when he was on his own and kicked the st out of him - got expelled for it but hey ho LOL! life lesson learned smile

Edited by digimeistter on Saturday 18th October 20:05


Edited twice due to Carlsberg Export.

Edited by digimeistter on Saturday 18th October 20:06
Jealous of you picking your nose? laugh

robm3

4,930 posts

257 months

Saturday 18th October 2008
quotequote all
g3rrd said:
I can not believe this is allowed to happen.

Grandaughter starts Secondary school and endures her first year being bullied by your stereotypical bully.
Complain to the school and SFA happens so we enrol her into another school. Luckily she loves the new school,
loads of mates and doing really well.

Now it turns out the original bully at the previous school is being bullied herself and guess what?
She has left the school and due to start at grandaughters school... FFS
I reckon work on building that group of friends that your daughter has e.g. throw some parties at home, sleepovers, day trips etc.. Once they are really tight together it's harder for one of them to be bullied including your daughter.

My little girl's a redhead and we're preparing already for the trouble she'll get at primary/high and these are the steps we'll be taking.

Good luck

Daschund

374 posts

222 months

Saturday 18th October 2008
quotequote all
When I was young, many moons ago, I too was bullied at school.

Anyway, all ended when I decided "enough was enough" and walked up to him one breaktime in the dinnerhall and socked him square in the mouth. I got a standing ovation from the dinnerhall.

Thing is, bullies are small people. They think they're so cool and people like them, but in reality most people hate them and only tolerate them out of fear. Mainly.


John D.

21,065 posts

239 months

Saturday 18th October 2008
quotequote all
haggy said:
digimeistter said:
Females are the most spiteful by far, i shudder to think these days, with text abuse etc. I was bullied for a while in secondary school cos i used to pick my nose occasionally, it was just jealousy looking back now, used to be in the footy team, rounders team, held the school record for throwing a cricket ball farthest.

Got so bad my parents wanted to take me out of the school and was a terrible experience. One day i got beaten up (hit a coupla times) by 3 of these lads and went home in tears, wouldn't get out of bed, my elder brother heard about it and rather than go after them, he dragged me out of bed and beat the crap out of me in the garden, then hugged me and said "that's the worst you'll get so tomorrow find the ring leader and do the same to him"

And i did went straight up to the so called hero when he was on his own and kicked the st out of him - got expelled for it but hey ho LOL! life lesson learned smile

Edited by digimeistter on Saturday 18th October 20:05


Edited twice due to Carlsberg Export.

Edited by digimeistter on Saturday 18th October 20:06
Jealous of you picking your nose? laugh
Thats how I read it too! laugh

Interesting tactic by the brother.

Hell27

1,564 posts

221 months

Saturday 18th October 2008
quotequote all
g3rrd said:
I can not believe this is allowed to happen.

Grandaughter starts Secondary school and endures her first year being bullied by your stereotypical bully.
Complain to the school and SFA happens so we enrol her into another school. Luckily she loves the new school,
loads of mates and doing really well.

Now it turns out the original bully at the previous school is being bullied herself and guess what?
She has left the school and due to start at grandaughters school... FFS
Out of interest mate, you tried naming and shaming said school on various current affairs forums? Might provoke some +ve response?

beanbag

7,346 posts

271 months

Saturday 18th October 2008
quotequote all
digimeistter said:
Females are the most spiteful by far, i shudder to think these days, with text abuse etc. I was bullied for a while in secondary school cos i used to pick my nose occasionally, it was just jealousy looking back now, used to be in the footy team, rounders team, held the school record for throwing a cricket ball farthest.

Got so bad my parents wanted to take me out of the school and was a terrible experience. One day i got beaten up (hit a coupla times) by 3 of these lads and went home in tears, wouldn't get out of bed, my elder brother heard about it and rather than go after them, he dragged me out of bed and beat the crap out of me in the garden, then hugged me and said "that's the worst you'll get so tomorrow find the ring leader and do the same to him"

And i did went straight up to the so called hero when he was on his own and kicked the st out of him - got expelled for it but hey ho LOL! life lesson learned smile

Edited by digimeistter on Saturday 18th October 20:05


Edited twice due to Carlsberg Export.

Edited by digimeistter on Saturday 18th October 20:06
Haha! I totally empathise with you!

I absolutely detest my old secondary school. I hating the place and its sounds more of a st hole than ever these days. Going to uni was magic and I loved every second of it.

I had some serious problems with bullies at that school, especially so as I was "different" for coming in the 2nd year (year 8), and as such I stood out like a sore thumb as my pillock form tutor declared to all that I'd just arrived from "a private school in Spain", and asked everyone to help me settle in. He might have well have just said, "beat the st out of him".

