Ex wives and maintenance

[clonmult]

Shouldn't really post when wound up, but ....

Just had a chat to the ex wife about my maintenance payments (I'm paying half the mortgage plus 15% of my take home). Upon my wanting to reduce the payments due to moving in with my partner, she dropped a bombshell - she's been informed that she can claim against our combined incomes!!!!

Sounds highly unlikely, but thats apparently the legal advice she's been given.

FFS. Ex wives. May they rot in hell ....

[Shaw Tarse]

Shut up & bend over!

[G'kar]

She cannot actually claim against your combined incomes.

However, if you cohabit she may be able to make the case your living costs are lower and therefore you can afford more for her 'needs'.

[Sheepy]

Any kids involved?

[wolf1]

How many kids?

[clonmult]

G'kar said:

She cannot actually claim against your combined incomes.

However, if you cohabit she may be able to make the case your living costs are lower and therefore you can afford more for her 'needs'.

If only that were the truth. I'm currently paying rent on a room (£370 pm), and as my other half will lose virtually all of the benefits she's been on (low income, single mother, etc.), I'm having to pick up the slack on that - so my outgoings will jump up a fair bit.

And as for bending over, thats what the blasted divorce felt like ....

[clonmult]

wolf1 said:

How many kids?

I've got one with the ex wife, one with the partner that I'm intending to move in with.

[wolf1]

Use this link to work out how much the csa expect you to pay and then you will have something to work from. https://secureonline.dwp.gov.uk/csa/v2/en/calculat...
Add up the mortgage and other payments and if you are paying over the odds then you can negotiate with your ex.

[sleep envy]

does anyone else read these threads and think to themselves is it really worth getting married and having kids?

[Adrian W]

clonmult said:

Shouldn't really post when wound up, but ....

Just had a chat to the ex wife about my maintenance payments (I'm paying half the mortgage plus 15% of my take home). Upon my wanting to reduce the payments due to moving in with my partner, she dropped a bombshell - she's been informed that she can claim against our combined incomes!!!!

Sounds highly unlikely, but thats apparently the legal advice she's been given.

FFS. Ex wives. May they rot in hell ....

I got one of those, i will never understand how I effectively pay more for my kids after we split than before, this has always baffled me.

Why are you paying the mortgage?

[MaxAndRuby]

sleep envy said:

does anyone else read these threads and think to themselves is it really worth getting married and having kids?

Done both, and it is worth it.

Just never, EVER get divorced. That's the secret.

[cottonfoo]

sleep envy said:

does anyone else read these threads and think to themselves is it really worth getting married and having kids?

Yes

[clonmult]

wolf1 said:

Use this link to work out how much the csa expect you to pay and then you will have something to work from. https://secureonline.dwp.gov.uk/csa/v2/en/calculat...
Add up the mortgage and other payments and if you are paying over the odds then you can negotiate with your ex.

Ta for that - gone through it and my payments should (according to that site) drop from the currently paid 15% to 12%. Not a lot, but every little counts.

Will have to send those details her way.

War has commenced ....

[GreenDog]

clonmult said:

Shouldn't really post when wound up, but ....

Just had a chat to the ex wife about my maintenance payments (I'm paying half the mortgage plus 15% of my take home). Upon my wanting to reduce the payments due to moving in with my partner, she dropped a bombshell - she's been informed that she can claim against our combined incomes!!!!

Sounds highly unlikely, but thats apparently the legal advice she's been given.

FFS. Ex wives. May they rot in hell ....

When I was getting divorced my ex said she'd had legal advice saying that she could claim maintenance from me. This despite us having no children and her being in reasonably paid employment. My solicitor laughed when I told her.

[OllieC]

cottonfoo said:

sleep envy said:

does anyone else read these threads and think to themselves is it really worth getting married and having kids?

Yes

not a chance

still my personality protects me from such outcomes

[CrashTD]

OllieC said:

not a chance

my personality deludes me from the eminent robbery thats bound to happen in around 2015

efa

[LotusACBC]

You know Murphys Law, Whatever can go wrong, will go wrong? Well in the ex wife/lawyer battles its more modern, like this" Whatever they can fit up your arse, they WILL!

I'll kill her for 10 grand... yes/no?

LOl

[Oakey]

GreenDog said:

clonmult said:

Shouldn't really post when wound up, but ....

Just had a chat to the ex wife about my maintenance payments (I'm paying half the mortgage plus 15% of my take home). Upon my wanting to reduce the payments due to moving in with my partner, she dropped a bombshell - she's been informed that she can claim against our combined incomes!!!!

Sounds highly unlikely, but thats apparently the legal advice she's been given.

FFS. Ex wives. May they rot in hell ....

When I was getting divorced my ex said she'd had legal advice saying that she could claim maintenance from me. This despite us having no children and her being in reasonably paid employment. My solicitor laughed when I told her.

you have to wonder exactly what goes through their head when they think they're entitled to your money AFTER you've split up.

[Cotty]

sleep envy said:

does anyone else read these threads and think to themselves is it really worth getting married and having kids?

Yep

The joke "Im going to find a woman I don't like and give her my house" is almost to close to the truth to be funny.

[OllieC]

CrashTD said:

OllieC said:

not a chance

my personality deludes me from the eminent robbery thats bound to happen in around 2015

efa