Aggression - just *when* will noise turn to fisticuffs

Aggression - just *when* will noise turn to fisticuffs

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Pupp

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Thursday 12th March 2009
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Have a slight difficulty with a local at present who is peeved at me for reasons that are not that interesting. He is not especially receptive to rational discussion (or views that don't accord with his), shouts, becomes abusive and gets red in the clock, all in all portraying an air of impending violence. Having seen this act pretty frequently over the last few years, I'm inclined to think it's just piss and wind. Any views on where the line might be?

TheEnd

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203 months

Thursday 12th March 2009
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not that interesting eh?

EDLT

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221 months

Thursday 12th March 2009
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Not interesting because it was your fault?

TotalControl

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213 months

Thursday 12th March 2009
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Just make sure, if he does blow his top, that you are around cctv at the time. Show your hands in a 'please calm down manner' while saying "I'm gonna kick your head in! You fecking cockmunching, piss drinking, donkey loving arse muncher, show me what the feck you gonna do?"


Then press charges with given evidence.

Pupp

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Thursday 12th March 2009
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TheEnd said:
not that interesting eh?
Seriously. It's dull; and something sortable over a beer inside 20 mins.

Steamer

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228 months

Thursday 12th March 2009
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Pupp said:
I'm inclined to think it's just piss and wind. Any views on where the line might be?
Friday nights when Stella is added to the mix....

Pupp

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Thursday 12th March 2009
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Steamer said:
Pupp said:
I'm inclined to think it's just piss and wind. Any views on where the line might be?
Friday nights when Stella is added to the mix....
Fair suggestion. Dont think he's a huge drinker though

central

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232 months

Thursday 12th March 2009
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Evening Gary.

wink

TheEnd

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Thursday 12th March 2009
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Pupp said:
TheEnd said:
not that interesting eh?
Seriously. It's dull; and something sortable over a beer inside 20 mins.
maybe so, but that extra bit of info helps.

does this guy come up to you every time he sees you? is there something setting him off, is it the same thing that he hates you doing each time that sets him off?

as for when shouting turns to fighting, you'd need to be a ninja, or Derren Brown.

Pupp

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Thursday 12th March 2009
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EDLT said:
Not interesting because it was your fault?
Straight up. Nope
Not interesting because it's mundane and clear cut. He just doesn't acknowledge the realities

eharding

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299 months

Thursday 12th March 2009
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Pupp said:
Have a slight difficulty with a local at present who is peeved at me for reasons that are not that interesting. He is not especially receptive to rational discussion (or views that don't accord with his), shouts, becomes abusive and gets red in the clock, all in all portraying an air of impending violence. Having seen this act pretty frequently over the last few years, I'm inclined to think it's just piss and wind. Any views on where the line might be?
You *are* the Cabinet Secretary, the "local" *is* Gordon Brown, and *I* claim my five pounds.

Ordinary_Chap

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258 months

Thursday 12th March 2009
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TotalControl said:
Just make sure, if he does blow his top, that you are around cctv at the time. Show your hands in a 'please calm down manner' while saying "I'm gonna kick your head in! You fecking cockmunching, piss drinking, donkey loving arse muncher, show me what the feck you gonna do?"


Then press charges with given evidence.
Haha, brilliant!

Pupp

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Thursday 12th March 2009
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TheEnd said:
Pupp said:
TheEnd said:
not that interesting eh?
Seriously. It's dull; and something sortable over a beer inside 20 mins.
maybe so, but that extra bit of info helps.

does this guy come up to you every time he sees you? is there something setting him off, is it the same thing that he hates you doing each time that sets him off?

as for when shouting turns to fighting, you'd need to be a ninja, or Derren Brown.
We have to share certain facilities and this causes friction. He doesn't generally kick off unless there is reason for dialogue. Unfortunately any dialogue is going to be concerning our difference and that makes him angry.

spikeyhead

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212 months

Thursday 12th March 2009
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Don't worry about the noisy ones, its the ones that don't say anything that are most likely to use violence.

Steamer

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228 months

Thursday 12th March 2009
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Pupp said:
Steamer said:
Pupp said:
I'm inclined to think it's just piss and wind. Any views on where the line might be?
Friday nights when Stella is added to the mix....
Fair suggestion. Dont think he's a huge drinker though
I wouldnt worry too much then.

Pissed up big people are a handful - depending on just how much they have had. I remember being headbutted in the jaw after a few pints of scrumpy cider (I'm not a pikey honest!... it was a one-off thing.) and I didnt feel a thing, my eyesite just went a bit fuzzy for a few seconds wobble

...And as long as he's not a narcotics abuser, you'll be fine... just ignore him / start being nice to his wife... depends if you are genuinely interested in how far you can push your luck!

FarleyRusk

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226 months

Thursday 12th March 2009
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Wait until he goes all red in the face and then just smack him. Really just do it. It'll make you feel much better and the shock will help him to get rid of his menacing mannerisms. You'll be doing him a favour really in the long run. yes

Pupp

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Thursday 12th March 2009
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spikeyhead said:
Don't worry about the noisy ones, its the ones that don't say anything that are most likely to use violence.
That is my general experience but this chap really does generate steam. It's pretty impressive

Pupp

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Thursday 12th March 2009
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FarleyRusk said:
Wait until he goes all red in the face and then just smack him. Really just do it. It'll make you feel much better and the shock will help him to get rid of his menacing mannerisms. You'll be doing him a favour really in the long run. yes
Crikey, no. I'm just trying to assess when to run...

Steamer

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Thursday 12th March 2009
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Pupp said:
spikeyhead said:
Don't worry about the noisy ones, its the ones that don't say anything that are most likely to use violence.
That is my general experience but this chap really does generate steam. It's pretty impressive
Sorry getmecoat

trumpet600

3,527 posts

246 months

Thursday 12th March 2009
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Pupp said:
We have to share certain facilities and this causes friction. He doesn't generally kick off unless there is reason for dialogue. Unfortunately any dialogue is going to be concerning our difference and that makes him angry.
Learn to lift the seat up. Your bad aim is obviously giving him reasons to be frustrated.