Cash rich - time poor

[Grand Fromage]

I can't help feeling more and more that as I spend more time at work either here in the office or on the estate that my children are seeing less and less of me and therefore I feel guilty. I know I pay for my sons karting and my daughters trips to Norwich and everything but I sometimes feel they have expensive presents to stop me feeling this way. Anyone have any ways of dealing with this or am I just being stupid?

[digger_R]

Well, you can give me the cash then it wouldn't feel like you're living your life just for the money. If you're not willing to give me the cash then you are living just for the money and could maybe take a look at your priorities in life.
I doubt you will ever get to old age and say, I really regret not spending more time in the office.

Drop me a pm/email and I can send you my payment details.

[Jon C]

Grand Fromage said:

I can't help feeling more and more that as I spend more time at work either here in the office or on the estate that my children are seeing less and less of me and therefore I feel guilty. I know I pay for my sons karting and my daughters trips to Norwich and everything but I sometimes feel they have expensive presents to stop me feeling this way. Anyone have any ways of dealing with this or am I just being stupid?

Life is a stter sometimes, 'aint it?

[sprint355]

I suggest you make a life choice before it is forced on you. sprint355

[Mark-C]

Grand Fromage said:

I can't help feeling more and more that as I spend more time at work either here in the office or on the estate that my children are seeing less and less of me and therefore I feel guilty. I know I pay for my sons karting and my daughters trips to Norwich and everything but I sometimes feel they have expensive presents to stop me feeling this way. Anyone have any ways of dealing with this or am I just being stupid?

Don't know what your job is ... but since it's office based can't you do some of it from home? It's a good 13/14 years since I had similar thoughts after missing my eldest's nativity play and I spoke to my bosses (at a well known Norwich Insurance company) and got an agreement to do some of my work from home. I started doing the afternoon school pick-up and visits to parks and then more work after the kids went to bed. Made a huge difference!

Edited by Mark-C on Wednesday 5th November 21:59

[Caruso]

I remember always wanting to see more of my dad rather than getting bigger or better presents. If you are feeling you are missing out, then I would hazard a guess that they are feeling it even more?

[Baby Huey]

Plenty of people are cash poor and time poor, count yourself lucky.

[LotusACBC]

Come on, be honest, you just wanted to use that catchy title didnt you?

[Simpo Two]

Cash poor, time rich here - maybe we can reach an equilibrium?

IE give me some stuff to do in exchange for money

[tomTVR]

Baby Huey said:

Plenty of people are cash poor and time poor, count yourself lucky.

Thats what i though.

[_DeeJay_]

Mark-C said:

Grand Fromage said:

I can't help feeling more and more that as I spend more time at work either here in the office or on the estate that my children are seeing less and less of me and therefore I feel guilty. I know I pay for my sons karting and my daughters trips to Norwich and everything but I sometimes feel they have expensive presents to stop me feeling this way. Anyone have any ways of dealing with this or am I just being stupid?

Don't know what your job is ... but since it's office based can't you do some of it from home? It's a good 13/14 years since I had similar thoughts after missing my eldest's nativity play and I spoke to my bosses (at a well known Norwich Insurance company) and got an agreement to do some of my work from home. I started doing the afternoon school pick-up and visits to parks and then more work after the kids went to bed. Made a huge difference!

Edited by Mark-C on Wednesday 5th November 21:59

I suppose it depends on his job; NU were always were life/balance focused - obviously before they outsourced everything to India!

[Jasandjules]

So, as above, have a word with your bosses. Take a few extra non-paid half days here and there to take your kids to places rather than simply paying for them.

[steven182]

hmm my dad works pretty long hours at the moment but me and my brothers are fairly old so it doesn't affect us at the moment, but when we were younger ages 7-12 my dad had a job that required him to be away from home 5 days a week ever few weeks and to be honest it did have quite a major impact on the family in a whole. Mother getting stressed out us wanting to see our dad but couldn't so he left that job for something that didn't require so much travel.

If you are feeling like you are spending to much time at the office and the kids need you more then I would say be with the kids but ofc life is not that simple is it.

[kambites]

I've always avoided working more than about 40 hours a week. I don't care how much people get paid to work silly hours, I'd only do it for a very short period of time if it meant I could retire afterwards.

[hunt_the_fox]

Life's not a dress rehearsal. Why do you work so hard? To retire to a big house and then spend your whole retirement wishing you'd seen your kids grow up?

Work is only as busy as you make it, refuse tasks, talk to bosses, if you are the boss delegate more. You are probably creating problems for yourself.

[DJC]

Grand Fromage said:

I can't help feeling more and more that as I spend more time at work either here in the office or on the estate that my children are seeing less and less of me and therefore I feel guilty. I know I pay for my sons karting and my daughters trips to Norwich and everything but I sometimes feel they have expensive presents to stop me feeling this way. Anyone have any ways of dealing with this or am I just being stupid?

Id be feeling both guilty and stupid if I kept sending my daughter to Norwich!

[FWDRacer]

You sound like an overblown ar$e. I bet your kids are thankful they don't see too much of you

[M005]

As someone said on the 'Best advice you've ever been given thread', no one ever said on their death bed that they wish they had spent more time in the office, but I'll bet there are those that have said they wished they had spent more time with their family.

Your choice.

[cymtriks]

M005 said:

As someone said on the 'Best advice you've ever been given thread', no one ever said on their death bed that they wish they had spent more time in the office, but I'll bet there are those that have said they wished they had spent more time with their family.

Your choice.

Not true.

In most cases the big thing that stops most people from doing what they want is money.

A lot of people probably do end up wishing that they'd had enough money to do the things they dreamed of doing. In many cases that equates to more time at the office to actually earn it.

If your ambitions in life, and the things you might regret not doing, are along the lines of going for walks in the park or painting watercolours or owning a dog then not a lot of money is necessary and less time in the office might be the correct thing to do.

But get this, most of us have dreams that actually require some funds to achieve. And barring bank robbery or benefit fraud that means that somewhere along the line more hours in the office are essential.

Right now the only thing that is stopping me from doing all the things I'd like to do is lack of funds and if my employer offered me more money in return for more hours in the office then I'd bite their arm off.

Some dreams have to be paid for unfortunately.

[Egbert Nobacon]

Your lucky , many workers in this country are soon going to be cash poor and time rich - I am quite sure they'll swap places with you.