I endured it for a couple of years until my old man (who grew up in Glasgow), told me to be a man give back ten fold what I received.....which worked, even on the chaps twice my size.....until I ended up lashing out for anything and then I got suspended from school for a week.

Ah, well. Such is life. You live and learn..... hehe


jas xjr

11,309 posts

269 months

Saturday 18th October 2008
quotequote all
i was sort of bullied but it could not have been too bad, did not stop me from enjoying school.

strange thing karma the guy that used to bully me had his head blown off with a shotgun

Pony

927 posts

250 months

Saturday 18th October 2008
quotequote all
John D. said:
haggy said:
digimeistter said:
Females are the most spiteful by far, i shudder to think these days, with text abuse etc. I was bullied for a while in secondary school cos i used to pick my nose occasionally, it was just jealousy looking back now, used to be in the footy team, rounders team, held the school record for throwing a cricket ball farthest.

Got so bad my parents wanted to take me out of the school and was a terrible experience. One day i got beaten up (hit a coupla times) by 3 of these lads and went home in tears, wouldn't get out of bed, my elder brother heard about it and rather than go after them, he dragged me out of bed and beat the crap out of me in the garden, then hugged me and said "that's the worst you'll get so tomorrow find the ring leader and do the same to him"

And i did went straight up to the so called hero when he was on his own and kicked the st out of him - got expelled for it but hey ho LOL! life lesson learned smile

Edited by digimeistter on Saturday 18th October 20:05


Edited twice due to Carlsberg Export.

Edited by digimeistter on Saturday 18th October 20:06
Jealous of you picking your nose? laugh
Thats how I read it too! laugh

Interesting tactic by the brother.
brilliant tactic by the brother. damn i wish i had someone like that to help me deal with the st i got at school. fighting back and not taking st was a lesson i learned way too late

Stigmundfreud

22,454 posts

240 months

Saturday 18th October 2008
quotequote all
g3rrd said:
I can not believe this is allowed to happen.

Grandaughter starts Secondary school and endures her first year being bullied by your stereotypical bully.
Complain to the school and SFA happens so we enrol her into another school. Luckily she loves the new school,
loads of mates and doing really well.

Now it turns out the original bully at the previous school is being bullied herself and guess what?
She has left the school and due to start at grandaughters school... FFS
left a job to escape a stty boss. Started new job only to fnd said ex boss had just joined in my department

hopefully now your grandaughter has the upper hand and can bully her old bully, its the only way they learn

colonel c

8,054 posts

269 months

Saturday 18th October 2008
quotequote all
digimeistter said:
i used to pick my nose occasionally, it was just jealousy looking back now, held the school record for throwing a cricket ball farthest.
I guess no-one wanted to catch it.

JohnP68

426 posts

312 months

Saturday 18th October 2008
quotequote all
bet he was rubbish at golf though, too many bogeys

Edited by JohnP68 on Saturday 18th October 22:28

g3rrd

Original Poster:

682 posts

218 months

Saturday 18th October 2008
quotequote all
Cheers for the feedback fella's. The grandaughter has a strong group of friends around her who all know why she had to change schools, so fingers crossed she has the upper hand. The previous constant threats in class, playground, canteen and more disturbingly on line via chat rooms, can at least now be witnessed by her friends and hopefully through the right channels acted upon.

Gone are the days when you could simply stand and fight your ground, I was the fat kid who fought my way through all my schooling, did me the world of good. Kids nowadays, and their pikey litigious <sp> mums, dad is long gone, would not hesitate to call the police.

Naming and shaming the school? Little point really, by the time any impact, if any, happened the little cow would already be in the school. Other half and her daughter are due to visit the Headmaster on Monday, fingers crossed.

There is a supposed magical stream in Runcorn, anybody know the patron saint of medicinal streams? ;-)

catso

16,483 posts

297 months

Sunday 19th October 2008
quotequote all
Be careful with the retaliation because in our experience the 'professional' bullies seem to be able to get away with it by being sneaky & sly. My eldest son got picked on at school because he was a 'newcomer' by a group of lads (yokels) but he wanted to make friends so didn't do much about it initially, the school were pretty hopeless at sorting it out.

I told him that if it happened again to hit them, hit them hard and keep hitting them until they were completely overwhelmed, so he did - out of school he had a go at 2 of them (in self defence, to be fair), gave both big shiny black eyes but one of the little feckers got his Mother to go to the Police station to report it.

We had a Police officer come round to warn him, although the Cop was clearly sympathetic and commented on the lad that had reported it being 'known' to them but because my son had committed the 'offence' he was told to write a letter of apology to said scrote (but he did get a picture of the injuries, courtesy of Mr Plod).

It seems that if you 'Honestly' stand up for yourself you get in trouble whilst the sly feckers generally get away with it but on the plus side the scrotes learned their lesson as they've not bothered him again.