Finding out the sex of your kids before they're born?

[Asterix]

Yae or Nae?

I wouldn't want to but the missus does so she can plan.

Thoughts please.

[ascayman]

had this very same argument. mrs wanted to know i didnt.

we came to the conclusion i was right. if you ask her now she'll tell you its the best decision i have ever made.

if you can talk her into not finding out, it will make the best day in your life just that little bit more special imho.

[stumpage]

There are not many genuine surprises in life so why ruin one. It was a great moment when out popped baby Stumpage and I saw what she was for the first time. As for planning most newborn stuff is white anyway.

However it is a very personal decision so do what it right for you.

[ALawson]

Wait until the day, and congratulations!

Are you having it in the UAE?

Edited by ALawson on Wednesday 11th February 16:46

[G'kar]

It's still a surprise, you just receive it earlier.

[Plotloss]

Depending on where you are in the UK some trusts will not disclose the gender.

[RicksAlfas]

I wanted to as I don't like surprises!
Mrs agreed - eventually.


It does help with the planning, but remember it's not 100% accurate - so there really could be a surprise!

[G'kar]

Plotloss said:

Depending on where you are in the UK some trusts will not disclose the gender.

Quick Commissioner Gordon, fire up the soovy and tonks signal!

[The Curn]

Find out as soon as possible.

Makes choosing a name easier.

We dis and no regrets. Not sure how it makes the planning any esier though as some have suggested.

Only benefit was that we could get her registered into a school before she was actually born thus jumping the queue somewhat.

[Firkin D]

Didn't with my first as per my husbands wishes. But did on the second. Helped me start thinking of the child as a real person as he had already had a name chosen and bond.

[philip979]

We decided to. Without any need for discussion actually, which is rare!

For me, it was one certainty in a time of great uncertainty!

Besides, as "he" was already 12 weeks or so in gestation his sex was already determined so I felt the urge to know.

I can fully understand anyone who doesn't want to know - perhaps next time under different circumstances I'll choose not to!

IIRC two family memebers (one on each side) didn't want to know - it was a difficult "secret" to keep! Especially when the OHs father refered to him as "he"!

[Puggit]

Plotloss said:

Depending on where you are in the UK some trusts will not disclose the gender.

Well if you will live in Slough...

[Si 330]

Our first two boys we waited until the big day. Number 3 which was born last Friday we found out at scan time. I think it has made this pregnancy more exciting getting things sorted as we new it was a boy, name sorted, room sorted. Although the main reason we found out was for the sake of our 2 sons as they were adamant they didn't want a sister we figured if we new it was a girl we had time to get the boys on side. Luckily it was another boy, GET IN THERE!!!!!!!!

[whirligig]

First time we were told - second time round the policy had changed and they wouldn't tell us, and I admit the surprise element was great. Third time round because we had one of each I really wanted to know as I didn't care either way and it was much easier to prepare and because we had moved to a different health authority they were fine about telling us.

[speed8]

I didn't want to know but the missus did. In the end she was at the 2nd scan herself, while I was at work, and asked but they couldn't tell.

Leave it as a surprise.

[Puggit]

I'm glad we did.

Because otherwise Justin Riley Joshua Owen would still be waiting for his name.

[Sheets Tabuer]

They won't tell you around here, the injuns stick knitting needles in the girls.

[Coco H]

With no 1 I wanted a real suprise and he was that - we both nearly pegged it at 32 weeks! He was very poorly and I found it hard to bond with a baby I couldn't pick up for several days and when I finally did he got so distressed that they had to dramatically increase oxgyen etc

With no2 - I decided to find out when we were having twice weekly scans (from 27 weeks ish). We knew the baby would have a better chance statistically if a girl. And it was. And I could plan which was good as she was another premmie.

[The Curn]

Sheets Tabuer said:

They won't tell you around here, the injuns stick knitting needles in the girls.

That is so fked up.

[Dogwatch]

We didn't have the option when my two popped out, scans were few and far between so no-one knew.

Seems to me that it should be the parents' choice as to whether they want know or not, not some overpaid NHS bureaucrat handing down decisions from on high.