Being A God Parent
Discussion
I have been asked by my best mate to become his daughter Hailie's God Father in March. What is required of me?
Am I meant to be a father figure if the worst should happen to both parents, expected to buy presents at birthdays and Christmas and swear by the holy bible in church that I will commit no sins and show guidance?
Strewth, I am so Naive.
Am I meant to be a father figure if the worst should happen to both parents, expected to buy presents at birthdays and Christmas and swear by the holy bible in church that I will commit no sins and show guidance?
Strewth, I am so Naive.
My son has five God parents -
one is great, sees him every week, will always be there for him,
another sees him every few weeks, but will be there for him when hes alot older,
another lives 100s of miles away, but makes the effort to see him,
another lives an hour away but rarely sees him as shes got a baby,
and the final one turned out to be a junkie scrote (never knew the other side to him) so will have to crawl over broken glass before he gets anywhere near my boy.
I think the key thing is for a Godparent to be someone the child can turn to for an independent opinion, not to take sides and to be honest and supportive, and to be the cool one when parents are boring, uncool etc.
Moral of the story - dont bank on Godparents making any special effort. Some will, they are the good ones, most wont. I havent seen mine in ??years as they were friends of my parents and have moved away.
one is great, sees him every week, will always be there for him,
another sees him every few weeks, but will be there for him when hes alot older,
another lives 100s of miles away, but makes the effort to see him,
another lives an hour away but rarely sees him as shes got a baby,
and the final one turned out to be a junkie scrote (never knew the other side to him) so will have to crawl over broken glass before he gets anywhere near my boy.
I think the key thing is for a Godparent to be someone the child can turn to for an independent opinion, not to take sides and to be honest and supportive, and to be the cool one when parents are boring, uncool etc.
Moral of the story - dont bank on Godparents making any special effort. Some will, they are the good ones, most wont. I havent seen mine in ??years as they were friends of my parents and have moved away.
Edited by gti tim on Monday 2nd February 18:06
I have 13 God children.
The whole religion thing is what it used to be about, but for me it is more to be a good role model to the kids. Also be the good one compared to the Parents.
A key thing I have taught all my god children is how when they have messy hands they should rub them in their hair.
The whole religion thing is what it used to be about, but for me it is more to be a good role model to the kids. Also be the good one compared to the Parents.
A key thing I have taught all my god children is how when they have messy hands they should rub them in their hair.
Not sure what the exact requirements are as I'm not the God bothering type. I see the role though as one of being able to offer advice and guidance and to generally make sure that he knows that there is someone who cares about him outside of his mum and dad. Someone who can see the world through their eyes but who he can talk to about things he might not feel he can talk to them about.
Other than that just make sure you remember Birthdays and Christmas.
I have 3 Godfathers and the only one who I really think about (as in how's he doing, is there anything I can help him with and how much I appreciated his gestures as I grew up) is the one who made the effort to pop over for my birthday and at Christmas 99% of the time. Nothing to do with the presents (which were nice!) but knowing that there was someone who actually took an interest in me outside the family.
Other than that just make sure you remember Birthdays and Christmas.
I have 3 Godfathers and the only one who I really think about (as in how's he doing, is there anything I can help him with and how much I appreciated his gestures as I grew up) is the one who made the effort to pop over for my birthday and at Christmas 99% of the time. Nothing to do with the presents (which were nice!) but knowing that there was someone who actually took an interest in me outside the family.
Sciroccology said:
Eric Mc said:
I think believing in God would be a basic requirement of the post.
Indeed, which is exactly why I declined my sister's offer when her first born was born.Hmm. I hope my sister doesn't ask me then, shes due in 6 weeks. Don't think either of them are religious.
Eric Mc said:
I think believing in God would be a basic requirement of the post.
The true meaning maybe, especially as it was to assist the parents in the moral and spiritual upbringing of the child.In the real modern world it has, imo, taken on a much wider role, more relevant to today than when everyone blindly believed in what they were told every Sunday.
If they are not believers, then it would be rather odd of them to ask someone to look after their child's spiritual welfare (seeing as they aren't going to be carrying out that task).
Of course, we all know that people do these things, not because they truly believe in the notion of God or religion, but because they feel it is "the thing to do" - like getting married in church, or having their child Christened.
I think that is all rather hypocritical to be honest.
Of course, we all know that people do these things, not because they truly believe in the notion of God or religion, but because they feel it is "the thing to do" - like getting married in church, or having their child Christened.
I think that is all rather hypocritical to be honest.
Sciroccology said:
Eric Mc said:
I think believing in God would be a basic requirement of the post.
Indeed, which is exactly why I declined my sister's offer when her first born was born.Not sure if there is a secular equivalent?
BoRED S2upid said:
Sciroccology said:
Eric Mc said:
I think believing in God would be a basic requirement of the post.
Indeed, which is exactly why I declined my sister's offer when her first born was born.Hmm. I hope my sister doesn't ask me then, shes due in 6 weeks. Don't think either of them are religious.
That's when World War 3 broke out.
Sciroccology said:
BoRED S2upid said:
Sciroccology said:
Eric Mc said:
I think believing in God would be a basic requirement of the post.
Indeed, which is exactly why I declined my sister's offer when her first born was born.Hmm. I hope my sister doesn't ask me then, shes due in 6 weeks. Don't think either of them are religious.
That's when World War 3 broke out.
I think it is just like getting married in a church these days. It has nothing to do with God but all about the dressing up and wanting a church wedding as part of the ceremony.
In a parish church you dont need to attend the church to get married although I do know people who have had to join the church for the weeks running up to the big day then never look at it again.
Should change the name to supportparent and give God a bye
In a parish church you dont need to attend the church to get married although I do know people who have had to join the church for the weeks running up to the big day then never look at it again.
Should change the name to supportparent and give God a bye
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