How to stop wife s nervous braking habit without leading to
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)I'm going through something similar currently. Issues my other half has are being increasingly hesitant, too slow to the extent that at times I feel she actually makes the thing she's worried about (e.g. someone pulling out in front of her) more likely by making it look like she may be letting them out, and just placing the car well on the road.
So, while I am not suggesting I am a driving god I did get her to agree that we should go out for some "lessons". Benefit for me is that she does like driving and is bothered that she's nervous about it and knows shes not good currently (in years past I always worried she was too fast and aggressive for her own good so it's a bit of a volte face).
We went out in her 911 (another benefit I have is that she likes cars and wants to drive them well) and the first thing we did was change seating position, location of hands on the wheel etc and it instantly made a big difference about how comfortable she felt in the car. She'd developed this weird steering technique of letting go with one hand on entering a bend then repositioning that hand. Instant result was the car was unsettled. Forcing proper steering wheel use has helped a lot.
That then has helped with the nervousness and we're getting past that by me sitting there saying things like "KEEP YOUR FOOT ON THE GAS" when someone pulls up to a junction we're about to pass.
It is tricky and she has also agreed to get some pro training (skid pan type stuff, I will go too) and it is a big help that she's keen to be better. If you haven't got acceptance yet that she's not very good then that's the first problem to overcome.
So, while I am not suggesting I am a driving god I did get her to agree that we should go out for some "lessons". Benefit for me is that she does like driving and is bothered that she's nervous about it and knows shes not good currently (in years past I always worried she was too fast and aggressive for her own good so it's a bit of a volte face).
We went out in her 911 (another benefit I have is that she likes cars and wants to drive them well) and the first thing we did was change seating position, location of hands on the wheel etc and it instantly made a big difference about how comfortable she felt in the car. She'd developed this weird steering technique of letting go with one hand on entering a bend then repositioning that hand. Instant result was the car was unsettled. Forcing proper steering wheel use has helped a lot.
That then has helped with the nervousness and we're getting past that by me sitting there saying things like "KEEP YOUR FOOT ON THE GAS" when someone pulls up to a junction we're about to pass.
It is tricky and she has also agreed to get some pro training (skid pan type stuff, I will go too) and it is a big help that she's keen to be better. If you haven't got acceptance yet that she's not very good then that's the first problem to overcome.
I sometimes find myself behind these people - random braking when driving along in a straight line. Nuts.
After a few years driving experience you can spot the "nervous driver" a mile away. Stopping at roundabouts when there's no traffic approaching is a favourite. Braking at the end of a slip-road when what's needed is throttle. It's all there.
After a few years driving experience you can spot the "nervous driver" a mile away. Stopping at roundabouts when there's no traffic approaching is a favourite. Braking at the end of a slip-road when what's needed is throttle. It's all there.
Panamax said:
I sometimes find myself behind these people - random braking when driving along in a straight line. Nuts.
After a few years driving experience you can spot the "nervous driver" a mile away. Stopping at roundabouts when there's no traffic approaching is a favourite. Braking at the end of a slip-road when what's needed is throttle. It's all there.
I'm sure the OP will be grateful for this contribution After a few years driving experience you can spot the "nervous driver" a mile away. Stopping at roundabouts when there's no traffic approaching is a favourite. Braking at the end of a slip-road when what's needed is throttle. It's all there.
I think getting her to verbalise her actions, that is make a running commentary about what she is observing and what she is subsequently doing, or planning to do, may help.
When I am getting close to another vehicle (closer than my 2 or 3 second gap), my wife sometimes says “brake, brake”, i calmly say, “i am off the acceierator and covering the brake pedal, that car will move further away in a second”.
It may help if you doma running comkentary first, or even get some advanced lessons that involve this. This will then show its not your view you are imposing, but another impartial view.
When I am getting close to another vehicle (closer than my 2 or 3 second gap), my wife sometimes says “brake, brake”, i calmly say, “i am off the acceierator and covering the brake pedal, that car will move further away in a second”.
It may help if you doma running comkentary first, or even get some advanced lessons that involve this. This will then show its not your view you are imposing, but another impartial view.
Panamax said:
I sometimes find myself behind these people - random braking when driving along in a straight line. Nuts.
Red Devil said:
Panamax said:
I sometimes find myself behind these people - random braking when driving along in a straight line. Nuts.
Sorry to everyone behind me on the motorway as I like to lift off and get some charge in the battery, mainly on downhill sections.
Pica-Pica said:
I think getting her to verbalise her actions, that is make a running commentary about what she is observing and what she is subsequently doing, or planning to do, may help.
When I am getting close to another vehicle (closer than my 2 or 3 second gap), my wife sometimes says brake, brake , i calmly say, i am off the acceierator and covering the brake pedal, that car will move further away in a second .
It may help if you doma running comkentary first, or even get some advanced lessons that involve this. This will then show its not your view you are imposing, but another impartial view.
I get that all the time,When I am getting close to another vehicle (closer than my 2 or 3 second gap), my wife sometimes says brake, brake , i calmly say, i am off the acceierator and covering the brake pedal, that car will move further away in a second .
It may help if you doma running comkentary first, or even get some advanced lessons that involve this. This will then show its not your view you are imposing, but another impartial view.
another annoying is the shouting in your ear about something I'd already seen. someone randomly yelling for no reason is more likely to cause an accident
brillomaster said:
Youll have to give a clearer example... is it urban, rural or motorway driving? And is it actually dangerous, or do you just not like it?
My suggestion... you do all the driving. Makes it easier. Does she actually like driving?
This. The OPs description doesn't make a lot of sense to me. If it's a late braking problem that's one thing. If it's hovering over the pedal, what does that mean in practice?My suggestion... you do all the driving. Makes it easier. Does she actually like driving?
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